How does your redshirted kid feel now that she/he is older?

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I appreciated that view and teacher commentary.

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Anonymous wrote:The discussion is about how the kids feel? You all are making it about how you feel and justifying your choices by attacking those who do not have the same viewpoint as you. No one is talking about the impact on the kids. Sure, it may make academics easier. Easier is not always better. For the parent whose 8th grader struggled that makes sense if they got tutors and provided lots of support as things really start to ramp up. But, for a child doing well in school, with no academic issues or on the advanced track, how do they, not you feel about it? Do you stop and think about the other long term impacts? If a school, mainly privates don’t offer accelerated math, what if your kid needs it if they are older and more advanced or younger and more advanced? What if they don’t start algebra until 8th or 9th and your child wants it and can handle it younger? What about the opportunities after calculus and what does the school offer? That was what we faced looking at privates in middle school. For an average kid those things will not matter but for a smarter kid it may.

This is all about your feelings, ironically.

The only people attacking here are the crazed anti-redshirters Jeff had to ban.

Lady, you have been camped in this thread since its beginning and you are as fanatical about redshirting as some are about treating cutoffs as absolute. Redshirting has obvious advantages in the beginning and not-so-obvious drawbacks further down the line. This thread is about whether redshirted children ever regret the decision their parents made, and the answer is of course yes, some do feel set back, just as some feel it was a benefit. Unfortunately, nobody is psychic. OP's kid will probably benefit from it as long as the learning disabilities are managed. If people think redshirting is a substitute for managing other issues, yikes. I have seen that turn out badly.

I have not been here since the beginning. However, I did post some of the only objective academic data provided in this thread. Unlike you, I don’t rely on my feelings alone in these matters.

The data seems to argue in favor of school delay as being a potentially beneficial method of mitigation of ADHD symptoms. The study from Denmark as opposed to other countries with rigid cutoffs is compelling. For OP, who had a child with ADHD, delay seems like a reasonable option.

You posted one study with data 20 years ago from another country.

Back to the topic, how does your child feel about it? We know you will find a million reasons to justify your choice but the topic is how does your kid feel about it? I’ve talked to mine many times about it. They agree with my decision.

I have posted more and better data than any anti-redshirter in this thread has; obviously there are other studies supporting the point.

My child (now in an excellent college) has told me many times he is happy with how things worked out.

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Anonymous wrote:The discussion is about how the kids feel? You all are making it about how you feel and justifying your choices by attacking those who do not have the same viewpoint as you. No one is talking about the impact on the kids. Sure, it may make academics easier. Easier is not always better. For the parent whose 8th grader struggled that makes sense if they got tutors and provided lots of support as things really start to ramp up. But, for a child doing well in school, with no academic issues or on the advanced track, how do they, not you feel about it? Do you stop and think about the other long term impacts? If a school, mainly privates don’t offer accelerated math, what if your kid needs it if they are older and more advanced or younger and more advanced? What if they don’t start algebra until 8th or 9th and your child wants it and can handle it younger? What about the opportunities after calculus and what does the school offer? That was what we faced looking at privates in middle school. For an average kid those things will not matter but for a smarter kid it may.

This is all about your feelings, ironically.

The only people attacking here are the crazed anti-redshirters Jeff had to ban.

Lady, you have been camped in this thread since its beginning and you are as fanatical about redshirting as some are about treating cutoffs as absolute. Redshirting has obvious advantages in the beginning and not-so-obvious drawbacks further down the line. This thread is about whether redshirted children ever regret the decision their parents made, and the answer is of course yes, some do feel set back, just as some feel it was a benefit. Unfortunately, nobody is psychic. OP's kid will probably benefit from it as long as the learning disabilities are managed. If people think redshirting is a substitute for managing other issues, yikes. I have seen that turn out badly.

I have not been here since the beginning. However, I did post some of the only objective academic data provided in this thread. Unlike you, I don’t rely on my feelings alone in these matters.

The data seems to argue in favor of school delay as being a potentially beneficial method of mitigation of ADHD symptoms. The study from Denmark as opposed to other countries with rigid cutoffs is compelling. For OP, who had a child with ADHD, delay seems like a reasonable option.

You posted one study with data 20 years ago from another country.

Back to the topic, how does your child feel about it? We know you will find a million reasons to justify your choice but the topic is how does your kid feel about it? I’ve talked to mine many times about it. They agree with my decision.

Why would you ask a young child continuously what they think about having started school 12+ months delayed?
Just shut up and don’t /do it, and hope for the best.

Maybe when they’re 20 they might have a viable opinion on it or when they’re huge and a freshman on varsity football or basketball team. But other than that you’ll never know what the pay off was.

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Anonymous wrote:The discussion is about how the kids feel? You all are making it about how you feel and justifying your choices by attacking those who do not have the same viewpoint as you. No one is talking about the impact on the kids. Sure, it may make academics easier. Easier is not always better. For the parent whose 8th grader struggled that makes sense if they got tutors and provided lots of support as things really start to ramp up. But, for a child doing well in school, with no academic issues or on the advanced track, how do they, not you feel about it? Do you stop and think about the other long term impacts? If a school, mainly privates don’t offer accelerated math, what if your kid needs it if they are older and more advanced or younger and more advanced? What if they don’t start algebra until 8th or 9th and your child wants it and can handle it younger? What about the opportunities after calculus and what does the school offer? That was what we faced looking at privates in middle school. For an average kid those things will not matter but for a smarter kid it may.

This is all about your feelings, ironically.

The only people attacking here are the crazed anti-redshirters Jeff had to ban.

Lady, you have been camped in this thread since its beginning and you are as fanatical about redshirting as some are about treating cutoffs as absolute. Redshirting has obvious advantages in the beginning and not-so-obvious drawbacks further down the line. This thread is about whether redshirted children ever regret the decision their parents made, and the answer is of course yes, some do feel set back, just as some feel it was a benefit. Unfortunately, nobody is psychic. OP's kid will probably benefit from it as long as the learning disabilities are managed. If people think redshirting is a substitute for managing other issues, yikes. I have seen that turn out badly.

I have not been here since the beginning. However, I did post some of the only objective academic data provided in this thread. Unlike you, I don’t rely on my feelings alone in these matters.

The data seems to argue in favor of school delay as being a potentially beneficial method of mitigation of ADHD symptoms. The study from Denmark as opposed to other countries with rigid cutoffs is compelling. For OP, who had a child with ADHD, delay seems like a reasonable option.

You posted one study with data 20 years ago from another country.

Back to the topic, how does your child feel about it? We know you will find a million reasons to justify your choice but the topic is how does your kid feel about it? I’ve talked to mine many times about it. They agree with my decision.

How old are your kids? If they are happy, you made the right decision for them. Good for you. Everyone is different. If your kids are grown, why do you care?

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Anonymous wrote:I always find redshirting threads fascinating. I have a summer birthday girl that I sent on time. She's the youngest in her grade that I know of (there might be younger kids, I just haven't met them yet) even though she was born 5 weeks before the cut off.

However, what I find interesting is that one of the reasons I sent her, is one of the reasons most seem to hold back. I wanted her to struggle a little. She's very strong in reading, several grades ahead and never has had to work hard at it. I barely had to work with her on teaching her how to read. Now in math, she has to work harder. She's middle of the pack in math. She wants to be better, so she works hard. I think that's a great skill to learn.

I was one of the oldest in my grade (not held back) and academics always came easily to me. I never really had to try... then I went to college and it wasn't as easy, and I had no idea how to study or just even cope with something not coming easily to me. My more average peers struggled less because they'd had to learn how to study and time manage in a way I hadn't.

Why would you redshirt a child who already knew how to read when starting school? That makes no sense.

PP you’re quoting… no clue what you’re talking about because my DD was not reading when she started kindergarten nor did I ever consider redshirting her.

She’s a great reader NOW at almost 8.

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Anonymous wrote:The discussion is about how the kids feel? You all are making it about how you feel and justifying your choices by attacking those who do not have the same viewpoint as you. No one is talking about the impact on the kids. Sure, it may make academics easier. Easier is not always better. For the parent whose 8th grader struggled that makes sense if they got tutors and provided lots of support as things really start to ramp up. But, for a child doing well in school, with no academic issues or on the advanced track, how do they, not you feel about it? Do you stop and think about the other long term impacts? If a school, mainly privates don’t offer accelerated math, what if your kid needs it if they are older and more advanced or younger and more advanced? What if they don’t start algebra until 8th or 9th and your child wants it and can handle it younger? What about the opportunities after calculus and what does the school offer? That was what we faced looking at privates in middle school. For an average kid those things will not matter but for a smarter kid it may.

This is all about your feelings, ironically.

The only people attacking here are the crazed anti-redshirters Jeff had to ban.

Lady, you have been camped in this thread since its beginning and you are as fanatical about redshirting as some are about treating cutoffs as absolute. Redshirting has obvious advantages in the beginning and not-so-obvious drawbacks further down the line. This thread is about whether redshirted children ever regret the decision their parents made, and the answer is of course yes, some do feel set back, just as some feel it was a benefit. Unfortunately, nobody is psychic. OP's kid will probably benefit from it as long as the learning disabilities are managed. If people think redshirting is a substitute for managing other issues, yikes. I have seen that turn out badly.

I have not been here since the beginning. However, I did post some of the only objective academic data provided in this thread. Unlike you, I don’t rely on my feelings alone in these matters.

The data seems to argue in favor of school delay as being a potentially beneficial method of mitigation of ADHD symptoms. The study from Denmark as opposed to other countries with rigid cutoffs is compelling. For OP, who had a child with ADHD, delay seems like a reasonable option.

You posted one study with data 20 years ago from another country.

Back to the topic, how does your child feel about it? We know you will find a million reasons to justify your choice but the topic is how does your kid feel about it? I’ve talked to mine many times about it. They agree with my decision.

Why would you ask a young child continuously what they think about having started school 12+ months delayed?
Just shut up and don’t /do it, and hope for the best.

Maybe when they’re 20 they might have a viable opinion on it or when they’re huge and a freshman on varsity football or basketball team. But other than that you’ll never know what the pay off was.

Again, the topic is how does your child feel about redshirting?

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Anonymous wrote:Of course most redshirters have a higher socioeconomic status. That's just common sense - they can afford another year of preschool or daycare (or another year of a SAHM.) As the parent of two non-redshirted kids, it doesn't bother me. I don't find the redshirted kids to be any more or less impressive. They don't stand out either way.

They do at my child’s school. They are noticeably bigger and have hair on their faces. Some are two bdays ahead because not only are they redshirted, but they have bdays that are in early spring. Which puts them that much older than kids who are in the correct grade. It is so awkward and embarrassing.

You are awkward and embarrassing for speaking that way about children.

I'm sure this will be deleted, but there are many undocumented children who are older than they claim in school and sports. I see the advantage, more years of an public school education to catch up, but it happens. I am a soccer coach in a far out NoVA suburb, and know the kids and their backstories.
However, I did comment earlier in this thread, and assume it was deleted since it was attached to a post from an anti-redshirter who got booted for sock-pupoeting. My boys were redshirtted and I believe for boys it is proper since in my belief, schools disadvantage boys in preference for girls who can sit still and are more mature than boys in younger ages. Boys are in high school, leaders and doing great. No regrets.

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Anonymous wrote:Of course most redshirters have a higher socioeconomic status. That's just common sense - they can afford another year of preschool or daycare (or another year of a SAHM.) As the parent of two non-redshirted kids, it doesn't bother me. I don't find the redshirted kids to be any more or less impressive. They don't stand out either way.

They do at my child’s school. They are noticeably bigger and have hair on their faces. Some are two bdays ahead because not only are they redshirted, but they have bdays that are in early spring. Which puts them that much older than kids who are in the correct grade. It is so awkward and embarrassing.

You are awkward and embarrassing for speaking that way about children.

I'm sure this will be deleted, but there are many undocumented children who are older than they claim in school and sports. I see the advantage, more years of an public school education to catch up, but it happens. I am a soccer coach in a far out NoVA suburb, and know the kids and their backstories.
However, I did comment earlier in this thread, and assume it was deleted since it was attached to a post from an anti-redshirter who got booted for sock-pupoeting. My boys were redshirtted and I believe for boys it is proper since in my belief, schools disadvantage boys in preference for girls who can sit still and are more mature than boys in younger ages. Boys are in high school, leaders and doing great. No regrets.

Again, while that makes sense, the topic is how do your kids feel about it? Your smart kids who are thriving may have done just as well if you made a different choice for them. You are posting how you feel about it and did it work out. E every child needs to be held back parent does not want other viewpoints or information shared which is interesting at they are so threaded by other opinions. The undocumented kids are an entirely different situation as academically they may have good reasons to be behind or cannot get their legal documents.

It makes me sad that there is so much negativity and bias around boys.

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Anonymous wrote:Of course most redshirters have a higher socioeconomic status. That's just common sense - they can afford another year of preschool or daycare (or another year of a SAHM.) As the parent of two non-redshirted kids, it doesn't bother me. I don't find the redshirted kids to be any more or less impressive. They don't stand out either way.

They do at my child’s school. They are noticeably bigger and have hair on their faces. Some are two bdays ahead because not only are they redshirted, but they have bdays that are in early spring. Which puts them that much older than kids who are in the correct grade. It is so awkward and embarrassing.

You are awkward and embarrassing for speaking that way about children.

I'm sure this will be deleted, but there are many undocumented children who are older than they claim in school and sports. I see the advantage, more years of an public school education to catch up, but it happens. I am a soccer coach in a far out NoVA suburb, and know the kids and their backstories.
However, I did comment earlier in this thread, and assume it was deleted since it was attached to a post from an anti-redshirter who got booted for sock-pupoeting. My boys were redshirtted and I believe for boys it is proper since in my belief, schools disadvantage boys in preference for girls who can sit still and are more mature than boys in younger ages. Boys are in high school, leaders and doing great. No regrets.

Again, while that makes sense, the topic is how do your kids feel about it? Your smart kids who are thriving may have done just as well if you made a different choice for them. You are posting how you feel about it and did it work out. E every child needs to be held back parent does not want other viewpoints or information shared which is interesting at they are so threaded by other opinions. The undocumented kids are an entirely different situation as academically they may have good reasons to be behind or cannot get their legal documents.

It makes me sad that there is so much negativity and bias around boys.

Oops the everyone needs to redshirt poster

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Anonymous wrote:Of course most redshirters have a higher socioeconomic status. That's just common sense - they can afford another year of preschool or daycare (or another year of a SAHM.) As the parent of two non-redshirted kids, it doesn't bother me. I don't find the redshirted kids to be any more or less impressive. They don't stand out either way.

They do at my child’s school. They are noticeably bigger and have hair on their faces. Some are two bdays ahead because not only are they redshirted, but they have bdays that are in early spring. Which puts them that much older than kids who are in the correct grade. It is so awkward and embarrassing.

You are awkward and embarrassing for speaking that way about children.

I'm sure this will be deleted, but there are many undocumented children who are older than they claim in school and sports. I see the advantage, more years of an public school education to catch up, but it happens. I am a soccer coach in a far out NoVA suburb, and know the kids and their backstories.
However, I did comment earlier in this thread, and assume it was deleted since it was attached to a post from an anti-redshirter who got booted for sock-pupoeting. My boys were redshirtted and I believe for boys it is proper since in my belief, schools disadvantage boys in preference for girls who can sit still and are more mature than boys in younger ages. Boys are in high school, leaders and doing great. No regrets.

Again, while that makes sense, the topic is how do your kids feel about it? Your smart kids who are thriving may have done just as well if you made a different choice for them. You are posting how you feel about it and did it work out. E every child needs to be held back parent does not want other viewpoints or information shared which is interesting at they are so threaded by other opinions. The undocumented kids are an entirely different situation as academically they may have good reasons to be behind or cannot get their legal documents.

It makes me sad that there is so much negativity and bias around boys.

The negativity is about the school environment for boys, not the boys themselves. https://youtu.be/OFpYj0E-yb4

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Anonymous wrote:Of course most redshirters have a higher socioeconomic status. That's just common sense - they can afford another year of preschool or daycare (or another year of a SAHM.) As the parent of two non-redshirted kids, it doesn't bother me. I don't find the redshirted kids to be any more or less impressive. They don't stand out either way.

They do at my child’s school. They are noticeably bigger and have hair on their faces. Some are two bdays ahead because not only are they redshirted, but they have bdays that are in early spring. Which puts them that much older than kids who are in the correct grade. It is so awkward and embarrassing.

You are awkward and embarrassing for speaking that way about children.

I'm sure this will be deleted, but there are many undocumented children who are older than they claim in school and sports. I see the advantage, more years of an public school education to catch up, but it happens. I am a soccer coach in a far out NoVA suburb, and know the kids and their backstories.
However, I did comment earlier in this thread, and assume it was deleted since it was attached to a post from an anti-redshirter who got booted for sock-pupoeting. My boys were redshirtted and I believe for boys it is proper since in my belief, schools disadvantage boys in preference for girls who can sit still and are more mature than boys in younger ages. Boys are in high school, leaders and doing great. No regrets.

You can't blame someone for starting their 10 year old in 3rd grade because they don't speak English. It's going to be a lot easier for them to integrate. RACIST.

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Anonymous wrote:Of course most redshirters have a higher socioeconomic status. That's just common sense - they can afford another year of preschool or daycare (or another year of a SAHM.) As the parent of two non-redshirted kids, it doesn't bother me. I don't find the redshirted kids to be any more or less impressive. They don't stand out either way.

They do at my child’s school. They are noticeably bigger and have hair on their faces. Some are two bdays ahead because not only are they redshirted, but they have bdays that are in early spring. Which puts them that much older than kids who are in the correct grade. It is so awkward and embarrassing.

You are awkward and embarrassing for speaking that way about children.

I'm sure this will be deleted, but there are many undocumented children who are older than they claim in school and sports. I see the advantage, more years of an public school education to catch up, but it happens. I am a soccer coach in a far out NoVA suburb, and know the kids and their backstories.
However, I did comment earlier in this thread, and assume it was deleted since it was attached to a post from an anti-redshirter who got booted for sock-pupoeting. My boys were redshirtted and I believe for boys it is proper since in my belief, schools disadvantage boys in preference for girls who can sit still and are more mature than boys in younger ages. Boys are in high school, leaders and doing great. No regrets.

Again, while that makes sense, the topic is how do your kids feel about it? Your smart kids who are thriving may have done just as well if you made a different choice for them. You are posting how you feel about it and did it work out. E every child needs to be held back parent does not want other viewpoints or information shared which is interesting at they are so threaded by other opinions. The undocumented kids are an entirely different situation as academically they may have good reasons to be behind or cannot get their legal documents.

It makes me sad that there is so much negativity and bias around boys.

I'm embarrassed for you, PP. Must be so hard to get through life as a #boymom. I cringe every time I hear a mom complaining about hard life is for her boys nowadays.

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My 17yo raised this issue recently, and thanked us.

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Anonymous wrote:I'll give you a different perspective - my DS is a late summer birthday and we did not redshirt him. He has always done well academically and we could tell when he was in preschool that he could handle a full day of kindergarten. He was ready. And he was tall for his age. So we didn 't redshirt. Well, now he's in high school, and it turns out he really likes sports, and he is the youngest and smallest on teams. We really do wish that we had redshirted him. Being the youngest can be socially awkward with friends too -- everyone gets licenses and hits physical milestones ahead of you in general. If you're even considering redshirting than I encourage you to just do it. Also, if you go the private school route, everyone with a summer birthday is held for the following year. Another thing I wish we'd realized. Fortunately, he's done absolutely fine academically and he's tall for his age.

I have no regrets not holding my child back. Their sport is by age so it does not matter what grade they are in and academics for us are the priority. Who cares if they get the license first. Mine got into advanced music and the sports team no issue as the youngest.

Yeah you’ve posted 27 times on this thread, *we know* your perspective.

No different from those pushing everyone to hold back their kids to make them better and stronger for sports.

No one is doing that.

Why are you so offended that some people made a different decision for their kids than you did? What impact does it make on you or your kid?

DP here. I have a child with an August birthday that started K on time. There are kids that redshirted and are a full year older than him. I do resent that they have an easier time with some of the academics and are better in sports because they are older and taller. My kid does pretty well especially considering his age, but I have to remind him that other kids are older, so he can’t always compare his abilities to theirs directly.

And there it is, the zero-sum blood sport approach to education. Not everyone approaches education and parenting as this vicious cage match.

Thank goodness those other families “got theirs” and redshirted their kids so those kids would be oldest and leaders in the class! Zero sum game indeed. Take what’s yours!

How does it affect your kid in any way that other kids are doing better in class because they've been redshirted?

You just come off as mean and spiteful. Would it make you happier if these kids were struggling?

That’s just it. A large tipping point mass of redshirting makes the other kids who are younger struggle. And then more redshirting and earlier redshirting happens (if parents are even aware how prevalent it is in certain places) and more curriculum speed. So on and so forth until differentiation and tracking starts in MS or HS.


If kids are struggling solely due to their age versus the class material & how it’s conducted, the School board, sept of Ed and schools need to change the curriculum and how they spend their time, or do more tracking.


Before kids just repeated a grade. Many did, even if bad in one subject. Didn’t know Latin well? Repeat 3rd grade. And the kid did just that. But that’s more pinpointed and less pervasive. And doesn’t affect the dynamic of the whole composition, the way rampant redshirting does.

Do you agree having over 20% of a grade already be 6 upon starting K is a critical mass? And what about the districts or schools where it’s 30%? 40%?

And don’t say oooh a bunch of kids have September bdays so it’s fine March-august are mainly redshirted. There are fall, winter, spring and summer bday kids who started on time.

I’m not the PP but my reading of the limited studies out there is that I’d like parents to have a greater range of time available to them, and that mixed-age classes are actually better overall.

I reject your entire premise, in other words, and I think parents have a good sense of when their kids are ready for school and should be trusted with that.

Ah yes, let’s all send kids to whatever grade we think they’re ready for whenever. Parents have a really good sense of their kids and the school. Yes.

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Anonymous wrote:The discussion is about how the kids feel? You all are making it about how you feel and justifying your choices by attacking those who do not have the same viewpoint as you. No one is talking about the impact on the kids. Sure, it may make academics easier. Easier is not always better. For the parent whose 8th grader struggled that makes sense if they got tutors and provided lots of support as things really start to ramp up. But, for a child doing well in school, with no academic issues or on the advanced track, how do they, not you feel about it? Do you stop and think about the other long term impacts? If a school, mainly privates don’t offer accelerated math, what if your kid needs it if they are older and more advanced or younger and more advanced? What if they don’t start algebra until 8th or 9th and your child wants it and can handle it younger? What about the opportunities after calculus and what does the school offer? That was what we faced looking at privates in middle school. For an average kid those things will not matter but for a smarter kid it may.

This is all about your feelings, ironically.

The only people attacking here are the crazed anti-redshirters Jeff had to ban.

Lady, you have been camped in this thread since its beginning and you are as fanatical about redshirting as some are about treating cutoffs as absolute. Redshirting has obvious advantages in the beginning and not-so-obvious drawbacks further down the line. This thread is about whether redshirted children ever regret the decision their parents made, and the answer is of course yes, some do feel set back, just as some feel it was a benefit. Unfortunately, nobody is psychic. OP's kid will probably benefit from it as long as the learning disabilities are managed. If people think redshirting is a substitute for managing other issues, yikes. I have seen that turn out badly.

I have not been here since the beginning. However, I did post some of the only objective academic data provided in this thread. Unlike you, I don’t rely on my feelings alone in these matters.

The data seems to argue in favor of school delay as being a potentially beneficial method of mitigation of ADHD symptoms. The study from Denmark as opposed to other countries with rigid cutoffs is compelling. For OP, who had a child with ADHD, delay seems like a reasonable option.

You posted one study with data 20 years ago from another country.

Back to the topic, how does your child feel about it? We know you will find a million reasons to justify your choice but the topic is how does your kid feel about it? I’ve talked to mine many times about it. They agree with my decision.

Why would you ask a young child continuously what they think about having started school 12+ months delayed?
Just shut up and don’t /do it, and hope for the best.

Maybe when they’re 20 they might have a viable opinion on it or when they’re huge and a freshman on varsity football or basketball team. But other than that you’ll never know what the pay off was.

Again, the topic is how does your child feel about redshirting?

Shall we all go ask every redshirted young child, tween and teen how they feel about starting K 12 months delayed?

Like those studies where you put your race, sex, and other reminders before you start the test..?…