I'm so tired of mom cliques
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Anonymous
+1, a fair summation of the thread and the issue. Glad you've found people who share your values, PP. |
Anonymous
+1 People take things way too personally. |
Anonymous
Do you teach your kids that they need to worry about the feelings of people who give them the heebie-jeebies? |
Anonymous
Another fair summation of the thread is that some people feel unnecessarily threatened or targeted by things that just really aren't about them. Someone could get offended by literally anything you post. The solution isn't to stop posting but to not look at things that upset you on the internet. That's the only thing you can control. You can cry that whatever is rude and someone else can cry about the tackiness of your posts about food or how it's rude to flaunt your wealth in your posts. There have been tons of people here who are incredibly sanctimonious about their social media usage as though the things THEY post are the right things and no one should be mad about it, but christ. It's social-f'n-media. It's literally meant to be used the way people are using it. If you can't handle it, scroll on by instead of throwing a fit that Becky has fun drinking wine with friends and you wanted to do it too. |
Anonymous
I’m the PP who was being quoted, and, again, you’re misrepresenting the issue. This thread is actually about a very specific, discrete behavior in which some women engage, and which more than a few women find insensitive. Pretending that it’s about “literally anything you post” is disingenuous. You’re right that social media companies want people to use their platforms as social currency. Therein lies the problem. Your crack about people who “can’t handle it” reflects poorly on you, not on people who don’t like being excluded. |
Anonymous
Learn to read. I said all posts could be offensive to someone. There are people here who literally were like "well I don't post THOSE types of photos. Instead here's what I post..." as though they were better or the objectively right things to post. The women who find other people's posts offensive and keep looking at them are just hurting themselves. Completely fragile. I mean, we have multiple people here who see other people's posts and literally think the posts were meant to hurt them, specifically. People were frothing to the level of calling people "whores" or "unhinged" for posting photos of social events they weren't invited to. That's a level of feeling persecuted and self-victimization that's pathological. |
Anonymous
I can read fine, thanks. I still think you’re misrepresenting the specific issue in this thread. |
Anonymous
| The lesson of this thread is that people should use the mute and unfollow options liberally. They can always be reversed. |
Anonymous
Ok, you’re my friend IRL I’m going to have a huge ladies night out with 15 people in my backyard and deck. I’m going to post it. Hope you’re happy for me! You are not invited, still hope you are happy I had a good time. I will do it next week and the week after. I will talk to you and be friends with you. But you’ll never come to my party and I will post it weekly. |
Anonymous
Agreed. Several PPs on here getting all worked up about their own social media use and defending it, that they don't seem to grasp that not all situations are the same. There are definitely women who use social media in a hurtful, manipulative way. Your BBQ pics may not be hurting anyone, but don't pretend there aren't other people who do this kind of thing. |
Anonymous
More diversity, especially of class, really helps with this. If everyone is wealthy, it's always going to be a thing. |
Anonymous
This comment mostly just reiterated fir me that social media is kind of trash and that the only way to use it in a way that isn’t obnoxious is to simply not use it at all. Thanks for the reminder, PP. |
Anonymous
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I have never run into a mom clique and I have been a mom for 10.5 years.
I just don't have the time to notice, I guess. |
Anonymous
The “if you can’t handle it, get off social media!” posts are particularly silly to me. People who are bothered by stuff like this likely want to get off social media— the platforms make it very difficult to do (designed to be addictive) and many of them are so woven into society now that it’s hard to get off. I am aware you can mute/unfollow and I use those liberally, but it doesn’t mean I don’t sometimes feel affected by what I see. This isn’t even controversial— pretty much every major study into social media use shows that it is bad for mental health, can increase incidence of depression, and can be a source of low self-worth, especially for female users. I’ve never seen a study of Facebook that concluded “actually best way to share joy, people who don’t like stuff can easily avoid seeing it.” That’s not how Facebook works. |
Anonymous
Good job, you are the best mom I guess. |