Would you be okay with your daughter dating a boy from a different race?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's one thing to say of course and smile it's another thing to live it. When your daughter is dating a guy who lives in the ghetto, has seen and lived through things your sweet dd never even heard about before, and has access to all the free alone time in the world it becomes a whole different ball game. Sure you can try and not make it about race, try and say well he doesn't want to go to college, his mom doesn't have strict enough rules, we questions his motives but it ALWAYS goes back to the race card. It's exhausting, you look like a horrible parent and ppl look at you with disgrace like you should be taking this innocent boy under your wing...trust me he doesn't want any help or involvement from us period.

Your problem is not that your daughter's boyfriend is black, it's that he is a derelict. Those are two different issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's one thing to say of course and smile it's another thing to live it. When your daughter is dating a guy who lives in the ghetto, has seen and lived through things your sweet dd never even heard about before, and has access to all the free alone time in the world it becomes a whole different ball game. Sure you can try and not make it about race, try and say well he doesn't want to go to college, his mom doesn't have strict enough rules, we questions his motives but it ALWAYS goes back to the race card. It's exhausting, you look like a horrible parent and ppl look at you with disgrace like you should be taking this innocent boy under your wing...trust me he doesn't want any help or involvement from us period.

Your problem is not that your daughter's boyfriend is black, it's that he is a derelict. Those are two different issues.

The point is that it can't be separated. It's always going to be a white/black issue.

[Anonymous]

Now is not a matter of race, that is totally outdated. Now it is a matter of class. Class is what defines the US society now.
There is a very interesting article in the NYTs about this
http://nyti.ms/YBtMak

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Fat white girl with drugstore blond hair with poor black guy is the norm now.

This is exactly the stereotype that would be my only problem with it. People would assume my daughter has low self esteem or other issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most of these replies are the politically correct answers.

If it happened in real life, especially your white girl and his black boy, you would have a fit.

Count on it.

THIS. Yes, we know you are ok with your DD dating the Asian from her math club.

Asians are becoming whitewashed. They are assimilating fast and are being embraced by the man.

Really what OP was concerned about, but she was too polite to say it, is her precious DD with a AA boy.

[Anonymous]

My white daughter did date a black boy, and we loved him. He was a smart, caring, nice boy. But my daughter couldn't handle his ghetto acting sisters and at even 16, realized she could not handle something like that for the rest of her life. It's made her more selective in her subsequent dating, not by race, but because of their family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's one thing to say of course and smile it's another thing to live it. When your daughter is dating a guy who lives in the ghetto, has seen and lived through things your sweet dd never even heard about before, and has access to all the free alone time in the world it becomes a whole different ball game. Sure you can try and not make it about race, try and say well he doesn't want to go to college, his mom doesn't have strict enough rules, we questions his motives but it ALWAYS goes back to the race card. It's exhausting, you look like a horrible parent and ppl look at you with disgrace like you should be taking this innocent boy under your wing...trust me he doesn't want any help or involvement from us period.

Your problem is not that your daughter's boyfriend is black, it's that he is a derelict. Those are two different issues.

The point is that it can't be separated. It's always going to be a white/black issue.

That's ridiculous. There are derelict whites, and Asians, and everything else. And there are wealthy blacks, Asians and everything else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Fat white girl with drugstore blond hair with poor black guy is the norm now.

This is exactly the stereotype that would be my only problem with it. People would assume my daughter has low self esteem or other issues.

If this is your DD, she does have low self esteem and other issues. Truly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP (8:21) again -

after reading the above posts, I forgot that I would be concerned if DD was in a serious relationship with a muslim. That would really bother me.

Let me know her name so I make sure my son never asks her out. I don't care about race, but being stuck with bigoted in laws would really suck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PP (8:21) again -

after reading the above posts, I forgot that I would be concerned if DD was in a serious relationship with a muslim. That would really bother me.

Let me know her name so I make sure my son never asks her out. I don't care about race, but being stuck with bigoted in laws would really suck.

I so love the default argument - if you don't agree with me, you're a bigot/racist.

PP said that she would "be concerned," not that she would end it. She also referred to a "serious relationship," which I took to mean marriage is conceivable. Things I would be concerned about - would my DD be asked to convert? Would their kids be raised in the muslim faith? Are the prospective in laws supportive?

[Anonymous]

I would not be happy if either of my kids were dating someone who was very religious, but that has nothing to do with race.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PP (8:21) again -

after reading the above posts, I forgot that I would be concerned if DD was in a serious relationship with a muslim. That would really bother me.

Let me know her name so I make sure my son never asks her out. I don't care about race, but being stuck with bigoted in laws would really suck.

I so love the default argument - if you don't agree with me, you're a bigot/racist.

PP said that she would "be concerned," not that she would end it. She also referred to a "serious relationship," which I took to mean marriage is conceivable. Things I would be concerned about - would my DD be asked to convert? Would their kids be raised in the muslim faith? Are the prospective in laws supportive?

If she had a concern about any and all religions other than their own, I'd agree with you. But to single out one particular religion is bigoted. Those are questions to ask of every other religion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's one thing to say of course and smile it's another thing to live it. When your daughter is dating a guy who lives in the ghetto, has seen and lived through things your sweet dd never even heard about before, and has access to all the free alone time in the world it becomes a whole different ball game. Sure you can try and not make it about race, try and say well he doesn't want to go to college, his mom doesn't have strict enough rules, we questions his motives but it ALWAYS goes back to the race card. It's exhausting, you look like a horrible parent and ppl look at you with disgrace like you should be taking this innocent boy under your wing...trust me he doesn't want any help or involvement from us period.

Ok, it's 2013. Not all black people live in the "ghetto." There ar people of every race and religion in your socioeconomic class, even if you choose not to associate with them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PP (8:21) again -

after reading the above posts, I forgot that I would be concerned if DD was in a serious relationship with a muslim. That would really bother me.

Let me know her name so I make sure my son never asks her out. I don't care about race, but being stuck with bigoted in laws would really suck.

I so love the default argument - if you don't agree with me, you're a bigot/racist.

PP said that she would "be concerned," not that she would end it. She also referred to a "serious relationship," which I took to mean marriage is conceivable. Things I would be concerned about - would my DD be asked to convert? Would their kids be raised in the muslim faith? Are the prospective in laws supportive?

If she had a concern about any and all religions other than their own, I'd agree with you. But to single out one particular religion is bigoted. Those are questions to ask of every other religion.

The pc answers are the comfortable ones. But the uncomfortable truth is that being a Muslim is not the same as being Greek Orthodox, Buddhist, Jewish, [fill in whatever other religion is different than your own] etc., etc. You only need to pick up the WaPo to be reminded of that every day. Concern seems fair.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PP (8:21) again -

after reading the above posts, I forgot that I would be concerned if DD was in a serious relationship with a muslim. That would really bother me.

Let me know her name so I make sure my son never asks her out. I don't care about race, but being stuck with bigoted in laws would really suck.

I so love the default argument - if you don't agree with me, you're a bigot/racist.

PP said that she would "be concerned," not that she would end it. She also referred to a "serious relationship," which I took to mean marriage is conceivable. Things I would be concerned about - would my DD be asked to convert? Would their kids be raised in the muslim faith? Are the prospective in laws supportive?

What about will they serve booze at the wedding? Granny will certainly need her fill!