If adults kids don’t have kids what’s the point?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some of us can't have kids due to infertility, and don't want invasive IVF. It's a lot of money for something with no guarantee.

I've figured out how to give my life meaning even without being able to have kids. I'm sure, with some therapy like me, you can figure that out without grandkids.

To clarify, I love my kids and will always love them no matter what they do, whether it's their choice or not. I will also always support them emotionally. But financially only if I benefit also.

Does that sound cold, or are you grown adults expecting to still be babied by your parents? Especially the PP who's crying about how her mother didn't give her attention until she had her own kid. Some of you still have some maturing to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - my kids may have kids yet. Buy I had a brother who literally worked 60 hours a week for 40 years to make a ton of money and his wife stayed home running around with kid, paying college, paying grad school, paying for wedding.

After all that they announce the decided not to have kids. (Why even get married?)

My brother sold the family home, (no point having it as no Xmas or Thanksgiving or family parties with a house full of grandkids), sold his collector car he loved as no grand kid to leave it to.

They retired to a HOA in Florida with their now “worthless” millions. No one to leave it to. They go to early bird special, play golf. Soon their DNA will disappear along with their branch of the family tree.

Would it have killed their daughter just to pop out a kid or two?

My brother aged 10 years overnight. His entire 40 years of work means nothing and his wife doming multiple rounds of fertility treatment to have kid and quitting work to be a SAHM now all meaningless

You and your brother sound ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did you ever and stop and think why they don’t want children? Maybe you f’ed up their childhood and life so much that they don’t want to reproduce or carry on your genes.

That was unnecessarily cruel. Are you proud of yourself?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow, I am childfree and so glad that my parents don't feel the way you do. They wanted to have a child to have the experience of raising a child, and that was their decision, not mine, obviously. I do not want this experience, and they understand and accept my decision. Frankly, more and more parents should expect to not have grandchildren, as younger generations come to terms with the devastation that climate change is wreaking on the earth.

I mean of course your parents told you that. That raising you was the greatest joy. They are your parents- that’s what they say because they are good a parents! They aren’t making you feel guilty for ending their line because they are good parents! Child free adults often lack this sort of self awareness IMO because they have not yet experienced one of the major seasons in life, which is to have a child. If you skip that entire season, your life is stunted. I didn’t get it either until I had kids so I’m sure you will respond with a giant eye roll, but, sorry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some of us can't have kids due to infertility, and don't want invasive IVF. It's a lot of money for something with no guarantee.

I've figured out how to give my life meaning even without being able to have kids. I'm sure, with some therapy like me, you can figure that out without grandkids.

To clarify, I love my kids and will always love them no matter what they do, whether it's their choice or not. I will also always support them emotionally. But financially only if I benefit also.

Does that sound cold, or are you grown adults expecting to still be babied by your parents? Especially the PP who's crying about how her mother didn't give her attention until she had her own kid. Some of you still have some maturing to do.

Yeah, you sound like a terrible parent, tbh.

[Anonymous]

I hope this is a troll, but if not, my brother, myself, and my cousins all chose to not have kids because of mental illness in our family. We didn't want to take a chance on it being inherited by our children.

Keep your Judgy McJudgyface opinions to yourself.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, I am childfree and so glad that my parents don't feel the way you do. They wanted to have a child to have the experience of raising a child, and that was their decision, not mine, obviously. I do not want this experience, and they understand and accept my decision. Frankly, more and more parents should expect to not have grandchildren, as younger generations come to terms with the devastation that climate change is wreaking on the earth.

I mean of course your parents told you that. That raising you was the greatest joy. They are your parents- that’s what they say because they are good a parents! They aren’t making you feel guilty for ending their line because they are good parents! Child free adults often lack this sort of self awareness IMO because they have not yet experienced one of the major seasons in life, which is to have a child. If you skip that entire season, your life is stunted. I didn’t get it either until I had kids so I’m sure you will respond with a giant eye roll, but, sorry.

Even if what you say about my parents is true (it isn't), it demonstrates that YOU are not a good parent. Tying inheritance to progeny is some kind of f*cked up reproductive servitude. I hope your kids have kids, and keep them far from you. It will be the worst of both worlds for you.

[Anonymous]

I think one of brunch grannie's other personalities is coming out today

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, I am childfree and so glad that my parents don't feel the way you do. They wanted to have a child to have the experience of raising a child, and that was their decision, not mine, obviously. I do not want this experience, and they understand and accept my decision. Frankly, more and more parents should expect to not have grandchildren, as younger generations come to terms with the devastation that climate change is wreaking on the earth.

I mean of course your parents told you that. That raising you was the greatest joy. They are your parents- that’s what they say because they are good a parents! They aren’t making you feel guilty for ending their line because they are good parents! Child free adults often lack this sort of self awareness IMO because they have not yet experienced one of the major seasons in life, which is to have a child. If you skip that entire season, your life is stunted. I didn’t get it either until I had kids so I’m sure you will respond with a giant eye roll, but, sorry.

Even if what you say about my parents is true (it isn't), it demonstrates that YOU are not a good parent. Tying inheritance to progeny is some kind of f*cked up reproductive servitude. I hope your kids have kids, and keep them far from you. It will be the worst of both worlds for you.

everyone sees that the hate you spew is actually self-hate

Also, don't curse

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, I am childfree and so glad that my parents don't feel the way you do. They wanted to have a child to have the experience of raising a child, and that was their decision, not mine, obviously. I do not want this experience, and they understand and accept my decision. Frankly, more and more parents should expect to not have grandchildren, as younger generations come to terms with the devastation that climate change is wreaking on the earth.

I mean of course your parents told you that. That raising you was the greatest joy. They are your parents- that’s what they say because they are good a parents! They aren’t making you feel guilty for ending their line because they are good parents! Child free adults often lack this sort of self awareness IMO because they have not yet experienced one of the major seasons in life, which is to have a child. If you skip that entire season, your life is stunted. I didn’t get it either until I had kids so I’m sure you will respond with a giant eye roll, but, sorry.

Even if what you say about my parents is true (it isn't), it demonstrates that YOU are not a good parent. Tying inheritance to progeny is some kind of f*cked up reproductive servitude. I hope your kids have kids, and keep them far from you. It will be the worst of both worlds for you.

everyone sees that the hate you spew is actually self-hate

Also, don't curse

There’s no hate in my post, just a viewpoint that you are not a good parent and should not be allowed around vulnerable children. Also, I’ll swear as goddamn much as this site allows me to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I literally gave up 22 years of my life between pregnancy and up college.

From kids soccer, back to school nights, SAT tutors, 21 birthday parties, play dates, paying for everything including college.

What was point of any of it without grandkids?

Lonely sad life for me at an empty Thanksgiving table with no one to even leave my stuff too.

What was point of having kids, what was even point of career or big house?

"I suffered and sacrificed because of my kids; I want them to suffer and sacrifice, too! Having children is the only thing that gave my life meaning, except it didn't, and now I can't understand why they don't want to do it!"

[Anonymous]

A long line of aristocrats. LOL. Classic. Wondering if, like brunch granny, this will get referenced years from now? What would someone who comes from a long line of aristocrats do? If I wear this, will I look like someone who came from a long line of aristocrats? And yeah, if you are American then to most of us that means “long line of enslavers and human traffickers “. So classy!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Feeling really bad for my gay brother right now. But he doesn't read DCUM so I guess it's fine.

Honestly, OP and the PPs who agree with her make having kids sound like a miserable burden that's only worth it if it pays off in grandchildren. Can't imagine why their kids aren't rushing to reproduce!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I literally gave up 22 years of my life between pregnancy and up college.

From kids soccer, back to school nights, SAT tutors, 21 birthday parties, play dates, paying for everything including college.

What was point of any of it without grandkids?

Lonely sad life for me at an empty Thanksgiving table with no one to even leave my stuff too.

What was point of having kids, what was even point of career or big house?

"I suffered and sacrificed because of my kids; I want them to suffer and sacrifice, too! Having children is the only thing that gave my life meaning, except it didn't, and now I can't understand why they don't want to do it!"

lol, yes, it sounds so crazy and makes no sense. But until you see the great movie, you just won't get it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:


However, I agree with your greater point. What's the point if my line ends?

"My line" LOL. Like you (or me, or any individual) is so important that "our line" must go on. What are you, Einstein?

Everyone you see on the street is related to you. If they go on, your ancestors go on, so you go on.

Stop being so myopic.