If adults kids don’t have kids what’s the point?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH and I born in the early 60s, so Boomers-R-Us. Happily child-free after terminating an unintended pregnancy in our 20s. We are govt workers and have a ton of money saved/invested. Our home in Arlington is paid off, as is our vacation/retirement home on the Bay. No need to have kids to support us.

Serious question: aren’t you worried about losing your marbles and becoming a victim or fraud, scam or some such? Or just being unable to make rational decisions and losing money/ending up in a precarious situation?
I have a child but this is my biggest worry because I see many seniors not being safeguarded from their irrational decisions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH and I born in the early 60s, so Boomers-R-Us. Happily child-free after terminating an unintended pregnancy in our 20s. We are govt workers and have a ton of money saved/invested. Our home in Arlington is paid off, as is our vacation/retirement home on the Bay. No need to have kids to support us.

Ok bragging about killing your only child is weird. Just saying

But exactly what are you retiring from. A childless couple with a very short commute or remote with BS govt jobs.

Not exactly like you raised five kids, ran a restaurant, was a laborer, did back breaking work. Souls like your whole like was retirement.

What happens when the second one of you dies? They die alone and not even a person to plan funeral. What happens those two houses?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:DH and I born in the early 60s, so Boomers-R-Us. Happily child-free after terminating an unintended pregnancy in our 20s. We are govt workers and have a ton of money saved/invested. Our home in Arlington is paid off, as is our vacation/retirement home on the Bay. No need to have kids to support us.

Ok bragging about killing your only child is weird. Just saying

But exactly what are you retiring from. A childless couple with a very short commute or remote with BS govt jobs.

Not exactly like you raised five kids, ran a restaurant, was a laborer, did back breaking work. Souls like your whole like was retirement.

What happens when the second one of you dies? They die alone and not even a person to plan funeral. What happens those two houses?

You must be dense. We have traveled the world, as was always our plan, since we met in our early/mid-20s. As we age we may cruse more, if our health demands it. We have already done all our paperwork to leave our money to various charities.

You sound very, very jealous, as well as unorganized in your life's plans.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:DH and I born in the early 60s, so Boomers-R-Us. Happily child-free after terminating an unintended pregnancy in our 20s. We are govt workers and have a ton of money saved/invested. Our home in Arlington is paid off, as is our vacation/retirement home on the Bay. No need to have kids to support us.

Ok bragging about killing your only child is weird. Just saying

But exactly what are you retiring from. A childless couple with a very short commute or remote with BS govt jobs.

Not exactly like you raised five kids, ran a restaurant, was a laborer, did back breaking work. Souls like your whole like was retirement.

What happens when the second one of you dies? They die alone and not even a person to plan funeral. What happens those two houses?

You must be dense. We have traveled the world, as was always our plan, since we met in our early/mid-20s. As we age we may cruse more, if our health demands it. We have already done all our paperwork to leave our money to various charities.

You sound very, very jealous, as well as unorganized in your life's plans.

I traveled the world too. I got married at 36. Was sick of it by 33. Really how many spring breaks, ski trips, cruises, happy hours do you need.
How do your parents feel that you and their work fr did this.

I know my 60 year old friend actually once day turned to his 58 year old wife of 22 years after she brought up no kids and said I wish you never listened to me and just got pregnant. She confesses your mother said same thing. He said you should have listened. They really were child free people, I suspect swingers! But something switched later in life.
He has a nephew in another state who will get it all. But he literally has a Yacht, Virgin Island Waterfront home, beautiful house Palm Beach and no kids to leave it too.

I think men who convince women not to have kids are horrible. My friend at 60 is easy prey for first HS drop out Hooters girl to get knocked up by him and take all the cash. But where does that leave his wife?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:DH and I born in the early 60s, so Boomers-R-Us. Happily child-free after terminating an unintended pregnancy in our 20s. We are govt workers and have a ton of money saved/invested. Our home in Arlington is paid off, as is our vacation/retirement home on the Bay. No need to have kids to support us.

Ok bragging about killing your only child is weird. Just saying

But exactly what are you retiring from. A childless couple with a very short commute or remote with BS govt jobs.

Not exactly like you raised five kids, ran a restaurant, was a laborer, did back breaking work. Souls like your whole like was retirement.

What happens when the second one of you dies? They die alone and not even a person to plan funeral. What happens those two houses?

You must be dense. We have traveled the world, as was always our plan, since we met in our early/mid-20s. As we age we may cruse more, if our health demands it. We have already done all our paperwork to leave our money to various charities.

You sound very, very jealous, as well as unorganized in your life's plans.

I traveled the world too. I got married at 36. Was sick of it by 33. Really how many spring breaks, ski trips, cruises, happy hours do you need.
How do your parents feel that you and their work fr did this.

I know my 60 year old friend actually once day turned to his 58 year old wife of 22 years after she brought up no kids and said I wish you never listened to me and just got pregnant. She confesses your mother said same thing. He said you should have listened. They really were child free people, I suspect swingers! But something switched later in life.
He has a nephew in another state who will get it all. But he literally has a Yacht, Virgin Island Waterfront home, beautiful house Palm Beach and no kids to leave it too.

I think men who convince women not to have kids are horrible. My friend at 60 is easy prey for first HS drop out Hooters girl to get knocked up by him and take all the cash. But where does that leave his wife?

That's not travelling the world, and yes, I can see why you'd get tired of basic partying.

[Anonymous]

My DH and are also childless by choice. We also love traveling and having no responsibilities other than our pets. Now in our early 50s, married 22 years.

Some parents on here sound like they have lost their minds.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I totally agree with you. If my kids choose to not have kids I will leave them nothing. Spend all my savings, and give the rest to charity. I did the hard work. If they aren't willing to do the same, they don't need or deserve an inheritance.

Lol ditto

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I literally gave up 22 years of my life between pregnancy and up college.

From kids soccer, back to school nights, SAT tutors, 21 birthday parties, play dates, paying for everything including college.

What was point of any of it without grandkids?

Lonely sad life for me at an empty Thanksgiving table with no one to even leave my stuff too.

What was point of having kids, what was even point of career or big house?

Life doesn't always turn out the way we expected. I would love for my DDs to have kids of their own, but right now they don't seem interested. My husband and I are talking about traveling after retirement, so I am focusing on looking forward to all the places we can visit.

[Anonymous]

Another childless by choice here.

I never went "home" for Tgiving from from college. I used that time for working extra shifts to make some money. As an adult I use that time to travel. My parents know this. They also know I don't eat meat and don't want to sit a table with a dead bird on it.

So if they had children in order to have someone sit at their Thanksgiving table, they lost. However, since my dad died 6 years ago I now take my mom on my travels. She is 80 going on 60.

[Anonymous]

Matthew Perry no kids or wife. They are actually looking for someone to take his dog. His $120 million and mansion all meaningless now as no one to hand it down to. No grieving widow, no grieving kids. I hope his parents are already dead so they don’t have to see this.

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Anonymous wrote:Feeling really bad for my gay brother right now. But he doesn't read DCUM so I guess it's fine.

Gay people have kids all the time, you know. My close friend is gay, married, and has two kids: one biological child each for him and his husband, same mom/carrier. They have big careers too and an amazing, happy life.

Great, he exploited a woman, sorry, carrier to fulfill his biological needs.

+1
Another form of sexism. I hope he at least paid her very well. Bearing children is a huge commitment amd was super hard on my body. After 2 kids my midsection was permanently changed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The point is that they contribute to the betterment of society, knowledge and Earth. That is enough, imho.

Who cares if they do that or not. It's such a natural complete circle to have kids. I agree with PP who said if people chose not to they are missing out on one of life's greatest seasons and they are permanently stunted. And I also firmly believe adopting kids IS having kids - same thing, you are responsible for crafting and caring for another human to adulthood. Adoption is even natural in the animal kingdom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is the thing: I could not have bio kids, and my parents didn't consider adopted kids "real grandchildren." It's insane.

I'm sorry. That is insane. If my kids were gay or could have kids I would be very supportive (including financially) in helping them adopt. I would prefer this to IVF and all the other things people do actually.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is the thing: I could not have bio kids, and my parents didn't consider adopted kids "real grandchildren." It's insane.

I'm sorry. That is insane. If my kids were gay or could have kids I would be very supportive (including financially) in helping them adopt. I would prefer this to IVF and all the other things people do actually.

Could not

[Anonymous]

OP I reflected Back in time to two of my exes
My first drop dead movie star beautiful GF married a very rich older businessman young. Her family dirt poor and she was a HS dropout. She had three beautiful kids and lives in a mansion. Her one commodity in life was beauty and ability to reproduce beauty. Getting married at 23. Her kids look like Ralph Lauren models and she looked like a leading lady of wealth.

My next GF never married after break up. I ran into on a business trip in NYC on subway and she was spitting fire and bitter. Still in same job 30 years, childless and alone. I was to blame for it all.

Like it or not reproduction is why we are here on Earth. And gene pool matters. Why did that 40 year old multimillionaire marry my drop dead beautiful five foot nine inch blond bombshell who at 120 pounds had a super model figure. Her fertility and looks. They had kids immediately

Why did my smart beautiful nice now spinster career women end up bitter and mean. Well we broke up 29 and she dove back into work and next thing you knew 35-37 hit and all the men gone. Her career stalled at 40 and I guess let’s hope neighbor finds her when she dies alone before her cats eat her.

Life is about reproduction. My young GF needed money and wealth which I did not have at time. My career women GF was not what I needed I wanted a a wife to bear multiple kids and be a SAHM. Not a lot but 2-4 kids.

Being a spinster or an aging bachelor not a good look. You get creepy then die alone or n a grave no one visits