I told DW it’s time for her to return to work FT

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Anonymous wrote:OP, there are some scripts on Mr Money Mustache on how to talk to your spouse re: money. You might have to look around a bit to find them.

Big picture it sounds like you are overstressed and your health is suffering from the stress. I'd emphasize that to her.

If she wants to stay part time I'd suggest downsizing your life.
Sell a car. Move to an apartment. Buy clothes at thrift shops etc. Get the $25 per month phone plan. Eliminate cable etc.

Why should the family downsize to underwrite the wife's laziness?

I think it is a bit much to call the wife "lazy" since we are only hearing from the person who is writing the story.

She raises the kids and works part time, but she's lazy? WTH?

I'm assuming the DW does everything home related as well. I sense some jealousy from women who would love to be in that position. Probably because they have to pick up the slack from their husbands who won't do their fair share at home.

Well, the OP says otherwise. And I know very few SAHMs who really do absolutely everything at home. They always expect their spouse to pitch in when they are home and help with the kids and housework.

I would not want to be in the position of having a stressed-out spouse who is anxious about being the sole breadwinner, and refusing to ramp up my hours (which this woman can do easily). Because then I'd have a spouse who was unhappy and resentful, and that would mean a crappy marriage, and inability to pay for college for my kids,, and limited options in retirement. None of that sounds fun.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, there are some scripts on Mr Money Mustache on how to talk to your spouse re: money. You might have to look around a bit to find them.

Big picture it sounds like you are overstressed and your health is suffering from the stress. I'd emphasize that to her.

If she wants to stay part time I'd suggest downsizing your life.
Sell a car. Move to an apartment. Buy clothes at thrift shops etc. Get the $25 per month phone plan. Eliminate cable etc.

Why should the family downsize to underwrite the wife's laziness?

I think it is a bit much to call the wife "lazy" since we are only hearing from the person who is writing the story.

She raises the kids and works part time, but she's lazy? WTH?

Who do you think raises the teenage kids of working parents?

Wolves, presumably (and schools).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH and I have been discussing me going back to work PT when youngest is in school. I made blueberry muffins today for my older kids' after school snack. He ate one and said no one I'm ever going back to work.

If you give him one every day, he'll change his mind. They only taste life-changing the first time.

Besides, you have a whole weekend to indulge.

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Anonymous wrote:NP - I think the issue is that this us being framed as all or nothing “go back to work full time”

Are there any things your wife can do to increase her income and only bring her hours up to day 30?

If she starts her own business can she charge more per hour? Can she hire another speech therapist to work under her? Just trying to think out of the box here because I have to imagine there are ways for a very skilled person to make more per hour without signing up for completely full time.

Finally, how about framing this as temporary push for her to help with college so she can feel like the hero? It might me more palatable for her to think about it that way instead of as “going back to work full-time” with no end in sight.

Well OP is working full-time with no end in sight and somehow doesn't faint.

OP is a low earning male. He should have not had more kids than he could provide for. Or should have married someone who agreed to work full time and was ok with 1 kids. Does not sound like a intelligent male and I am not surprised he is earning what he is earning. Sorry, must suck to be this man's wife!!

Sucks to be OP too, with a burden instead of an actual partner. Two underachievers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH and I have been discussing me going back to work PT when youngest is in school. I made blueberry muffins today for my older kids' after school snack. He ate one and said no one I'm ever going back to work.

I just....
There are no words.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, there are some scripts on Mr Money Mustache on how to talk to your spouse re: money. You might have to look around a bit to find them.

Big picture it sounds like you are overstressed and your health is suffering from the stress. I'd emphasize that to her.

If she wants to stay part time I'd suggest downsizing your life.
Sell a car. Move to an apartment. Buy clothes at thrift shops etc. Get the $25 per month phone plan. Eliminate cable etc.

Why should the family downsize to underwrite the wife's laziness?

I think it is a bit much to call the wife "lazy" since we are only hearing from the person who is writing the story.

She raises the kids and works part time, but she's lazy? WTH?

Who do you think raises the teenage kids of working parents?

Wolves, presumably (and schools).

And crackheads.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, there are some scripts on Mr Money Mustache on how to talk to your spouse re: money. You might have to look around a bit to find them.

Big picture it sounds like you are overstressed and your health is suffering from the stress. I'd emphasize that to her.

If she wants to stay part time I'd suggest downsizing your life.
Sell a car. Move to an apartment. Buy clothes at thrift shops etc. Get the $25 per month phone plan. Eliminate cable etc.

Why should the family downsize to underwrite the wife's laziness?

I think it is a bit much to call the wife "lazy" since we are only hearing from the person who is writing the story.

She raises the kids and works part time, but she's lazy? WTH?

Who do you think raises the teenage kids of working parents?

Wolves, presumably (and schools).

And crackheads.

Didn't you hear? Per PP upthread, it's only the children of WOHM who have issues like anorexia, cutting, drugs, etc.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My DH and I have been discussing me going back to work PT when youngest is in school. I made blueberry muffins today for my older kids' after school snack. He ate one and said no one I'm ever going back to work.

I just....
There are no words.

Agree. This is so damn silly, I hope it was written in jest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DH and I have been discussing me going back to work PT when youngest is in school. I made blueberry muffins today for my older kids' after school snack. He ate one and said no one I'm ever going back to work.

I just....
There are no words.

Do you have a daughter, PP? Are you happy with your daughter staying home and her sole purpose in life is baking blueberry muffins for her DH?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DH and I have been discussing me going back to work PT when youngest is in school. I made blueberry muffins today for my older kids' after school snack. He ate one and said no one I'm ever going back to work.

I just....
There are no words.

Agree. This is so damn silly, I hope it was written in jest.

I manage to bake for my family AND have a full time job. I feel like Superwoman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, there are some scripts on Mr Money Mustache on how to talk to your spouse re: money. You might have to look around a bit to find them.

Big picture it sounds like you are overstressed and your health is suffering from the stress. I'd emphasize that to her.

If she wants to stay part time I'd suggest downsizing your life.
Sell a car. Move to an apartment. Buy clothes at thrift shops etc. Get the $25 per month phone plan. Eliminate cable etc.

Why should the family downsize to underwrite the wife's laziness?

I think it is a bit much to call the wife "lazy" since we are only hearing from the person who is writing the story.

She raises the kids and works part time, but she's lazy? WTH?

I'm assuming the DW does everything home related as well. I sense some jealousy from women who would love to be in that position. Probably because they have to pick up the slack from their husbands who won't do their fair share at home.

You are assuming wrong. The OP said many times he is doing his fair share.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DH and I have been discussing me going back to work PT when youngest is in school. I made blueberry muffins today for my older kids' after school snack. He ate one and said no one I'm ever going back to work.

I just....
There are no words.

Agree. This is so damn silly, I hope it was written in jest.

I manage to bake for my family AND have a full time job. I feel like Superwoman.

I wonder which year we are in. Reading some of the comments makes me believe some women still live in 1950s.

[Anonymous]

Open the marriage.

Had to post before that dude came in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH and I have been discussing me going back to work PT when youngest is in school. I made blueberry muffins today for my older kids' after school snack. He ate one and said no one I'm ever going back to work.

My DW makes over $500k and her hobby is cooking. WINNER!!! Being an excellent cook and working are not mutually exclusive.

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Anonymous wrote:Dude, you did not achieve your potential if you could not support your family.

You can say the same about OPs wife. Women want equality, but refuse to work. Their children have two parents, and it's every much her responsibility to provide for them as it is his. She sounds lazy and wants to socialize with her SAHM friends.

OP, you won't get helpful responses because this board is filled with SAHMs and women who want to bag high earning men so they can be lazy and not work.

Woman here. I would take a high earning husband who loves me over equality anyday. Sorry it’s the truth. I feel so bad for OP’s wife. Not that she may have to work more but because he is a not high earner who doesn’t seem to love her very much.

Well than why don’t you go out and become a high earner? Why do you feel so entitled for a man to support you?

WTF. What does love have to do with it. Are you saying your husband loves you more?