Would you be okay with your daughter dating a boy from a different race?

[Anonymous]

Yes, although agree with above posters that I'd have hesitations about my child being involved with someone who is extremely conservatively religious.

[Anonymous]

It would be difficult for me to accept. I like the way dcum'ers attach believers freely but all eagerly support dd consorting with boys from other races and cultures.

[Anonymous]

It's one thing to say of course and smile it's another thing to live it. When your daughter is dating a guy who lives in the ghetto, has seen and lived through things your sweet dd never even heard about before, and has access to all the free alone time in the world it becomes a whole different ball game. Sure you can try and not make it about race, try and say well he doesn't want to go to college, his mom doesn't have strict enough rules, we questions his motives but it ALWAYS goes back to the race card. It's exhausting, you look like a horrible parent and ppl look at you with disgrace like you should be taking this innocent boy under your wing...trust me he doesn't want any help or involvement from us period.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, although agree with above posters that I'd have hesitations about my child being involved with someone who is extremely conservatively religious.

Agree, whatever religion. Anyone who is extreme would freak me out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op would you be ok with your daughter dating another woman of a different race? How about a different religion?
You have no control over any of this so just relax and hope that whoever she falls in love with loves her just as much. Thats what matters.

+1

I am more concerned with my son's partner treating him well and loving him than I am about that partner's physical or other characteristics.

[Anonymous]

Since I have been in a loving, committed relationship with someone of a different race for 20 years and have children with her, I guess I'd be okay with my daughter dating someone of a different race.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What scares most is when they date someone from another socio economic background. Another language and culture can also be an obstacle. We are not jewish so I am opposed to her dating a jew. The religion strongly objects to it and she will just get hurt. I also want to keep her away from the middle east muslims, culture is too far into oppressing women. Her dating a poor student working his way thru college is OK, but she will never be enough to some trust fund baby. Those are wild

I really hope this is a troll post.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's one thing to say of course and smile it's another thing to live it. When your daughter is dating a guy who lives in the ghetto, has seen and lived through things your sweet dd never even heard about before, and has access to all the free alone time in the world it becomes a whole different ball game. Sure you can try and not make it about race, try and say well he doesn't want to go to college, his mom doesn't have strict enough rules, we questions his motives but it ALWAYS goes back to the race card. It's exhausting, you look like a horrible parent and ppl look at you with disgrace like you should be taking this innocent boy under your wing...trust me he doesn't want any help or involvement from us period.

That's an SES question then. I truly have no problem with my DCs dating any race or religion ( and they both have at this point) but am frankly less comfortable with a very different SES. It's unlikely to happen though.

[Anonymous]

Most of these replies are the politically correct answers.

If it happened in real life, especially your white girl and his black boy, you would have a fit.

Count on it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, although agree with above posters that I'd have hesitations about my child being involved with someone who is extremely conservatively religious.

I am this way, but that is not a race/ethnicity issue for me- evangelical good old white boys make me equally uncomfortable as any other stripe.

It never ever has occurred to me to have an issue with culture/race/ethnicity being a factor in someone they are dating! I would hope that my child would just love the person for who they are and try to appreciate and learn about his/her partner's background and culture and embrace it (not ignore it) and vice versa. Anyone who has issue with that, let it roll off their backs as it is not their problem (this includes any family who has issues!)

Oddly, my own mother sort of always tried to subtly warn that I should not try to date people from wealthy backgrounds as I would "not fit" or maybe my family wouldn't fit in "that world" because they are working class/lower middle class immigrants. Kind of hard to do at my preppy private college (academic scholarship). I think that was about her insecurity that she would "lose" me to a better off family as an adult though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most of these replies are the politically correct answers.

If it happened in real life, especially your white girl and his black boy, you would have a fit.

Count on it.

THIS. Yes, we know you are ok with your DD dating the Asian from her math club.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most of these replies are the politically correct answers.

If it happened in real life, especially your white girl and his black boy, you would have a fit.

Count on it.

I love this- you know all! Some of us really.don't. care. Its not 1955. Many of the responses (like mine) are from those IN those relationships for years and years.......and yet the world did not fall down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most of these replies are the politically correct answers.

If it happened in real life, especially your white girl and his black boy, you would have a fit.

Count on it.

Not me. My parents had huge issues with me dating a "black boy" when I was in high school (late 70s) and it still irks me (as a "white woman").

[Anonymous]

Fat white girl with drugstore blond hair with poor black guy is the norm now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As long as she is happy I wouldn't mind.

Yup. I have no idea how anyone can have any answer at all other than this one.