Would you be okay with your daughter dating a boy from a different race?

[Anonymous]

Everyone is racist and that's just the truth. Just because you don't voice your opinions doesn't mean you don't have any stereotypes or preconceptions, even unconsciously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow, I stopped reading when it hit ten pages and just picked up the thread again. Full dislcosure: I am white and I just don't get some of the posters, whom I think are white, are so worked up about the AA mom who may prefer that her son dates other AA women. I mean, what is up with folk who think that a two-term black president means we now live in Shangri-la. Really. Look, I don't necessarily like it when an AA assumes that my life was hunky dory because I am white never mind that I grew up poor and was the first to go to college in my family. But I get it because there is a narrative and meme perpetuated in this country that white folks are the best. And if you keep pushing that for long enough then folks will buy it. And FWIW, I really hate it when white folks assume that my childhood was just like their pampered suburban existence. I am digressing.

Obama getting elected twice doesn't mean that we are a post-racial nation. Some of these posts on here reek reek reek of unacknowledged white privilege. Let's say that my white DD ends up the DIL of the AA mom. I hope that I am raising her to be aware that her reality is not universal and to know her country's history, that the personal is political in the USA.

For those who wish that every AA is this country were a recent African immigrant - go look at studies that cover their lives two to three generations into life in the States. Unfortunately they can't escape the racism from seeping into their mental health. The problem is not "old" blacks versus "new" blacks - it is the legacy of racism. Yes, this is not the 20s and 50s, but don't fool ourselves that there is no longer white privilege as well as outright racism.

And god, I love Ghana.

+ 10000

AA MOM HERE AND I. WANT TO MARRY YOU!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, I stopped reading when it hit ten pages and just picked up the thread again. Full dislcosure: I am white and I just don't get some of the posters, whom I think are white, are so worked up about the AA mom who may prefer that her son dates other AA women. I mean, what is up with folk who think that a two-term black president means we now live in Shangri-la. Really. Look, I don't necessarily like it when an AA assumes that my life was hunky dory because I am white never mind that I grew up poor and was the first to go to college in my family. But I get it because there is a narrative and meme perpetuated in this country that white folks are the best. And if you keep pushing that for long enough then folks will buy it. And FWIW, I really hate it when white folks assume that my childhood was just like their pampered suburban existence. I am digressing.

Obama getting elected twice doesn't mean that we are a post-racial nation. Some of these posts on here reek reek reek of unacknowledged white privilege. Let's say that my white DD ends up the DIL of the AA mom. I hope that I am raising her to be aware that her reality is not universal and to know her country's history, that the personal is political in the USA.

For those who wish that every AA is this country were a recent African immigrant - go look at studies that cover their lives two to three generations into life in the States. Unfortunately they can't escape the racism from seeping into their mental health. The problem is not "old" blacks versus "new" blacks - it is the legacy of racism. Yes, this is not the 20s and 50s, but don't fool ourselves that there is no longer white privilege as well as outright racism.

And god, I love Ghana.

+ 10000

AA MOM HERE AND I. WANT TO MARRY YOU!!

Me too. You and your children are welcome in my AA family because you get it and I get you and we can be honest. Your post was healing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:19:32, you have issues. You are so completely clueless that it's almost scary. Just admit that your Shaquanda theory failed and leave it at that. So far, all you've proven is that you prejudge someone based on their "ghetto name" (not something they can control) and where they live (not always something they can control).

Having a preference does not equal racism. No one is talking about rejection, just preferences. What about that can't you understand? You don't get to determine what someone should and shouldn't prefer. It's not your call.

No one is throwing being black in anyone's face (whatever that means). You need to relax. It's ironic really; this thread *in itself* is the very reason why some AA Moms aren't comfortable with the idea of their son marrying a white woman. Because some of you have proven that when your feathers are ruffled, you pull out tried and untrue negative sterotypes and insults. So, while you claim acceptance, your real truth has made itself known on this thread. Deal with that and stop with the fake outrage.

Amen and good night to this thread!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, I stopped reading when it hit ten pages and just picked up the thread again. Full dislcosure: I am white and I just don't get some of the posters, whom I think are white, are so worked up about the AA mom who may prefer that her son dates other AA women. I mean, what is up with folk who think that a two-term black president means we now live in Shangri-la. Really. Look, I don't necessarily like it when an AA assumes that my life was hunky dory because I am white never mind that I grew up poor and was the first to go to college in my family. But I get it because there is a narrative and meme perpetuated in this country that white folks are the best. And if you keep pushing that for long enough then folks will buy it. And FWIW, I really hate it when white folks assume that my childhood was just like their pampered suburban existence. I am digressing.

Obama getting elected twice doesn't mean that we are a post-racial nation. Some of these posts on here reek reek reek of unacknowledged white privilege. Let's say that my white DD ends up the DIL of the AA mom. I hope that I am raising her to be aware that her reality is not universal and to know her country's history, that the personal is political in the USA.

For those who wish that every AA is this country were a recent African immigrant - go look at studies that cover their lives two to three generations into life in the States. Unfortunately they can't escape the racism from seeping into their mental health. The problem is not "old" blacks versus "new" blacks - it is the legacy of racism. Yes, this is not the 20s and 50s, but don't fool ourselves that there is no longer white privilege as well as outright racism.

And god, I love Ghana.

+ 10000

AA MOM HERE AND I. WANT TO MARRY YOU!!

Me too. You and your children are welcome in my AA family because you get it and I get you and we can be honest. Your post was healing.

"white privilege"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, I stopped reading when it hit ten pages and just picked up the thread again. Full dislcosure: I am white and I just don't get some of the posters, whom I think are white, are so worked up about the AA mom who may prefer that her son dates other AA women. I mean, what is up with folk who think that a two-term black president means we now live in Shangri-la. Really. Look, I don't necessarily like it when an AA assumes that my life was hunky dory because I am white never mind that I grew up poor and was the first to go to college in my family. But I get it because there is a narrative and meme perpetuated in this country that white folks are the best. And if you keep pushing that for long enough then folks will buy it. And FWIW, I really hate it when white folks assume that my childhood was just like their pampered suburban existence. I am digressing.

Obama getting elected twice doesn't mean that we are a post-racial nation. Some of these posts on here reek reek reek of unacknowledged white privilege. Let's say that my white DD ends up the DIL of the AA mom. I hope that I am raising her to be aware that her reality is not universal and to know her country's history, that the personal is political in the USA.

For those who wish that every AA is this country were a recent African immigrant - go look at studies that cover their lives two to three generations into life in the States. Unfortunately they can't escape the racism from seeping into their mental health. The problem is not "old" blacks versus "new" blacks - it is the legacy of racism. Yes, this is not the 20s and 50s, but don't fool ourselves that there is no longer white privilege as well as outright racism.

And god, I love Ghana.

+ 10000

AA MOM HERE AND I. WANT TO MARRY YOU!!

Me too. You and your children are welcome in my AA family because you get it and I get you and we can be honest. Your post was healing.

"white privilege"

The legacy of racism imprinted on blacks much more so than whites. Rants against "white privilege" invert that, and as a result are not particuarly constructive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, I stopped reading when it hit ten pages and just picked up the thread again. Full dislcosure: I am white and I just don't get some of the posters, whom I think are white, are so worked up about the AA mom who may prefer that her son dates other AA women. I mean, what is up with folk who think that a two-term black president means we now live in Shangri-la. Really. Look, I don't necessarily like it when an AA assumes that my life was hunky dory because I am white never mind that I grew up poor and was the first to go to college in my family. But I get it because there is a narrative and meme perpetuated in this country that white folks are the best. And if you keep pushing that for long enough then folks will buy it. And FWIW, I really hate it when white folks assume that my childhood was just like their pampered suburban existence. I am digressing.

Obama getting elected twice doesn't mean that we are a post-racial nation. Some of these posts on here reek reek reek of unacknowledged white privilege. Let's say that my white DD ends up the DIL of the AA mom. I hope that I am raising her to be aware that her reality is not universal and to know her country's history, that the personal is political in the USA.

For those who wish that every AA is this country were a recent African immigrant - go look at studies that cover their lives two to three generations into life in the States. Unfortunately they can't escape the racism from seeping into their mental health. The problem is not "old" blacks versus "new" blacks - it is the legacy of racism. Yes, this is not the 20s and 50s, but don't fool ourselves that there is no longer white privilege as well as outright racism.

And god, I love Ghana.

+ 10000

AA MOM HERE AND I. WANT TO MARRY YOU!!

Me too. You and your children are welcome in my AA family because you get it and I get you and we can be honest. Your post was healing.

Oh holy hell...we all know why LOVE the original pp. Carry on claiming your persecution...it only shows what a miserable life you lead.

[Anonymous]

13:26, give it up already. Such an asshole.

[Anonymous]

I was actively involved in this conversation a few pages back. Now I can't even tell who's fighting who.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would be okay with my white daughter dating an Asian American guy. I would be okay with her dating a Latino guy.

I would not be okay with her dating a Muslim guy, a Jewish guy, or a fundie/evangelical Christian guy, regardless of race. I would not be okay with her dating a guy who is from the Middle East or Central Asia. I would not be okay with her dating an Indian guy. I would not be okay with her dating an African American guy.

Are you okay with her dating a Black Latino?

[Anonymous]

There is an angry white woman all over this thread. I wish she would knock that chip off her shoulder. It is making her tip over.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:19:32, you have issues. You are so completely clueless that it's almost scary. Just admit that your Shaquanda theory failed and leave it at that. So far, all you've proven is that you prejudge someone based on their "ghetto name" (not something they can control) and where they live (not always something they can control).

Having a preference does not equal racism. No one is talking about rejection, just preferences. What about that can't you understand? You don't get to determine what someone should and shouldn't prefer. It's not your call.

No one is throwing being black in anyone's face (whatever that means). You need to relax. It's ironic really; this thread *in itself* is the very reason why some AA Moms aren't comfortable with the idea of their son marrying a white woman. Because some of you have proven that when your feathers are ruffled, you pull out tried and untrue negative sterotypes and insults. So, while you claim acceptance, your real truth has made itself known on this thread. Deal with that and stop with the fake outrage.

No, I think what this thread illustrates is why AAs refrain from commenting on these threads. Let's attack the Blacks for not wanting their sons to have preferences for our white daughters. I noticed there was total silence when posters said it was okay for their daughters to marry white, Latino, asian, but not Black. Not even 19:32 was offended.

Frankly, I think all the AA moms should stop trying to express your viewpoints or educate miseducated individuals.

[Anonymous]

I dated AA, Latino and Middle Eastern boys as a teen in the 70s/80s lol so I don't have a problem w/dd dating whoever she wants to, mainly I just want her to be with a nice, decent guy. Frankly I don't care for the young man she is with now, who is white/waspy, lots of issues with him. Since she's grown/over 21 not much I can do. But I gotta say I would be thrilled if she was dating a nice young man who cared about her, had good values, and treated her well, whatever his color or origin.

One of my relatives began dating a Latino young man in her 20s and her mother was so awful and hateful about it and called him 'that thing'. Well, they married and have been together over 20 years now and her mom missed out on a lot before passing away, because she would have nothing to do with them.

[Anonymous]

Ask this to the Jewish parents.....

[Anonymous]

I didn't have time to read all the posts. I know that what matters is that he should be an honest caring person and treat her well, but my preference would be that she not.