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Anonymous wrote:Do it if you want, but remember that they are older and try to not brag to everyone you know who didn’t redshirt their kids that your kid is a genius. It’s really annoying when a kid a few weeks younger than yours is “excelling so much for their grade” and this person is literally throwing it in your face and giving you advice about your kid when they forget that their child is a year behind in curriculum.
Yes, I’m obviously thinking if particular people.
YES.I know one parent like this. Brags about how advanced and gifted her daughter is and how boring school is for her blah blah… she should be in the grade above. She also vigorously argues with moms in a Facebook group that ALL summer birthday kids should be redshirted and loves to throw in phrases like “you’re giving them the gift of time”.
I didn’t redshirt my own kid, but I wouldn’t say I’m ANTI redshirt. But there’s a time and a place and parents redshirting for absolutely no reason kind of get a side eye from me.
Just because there is absolutely no reason you’re aware of, doesn’t mean there’s absolutely no reason. There may be very valid reasons that you don’t know, because it’s not your business.
This particular person I’m referring to openly admits she thinks ALL summer birthdays should be held whether or not there’s any reason to hold back.
That’s what I’m referring to.
Then she’s not really advocating red-shirting, so much as arguing for moving the cut-off date back to the end of Spring.
The whole point of red-shirting is that because kids aren’t widgets, any arbitrary date will be too early for some who will need a little extra time.
She's not advocating changing the cut-off date. She's advocating to hold all kids back, presumably to justify her decision to make her feel better about it.
I’m skeptical of your narrative, but I’ve read so many insane anti-redshirters here that I don’t really believe any of them at this point. There are just too many of them who are nuts.
How are people insane to think baring true special needs where kids are in intensive therapies, kids should not be held back Why is it that you have to name call and say people are nuts and insane when that's the furthest from the situation? Why is it that every post is about you bullying others into thinking all kids from March-October need to be held back without good reason? Have you ever stopped to consider if kids aren't ready, we need to look at parenting and preschools not adequately preparing kids? Have you thought that these privates aren't holding back kids for the kids needs but rather their own?
Or maybe sometimes waiting a year is the right thing. As evidenced by so many success stories. It works, so people do it. You're squawking because you just don’t like it, for whatever your hang up is, isn’t going to change any minds.
How is waiting a year helpful? It makes it easier as kids are older in some ways, it makes it harder in others. If a child has a learning disability, it's better caught earlier than later. Often schools wait till 2-4th grade for testing so that just delays things a year, which can make kids feel like a failure. Any child struggling with the basics, especially reading should be evaluated for dyslexia and given extra support. So, the real question is why are you doing it? Is it easier for you, the school, or the child?
There are also plenty of success stories with kids going on time as well. Most of the kids who are at the very top would do well regardless and they are artificially on top if they are compared against other kids 12-18 months younger.
What you are saying is some kids need more help. So, the question is during this year, are parents getting the kids help or are they just hoping for the best that age will make a difference?
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