Women 35+ who have never been in a relationship

[Anonymous]

I worked in a majority female profession and knew a lot of women who never married. I had grown up/gone to school in a bubble with people who wanted relationships and I was surprised at first by how many women didn’t get married. After a while, I knew quite a few. What I noticed: some were probably gay but didn’t talk about their personal lives. Some who I knew better were unrealistic in their expectations or they didn’t really want to be intimate but they could say they tried and no one measured up. One person was having an affair with a married man. Someone mentioned secret relationships earlier, and I’m sure this happens a lot. Others were just happy being alone, doing what they wanted, didn’t want marriage or kids and would say so. They didn’t feel like they were missing anything. They liked to travel, had lots of hobbies and friends. And there were a couple of people who had bad personalities and couldn’t get along with others and were not happy people. Anyway, lots of people forgo marriage. I always wanted to get married and thought most people aspired to it but they don’t.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Some women who "have never been in a relationship" actually have been in relationships with men they keep secret. The handyman who does a lot more than painting and plumbing. The married professor who met her for coffee. The dumb jock who would be a catch to some but seems too dumb to introduce to friends. The boss who showed a different side of his personality during a business trip. The neighbor who flirted in the laundry room. The guy from out of town who went on a group hiking trip.

You have this all wrong -- she isn't afraid to introduce the "dumb jock" to her friends, he refuses to introduce her to his.

I've dated many men I'd never introduce to my friends. One guy I was involved with on and off for twenty years. And I considered myself single the whole time.
All relationships are different.

I think this is much more common than most people realize. A woman I dated on and off had a guy like this. She meets new men and doesn't tell them about him, but I figured it out.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Some women who "have never been in a relationship" actually have been in relationships with men they keep secret. The handyman who does a lot more than painting and plumbing. The married professor who met her for coffee. The dumb jock who would be a catch to some but seems too dumb to introduce to friends. The boss who showed a different side of his personality during a business trip. The neighbor who flirted in the laundry room. The guy from out of town who went on a group hiking trip.

You have this all wrong -- she isn't afraid to introduce the "dumb jock" to her friends, he refuses to introduce her to his.

I've dated many men I'd never introduce to my friends. One guy I was involved with on and off for twenty years. And I considered myself single the whole time.
All relationships are different.

I think this is much more common than most people realize. A woman I dated on and off had a guy like this. She meets new men and doesn't tell them about him, but I figured it out.

I think we’ve all been there with “dates” we don’t introduce to family and friends.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Some women who "have never been in a relationship" actually have been in relationships with men they keep secret. The handyman who does a lot more than painting and plumbing. The married professor who met her for coffee. The dumb jock who would be a catch to some but seems too dumb to introduce to friends. The boss who showed a different side of his personality during a business trip. The neighbor who flirted in the laundry room. The guy from out of town who went on a group hiking trip.

You have this all wrong -- she isn't afraid to introduce the "dumb jock" to her friends, he refuses to introduce her to his.

I've dated many men I'd never introduce to my friends. One guy I was involved with on and off for twenty years. And I considered myself single the whole time.
All relationships are different.

I think this is much more common than most people realize. A woman I dated on and off had a guy like this. She meets new men and doesn't tell them about him, but I figured it out.

I think we’ve all been there with “dates” we don’t introduce to family and friends.

It’s not just dates though. I’ve been in all kinds of relationships on and off for thirty years and I’m sure many people think I’ve never been in one.

Part of it is other people’s presumptuousness about how much they know about me. I remember running into an old friend and stopping to chat, and she asked me where I was headed. I mentioned that I was meeting my boyfriend and she seemed shocked and almost offended that she didn’t know I was seeing someone. But why would she? I hadn’t seen her or spoken to her in years, and while I was connected to her on social media at the time (I no longer use it), I didn’t share my relationship status. Off the top of my head I can recall a few instances like this.

It’s not like I’m hiding anything, but why on earth would everyone know all about my love/sex life? We’re not in high school or living in a sorority house. We’re adults with our own homes and our own busy lives.

[Anonymous]

A woman who I went to high school with claims she's 34 and not only has she never dated and but she has never kissed a guy before either.

Yeah another reminder that most people and most of society would never expect this for women because well women Naturally by default always have options and suitors or have attention from Men by default since they have always been the ones to get approached and pursued and courted and hit on.

Even the hottest handsome good looking men or high status men normally never have women chasing them or pursuing them or hitting on them or making advances on them

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They are very pretty, educated, professionally successful, and have interesting hobbies.

But they have few social skills. They don't know how to date. They don't know how to communicate well. They don't know how to be with someone in a non-work capacity. They have no idea about how to sustain a long-term, loving relationship with one other person. No man her age wants to teach her how, either. Instead, a man will look at her and think there must be a bad reason why she's never had a long-term relationship. Next.

Because OLD is tacky, most dating seems to involve alcohol, and guys pressure women to have sex.

That's the cold, hard truth.

[Anonymous]

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Because OLD is tacky, most dating seems to involve alcohol, and guys pressure women to have sex.

[Anonymous]

Women Naturally by default always have options

[Anonymous]

a woman on tiktok who has gotten lots of views, claims she has always been single and forever alone:
https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTNmFwxsQ/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a lot of female acquaintances who are 35+ but have never been in a relationship. They are very pretty, educated, professionally successful, and have interesting hobbies. I understand if someone was unlucky in love and hasn’t met the right person, but it’s hard for me to understand never even trying. They might go on the occasional first date but have never had anyone they introduce as a partner or SO and never talk about looking for it. I’m so curious about how this happened but don’t want to be rude and ask them.

I also know men 35+ who have never been in relationships but it seems a bit different — for them it seems more related to social awkwardness, fear of rejection, or laziness. But who knows.

You think they are pretty but they aren’t.
The women you are talking about are not attractive. Really attractive women get what they want.

[Anonymous]

No such thing as a woman who has never been in a relationship. I think the ones who say that just mean no "meaningful" relationships. They definitely have men they are having sex with.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have a lot of female acquaintances who are 35+ but have never been in a relationship. They are very pretty, educated, professionally successful, and have interesting hobbies. I understand if someone was unlucky in love and hasn’t met the right person, but it’s hard for me to understand never even trying. They might go on the occasional first date but have never had anyone they introduce as a partner or SO and never talk about looking for it. I’m so curious about how this happened but don’t want to be rude and ask them.

I also know men 35+ who have never been in relationships but it seems a bit different — for them it seems more related to social awkwardness, fear of rejection, or laziness. But who knows.

You think they are pretty but they aren’t.
The women you are talking about are not attractive. Really attractive women get what they want.

And some of those really attractive women don’t want to be in a relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No such thing as a woman who has never been in a relationship. I think the ones who say that just mean no "meaningful" relationships. They definitely have men they are having sex with.

That sounds more believable

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No such thing as a woman who has never been in a relationship. I think the ones who say that just mean no "meaningful" relationships. They definitely have men they are having sex with.

lol sure. There just as many incel women as there are incel men. Just read through this board. For some reason it is okay to be an incel if you are female.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No such thing as a woman who has never been in a relationship. I think the ones who say that just mean no "meaningful" relationships. They definitely have men they are having sex with.

lol sure. There just as many incel women as there are incel men. Just read through this board. For some reason it is okay to be an incel if you are female.

It's okay for anyone to be an incel.

Why is not not okay with you if someone is celibate?