If adults kids don’t have kids what’s the point?

[Anonymous]

I literally gave up 22 years of my life between pregnancy and up college.

From kids soccer, back to school nights, SAT tutors, 21 birthday parties, play dates, paying for everything including college.

What was point of any of it without grandkids?

Lonely sad life for me at an empty Thanksgiving table with no one to even leave my stuff too.

What was point of having kids, what was even point of career or big house?

[Anonymous]

you can't be serious

[Anonymous]

The point of life is giving and receiving love. If you don't have bio grandbabies to love, find someone else.

[Anonymous]

Did you ever and stop and think why they don’t want children? Maybe you f’ed up their childhood and life so much that they don’t want to reproduce or carry on your genes.

[Anonymous]

How old are your kids?

[Anonymous]

Well if that was your dream you may need to find a new one. We have the big house but as soon as youngest is out of college or near the end, it’s going on the market. There won’t be a family home to visit for the holidays. We’re traveling and settling in a smaller place where the weather is better. Grandkids would be nice. But as parents you often get kids that don’t look like what you hoped for and you have to live the life you have.

[Anonymous]

The point was to have the experience of raising your children.

[Anonymous]

I totally agree with you. If my kids choose to not have kids I will leave them nothing. Spend all my savings, and give the rest to charity. I did the hard work. If they aren't willing to do the same, they don't need or deserve an inheritance.

[Anonymous]

Come on y'all ignore trolliana.

[Anonymous]

JFC. Did you not enjoy a single second of parenting? Do you not look at your adult children with pride and happiness for the people they have become? Do you never look at them and revel in the magic of a world where this person didn’t exist, and then one day did, and you were lucky enough to get to be their parent?

The reward for parenting is getting to know your child and serve as their guide into the world. It’s an honor. Parenting is a gift in and of itself.

Grandchildren are not prizes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I literally gave up 22 years of my life between pregnancy and up college.

From kids soccer, back to school nights, SAT tutors, 21 birthday parties, play dates, paying for everything including college.

What was point of any of it without grandkids?

Lonely sad life for me at an empty Thanksgiving table with no one to even leave my stuff too.

What was point of having kids, what was even point of career or big house?

Having kids was your choice, they didn't sign up for that.

Having kids of their own is a life altering choice for them, not a mode of entertainment for grandparents.

Enjoy your active retirement, travel, find hobbies, take courses, start a small business, volunteer at soup kitchen on thanksgiving etc.

[Anonymous]

My parents live far away from their grandchildren so thanksgivings are often separate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:JFC. Did you not enjoy a single second of parenting? Do you not look at your adult children with pride and happiness for the people they have become? Do you never look at them and revel in the magic of a world where this person didn’t exist, and then one day did, and you were lucky enough to get to be their parent?

The reward for parenting is getting to know your child and serve as their guide into the world. It’s an honor. Parenting is a gift in and of itself.

Grandchildren are not prizes.

not OP, but yes I did experience all that and I love my kids. However, they aren't some special snowflakes that enlighten my world just with their presence. Well, actually they are, but my parenting of them is done. Time for them to carry the torch. And how I spend my money will depend on the presence of grandchildren.

Also, don't curse

[Anonymous]

I think exactly like you, OP, except that I love parenting and do not regret prioritizing my children.

However, I agree with your greater point. What's the point if my line ends?

I don't know how old you are, but my uncle became a grandfather at 80+ years old. He had his daughter later in life, and she had a daughter at 36. It was probably the happiest day of his life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:JFC. Did you not enjoy a single second of parenting? Do you not look at your adult children with pride and happiness for the people they have become? Do you never look at them and revel in the magic of a world where this person didn’t exist, and then one day did, and you were lucky enough to get to be their parent?

The reward for parenting is getting to know your child and serve as their guide into the world. It’s an honor. Parenting is a gift in and of itself.

Grandchildren are not prizes.

not OP, but yes I did experience all that and I love my kids. However, they aren't some special snowflakes that enlighten my world just with their presence. Well, actually they are, but my parenting of them is done. Time for them to carry the torch. And how I spend my money will depend on the presence of grandchildren.

Also, don't curse

With you as a mother, I'm not at all surprised they chose not to have children.