How does your redshirted kid feel now that she/he is older?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This isn’t a big deal. If the cutoff is August 31, there will be some kids in her class that turn 6 the first week of school.

This is less of an issue now vs. in the past as many districts have moved the cutoff date closer to the start of the school year.

The cutoff in DC is October 1 and, at least EOTP, thanks to universal pre-K there are almost no red shirted kids in any of the schools my kids have attended. My kids would definitely notice since class birthdays are posted on the wall and a big topic of conversation at the elementary level. Not saying anyone would care, but OP’s classmates would assume she’s a year younger and would ask about it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:In my DD's friend group (9th grade) there are 4 girls who are redshirted. No one cares.

My observation as a parent of a teenager with ADHD - redshirting your kid will help. After about 3rd grade, my son was 6 - 18 months behind in the executive functioning elements. Middle school through the beginning of 11th grade was really hard as all the conversations were about completing homework and things that were not done in class. Now at the end of 11th grade I have a kid who has survived a lot of challenges - and I wish it did not need to be that hard for him. He is really smart - but our school is not about being smart - it is about delivering assignments the way the teachers want them.

Kids care and talk. Don't kid yourself.

DP - not at all. I have 4 kids - Redshirting is so common these days. Kids don’t care. If a student repeats 4th grade or something, it will be noticed

Yes, they do care and talk about it.

[Anonymous]

With issues, red-shirt
Without issues, don't red shirt

Op, that means you red shirt

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In my DD's friend group (9th grade) there are 4 girls who are redshirted. No one cares.

My observation as a parent of a teenager with ADHD - redshirting your kid will help. After about 3rd grade, my son was 6 - 18 months behind in the executive functioning elements. Middle school through the beginning of 11th grade was really hard as all the conversations were about completing homework and things that were not done in class. Now at the end of 11th grade I have a kid who has survived a lot of challenges - and I wish it did not need to be that hard for him. He is really smart - but our school is not about being smart - it is about delivering assignments the way the teachers want them.

Kids care and talk. Don't kid yourself.

DP - not at all. I have 4 kids - Redshirting is so common these days. Kids don’t care. If a student repeats 4th grade or something, it will be noticed

It's common in families like yours where you have too many kids to meet their individual needs so you take the easy road vs. the best for the child road. Maybe you young kids don't care but it gets pretty obvious when a senior is 19 all of senior year. Or, a 16 year old freshman is driving.

[Anonymous]

Late August is not even noticeable as a redshirt. The ones that are noticeable are the Aprils, Mays and Junes that turn 7 before some kids are even 6. And yes there are some of these every year.

[Anonymous]

My kid is not redshirted. He is greenshirted. He is youngest in his batch. He has just finished freshman year in college and has started his summer internship. He is younger than the HS seniors who are working there. LOL.

No negative to be the youngest as he is a bright high achiever.

[Anonymous]

My pediatrician aunt red-shirted both her sons. They both are going to Ivies now. Besides typical boy immaturity reasons, the boys were small (short parents). Even being a year older during their school years they were small. Both only grew to 5'6". However they had confidence and excelled in sports.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My pediatrician aunt red-shirted both her sons. They both are going to Ivies now. Besides typical boy immaturity reasons, the boys were small (short parents). Even being a year older during their school years they were small. Both only grew to 5'6". However they had confidence and excelled in sports.

This makes no sense as they'd be small regardless of what grade they were in. Boys are not immature. Parents and schools are having unrealistic expectations for 5 year olds because they expect them to act and behave as 6-7 year olds so I have to question anyone who says hold back on maturity as a 5 year old should not be mature and if they are that mature, maybe something else is going on.

[Anonymous]

My husband was redshirted. He has never had a reason to feel a certain way about it. By all measures he's a happy successful person. He never even mentioned it, I asked when I figure out his birth year and graduation year didn't line up unless he was redshirted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In my DD's friend group (9th grade) there are 4 girls who are redshirted. No one cares.

My observation as a parent of a teenager with ADHD - redshirting your kid will help. After about 3rd grade, my son was 6 - 18 months behind in the executive functioning elements. Middle school through the beginning of 11th grade was really hard as all the conversations were about completing homework and things that were not done in class. Now at the end of 11th grade I have a kid who has survived a lot of challenges - and I wish it did not need to be that hard for him. He is really smart - but our school is not about being smart - it is about delivering assignments the way the teachers want them.

Kids care and talk. Don't kid yourself.

DP - not at all. I have 4 kids - Redshirting is so common these days. Kids don’t care. If a student repeats 4th grade or something, it will be noticed

Yes, they do care and talk about it.

Not about the kids that are less than a month older.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In my DD's friend group (9th grade) there are 4 girls who are redshirted. No one cares.

My observation as a parent of a teenager with ADHD - redshirting your kid will help. After about 3rd grade, my son was 6 - 18 months behind in the executive functioning elements. Middle school through the beginning of 11th grade was really hard as all the conversations were about completing homework and things that were not done in class. Now at the end of 11th grade I have a kid who has survived a lot of challenges - and I wish it did not need to be that hard for him. He is really smart - but our school is not about being smart - it is about delivering assignments the way the teachers want them.

Kids care and talk. Don't kid yourself.

DP - not at all. I have 4 kids - Redshirting is so common these days. Kids don’t care. If a student repeats 4th grade or something, it will be noticed

Yes, they do care and talk about it.

Not in my experience. My son is a redshirted summer birthday, like so many of his friends. It's their normal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In my DD's friend group (9th grade) there are 4 girls who are redshirted. No one cares.

My observation as a parent of a teenager with ADHD - redshirting your kid will help. After about 3rd grade, my son was 6 - 18 months behind in the executive functioning elements. Middle school through the beginning of 11th grade was really hard as all the conversations were about completing homework and things that were not done in class. Now at the end of 11th grade I have a kid who has survived a lot of challenges - and I wish it did not need to be that hard for him. He is really smart - but our school is not about being smart - it is about delivering assignments the way the teachers want them.

Kids care and talk. Don't kid yourself.

DP - not at all. I have 4 kids - Redshirting is so common these days. Kids don’t care. If a student repeats 4th grade or something, it will be noticed

It's common in families like yours where you have too many kids to meet their individual needs so you take the easy road vs. the best for the child road. Maybe you young kids don't care but it gets pretty obvious when a senior is 19 all of senior year. Or, a 16 year old freshman is driving.

Omg for the last time redshirted kids aren’t 19 senior year. They’re 18 all year if they have a summer birthday which is the case for the vast majority of redshirted kids including the OP of this thread. It’s not much different than having an October birthday and turning 18 shortly into senior year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In my DD's friend group (9th grade) there are 4 girls who are redshirted. No one cares.

My observation as a parent of a teenager with ADHD - redshirting your kid will help. After about 3rd grade, my son was 6 - 18 months behind in the executive functioning elements. Middle school through the beginning of 11th grade was really hard as all the conversations were about completing homework and things that were not done in class. Now at the end of 11th grade I have a kid who has survived a lot of challenges - and I wish it did not need to be that hard for him. He is really smart - but our school is not about being smart - it is about delivering assignments the way the teachers want them.

Kids care and talk. Don't kid yourself.

DP - not at all. I have 4 kids - Redshirting is so common these days. Kids don’t care. If a student repeats 4th grade or something, it will be noticed

It's common in families like yours where you have too many kids to meet their individual needs so you take the easy road vs. the best for the child road. Maybe you young kids don't care but it gets pretty obvious when a senior is 19 all of senior year. Or, a 16 year old freshman is driving.

Huh. My redshirted summer boy will be 18 all senior year just like his non redshirted sister with a September birthday. Same thing.

[Anonymous]

My son is 14, July birthday, and was redshirted. No regrets at all. We didn’t know when he was four that he had ADHD, we just knew that the teachers didn’t think he was ready. Immensely glad we chose what we did because it took some time to get him properly diagnosed (that occurred in sixth grade), with executive function coaching and medication. He is still a bit immature for his age (a lot of that is the impulsivity from ADHD). In our area, redshirting is common, nearly universal for later summer boys, so several friends of his are in the same boat. It is an advantage in his favorite sport because his goes by graduation year - this isn’t the case for all club sports though (some go by birthday). That wasn’t a factor in our decision but it has been beneficial down the road.

[Anonymous]

Unless your boy is tall and exceptionally mature, red-shirt him.