Women 35+ who have never been in a relationship

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Reasons why they could be single:
-fat -men generally hate fat women
-asexual or closeted lesbians
- autistic-there’s lot of high functioning masked autistic women who just never got diagnosed out there and this makes them have difficult social relationships
-overly picky
-doesn’t leave the house because they wfh and won’t use dating apps
-undiagnosed mental health issues that make dating for them difficult

This sounds like one of my sisters. Mid-40s, only had one boyfriend ever, and no longer dating. The one boyfriend was nice but I think she took him to see our parents way too much. They got too involved in the relationship and he smelled the desperation. She’s still single and a very, very devoted daughter. I wish she’d move, get out from under mommy and daddy’s watch and allow herself to grow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Reasons why they could be single:
-fat -men generally hate fat women
-asexual or closeted lesbians
- autistic-there’s lot of high functioning masked autistic women who just never got diagnosed out there and this makes them have difficult social relationships
-overly picky
-doesn’t leave the house because they wfh and won’t use dating apps
-undiagnosed mental health issues that make dating for them difficult

This sounds like one of my sisters. Mid-40s, only had one boyfriend ever, and no longer dating. The one boyfriend was nice but I think she took him to see our parents way too much. They got too involved in the relationship and he smelled the desperation. She’s still single and a very, very devoted daughter. I wish she’d move, get out from under mommy and daddy’s watch and allow herself to grow.

She can't do that until she gets married and has a kid

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Reasons why they could be single:
-fat -men generally hate fat women
-asexual or closeted lesbians
- autistic-there’s lot of high functioning masked autistic women who just never got diagnosed out there and this makes them have difficult social relationships
-overly picky
-doesn’t leave the house because they wfh and won’t use dating apps
-undiagnosed mental health issues that make dating for them difficult

This sounds like one of my sisters. Mid-40s, only had one boyfriend ever, and no longer dating. The one boyfriend was nice but I think she took him to see our parents way too much. They got too involved in the relationship and he smelled the desperation. She’s still single and a very, very devoted daughter. I wish she’d move, get out from under mommy and daddy’s watch and allow herself to grow.

Why, are you afraid she's going to inherit all their money?

Seriously though, I'm sure your parents are happy that she's very devoted to them, and maybe your sister is happy too. We don't all want the same things out of life. I love spending time with my parents. I'm going on a four month cruise with them in November and it's going to be amazing.

[Anonymous]

I think of them as just being smart and saving themselves a headache

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Reasons why they could be single:
-fat -men generally hate fat women
-asexual or closeted lesbians
- autistic-there’s lot of high functioning masked autistic women who just never got diagnosed out there and this makes them have difficult social relationships
-overly picky
-doesn’t leave the house because they wfh and won’t use dating apps
-undiagnosed mental health issues that make dating for them difficult

This sounds like one of my sisters. Mid-40s, only had one boyfriend ever, and no longer dating. The one boyfriend was nice but I think she took him to see our parents way too much. They got too involved in the relationship and he smelled the desperation. She’s still single and a very, very devoted daughter. I wish she’d move, get out from under mommy and daddy’s watch and allow herself to grow.

She can't do that until she gets married and has a kid

Why not? Surely she can grow without a man. And how is she going to have a kid now?

[Anonymous]

This was me. I never dated after high school and then married a long lost friend in my 40s. I just didn't like anyone. I was perfectly happy alone. The amount of effort it took to feign interest on dates was exhausting, and I'd rather be at home with a good book. Loved being alone actually and still do. I can't explain how I ended up married. It's kind of a miracle.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think of them as just being smart and saving themselves a headache

I've dated a lot and have had a few short term relationships, but they are just so draining and make me unhappy. Once I stopped letting other people tell me that there's something wrong with me for not wanting to be part of a couple, life got a lot better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This was me. I never dated after high school and then married a long lost friend in my 40s. I just didn't like anyone. I was perfectly happy alone. The amount of effort it took to feign interest on dates was exhausting, and I'd rather be at home with a good book. Loved being alone actually and still do. I can't explain how I ended up married. It's kind of a miracle.

Why did you get married then?

[Anonymous]

This could have been me. I'm smart and like being on my own (think scientist). Having a relationship takes a lot of time and energy, especially for women. It didn't help that my mom thought of herself (still does in her 80ties) as "very pretty", so in her opinion I'd never find anyone, because I didn't even try. Once I left home, I didn't exactly know what to do with all the male interest. Anyways, in the end I did get married and had kids, but I'm not sure all of this is for me. I love being a mom, hate being a wife. The older I get, the more I dislike all the expectations put on married women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think of them as just being smart and saving themselves a headache

I've dated a lot and have had a few short term relationships, but they are just so draining and make me unhappy. Once I stopped letting other people tell me that there's something wrong with me for not wanting to be part of a couple, life got a lot better.

The majority of women who get divorced have zero interest in remarrying, whereas most divorced men want to remarry right away. Women also file for 70% of divorces.

The difference between the single divorcee realizing she loves drinking wine in her vacation home alone vs the 40 something woman who never dated or married a man in the first place is that one reached the same conclusion much faster.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Reasons why they could be single:
-fat -men generally hate fat women
-asexual or closeted lesbians
- autistic-there’s lot of high functioning masked autistic women who just never got diagnosed out there and this makes them have difficult social relationships
-overly picky
-doesn’t leave the house because they wfh and won’t use dating apps
-undiagnosed mental health issues that make dating for them difficult

This sounds like one of my sisters. Mid-40s, only had one boyfriend ever, and no longer dating. The one boyfriend was nice but I think she took him to see our parents way too much. They got too involved in the relationship and he smelled the desperation. She’s still single and a very, very devoted daughter. I wish she’d move, get out from under mommy and daddy’s watch and allow herself to grow.

Why, are you afraid she's going to inherit all their money?

Seriously though, I'm sure your parents are happy that she's very devoted to them, and maybe your sister is happy too. We don't all want the same things out of life. I love spending time with my parents. I'm going on a four month cruise with them in November and it's going to be amazing.

Not worried about they money. She can have it all. As a parent I would feel sad if my kids opted to attach themselves to me for the rest of their lives. I cant be everything to them, nor would I want them to be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think of them as just being smart and saving themselves a headache

I've dated a lot and have had a few short term relationships, but they are just so draining and make me unhappy. Once I stopped letting other people tell me that there's something wrong with me for not wanting to be part of a couple, life got a lot better.

The majority of women who get divorced have zero interest in remarrying, whereas most divorced men want to remarry right away. Women also file for 70% of divorces.

The difference between the single divorcee realizing she loves drinking wine in her vacation home alone vs the 40 something woman who never dated or married a man in the first place is that one reached the same conclusion much faster.

And yet society (including women) calls the former brave and the latter pathetic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think of them as just being smart and saving themselves a headache

I've dated a lot and have had a few short term relationships, but they are just so draining and make me unhappy. Once I stopped letting other people tell me that there's something wrong with me for not wanting to be part of a couple, life got a lot better.

The majority of women who get divorced have zero interest in remarrying, whereas most divorced men want to remarry right away. Women also file for 70% of divorces.

The difference between the single divorcee realizing she loves drinking wine in her vacation home alone vs the 40 something woman who never dated or married a man in the first place is that one reached the same conclusion much faster.

And yet society (including women) calls the former brave and the latter pathetic.

I dont but I agree with you. A lot of the harshness directed towards single women, IMO, is because they arent buying into the force fed narrative, they arent "helping to create the next generation" and theyre showing other women that they have other options beyond being a domestic slave for a man. That you dont actually have to put up with the misery and betrayal. And that's dangerous

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Reasons why they could be single:
-fat -men generally hate fat women
-asexual or closeted lesbians
- autistic-there’s lot of high functioning masked autistic women who just never got diagnosed out there and this makes them have difficult social relationships
-overly picky
-doesn’t leave the house because they wfh and won’t use dating apps
-undiagnosed mental health issues that make dating for them difficult

This sounds like one of my sisters. Mid-40s, only had one boyfriend ever, and no longer dating. The one boyfriend was nice but I think she took him to see our parents way too much. They got too involved in the relationship and he smelled the desperation. She’s still single and a very, very devoted daughter. I wish she’d move, get out from under mommy and daddy’s watch and allow herself to grow.

Why, are you afraid she's going to inherit all their money?

Seriously though, I'm sure your parents are happy that she's very devoted to them, and maybe your sister is happy too. We don't all want the same things out of life. I love spending time with my parents. I'm going on a four month cruise with them in November and it's going to be amazing.

Not worried about they money. She can have it all. As a parent I would feel sad if my kids opted to attach themselves to me for the rest of their lives. I cant be everything to them, nor would I want them to be.

You’re talking like their relationship is all on your sister. Your parents probably benefit from it, or enjoy it, and if they don’t, and your sister is imposing herself on them and they’re powerless against her, maybe you should intervene.

[Anonymous]

this woman on Tiktok, she has made videos before but now she recently got her first boyfriend in her early 40s.
https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTFjvWB7W/