Women 35+ who have never been in a relationship

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Anonymous wrote:They are very pretty, educated, professionally successful, and have interesting hobbies.

But they have few social skills. They don't know how to date. They don't know how to communicate well. They don't know how to be with someone in a non-work capacity. They have no idea about how to sustain a long-term, loving relationship with one other person. No man her age wants to teach her how, either. Instead, a man will look at her and think there must be a bad reason why she's never had a long-term relationship. Next.

Because OLD is tacky, most dating seems to involve alcohol, and guys pressure women to have sex.

That's the cold, hard truth.

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Because OLD is tacky, most dating seems to involve alcohol, and guys pressure women to have sex.

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Women Naturally by default always have options

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a woman on tiktok who has gotten lots of views, claims she has always been single and forever alone:
https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTNmFwxsQ/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a lot of female acquaintances who are 35+ but have never been in a relationship. They are very pretty, educated, professionally successful, and have interesting hobbies. I understand if someone was unlucky in love and hasn’t met the right person, but it’s hard for me to understand never even trying. They might go on the occasional first date but have never had anyone they introduce as a partner or SO and never talk about looking for it. I’m so curious about how this happened but don’t want to be rude and ask them.

I also know men 35+ who have never been in relationships but it seems a bit different — for them it seems more related to social awkwardness, fear of rejection, or laziness. But who knows.

You think they are pretty but they aren’t.
The women you are talking about are not attractive. Really attractive women get what they want.

[Anonymous]

No such thing as a woman who has never been in a relationship. I think the ones who say that just mean no "meaningful" relationships. They definitely have men they are having sex with.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have a lot of female acquaintances who are 35+ but have never been in a relationship. They are very pretty, educated, professionally successful, and have interesting hobbies. I understand if someone was unlucky in love and hasn’t met the right person, but it’s hard for me to understand never even trying. They might go on the occasional first date but have never had anyone they introduce as a partner or SO and never talk about looking for it. I’m so curious about how this happened but don’t want to be rude and ask them.

I also know men 35+ who have never been in relationships but it seems a bit different — for them it seems more related to social awkwardness, fear of rejection, or laziness. But who knows.

You think they are pretty but they aren’t.
The women you are talking about are not attractive. Really attractive women get what they want.

And some of those really attractive women don’t want to be in a relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No such thing as a woman who has never been in a relationship. I think the ones who say that just mean no "meaningful" relationships. They definitely have men they are having sex with.

That sounds more believable

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No such thing as a woman who has never been in a relationship. I think the ones who say that just mean no "meaningful" relationships. They definitely have men they are having sex with.

lol sure. There just as many incel women as there are incel men. Just read through this board. For some reason it is okay to be an incel if you are female.

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Anonymous wrote:No such thing as a woman who has never been in a relationship. I think the ones who say that just mean no "meaningful" relationships. They definitely have men they are having sex with.

lol sure. There just as many incel women as there are incel men. Just read through this board. For some reason it is okay to be an incel if you are female.

It's okay for anyone to be an incel.

Why is not not okay with you if someone is celibate?

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Just doesn't seem possible for women as much as men

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A woman who I went to high school with claims she's 34 and not only has she never dated and but she has never kissed a guy before either.

Yeah another reminder that most people and most of society would never expect this for women because well women Naturally by default always have options and suitors or have attention from Men by default since they have always been the ones to get approached and pursued and courted and hit on.

Even the hottest handsome good looking men or high status men normally never have women chasing them or pursuing them or hitting on them or making advances on them

Wow, that's not true. My dh is hot and has had women try to flirt with him in front of me. The hot married guys I worked with had women chasing them. Dh and I participate joined a hiking group and I often didn't walk with him. Women definitely were after him and other single good looking guys.

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Anonymous wrote:A woman who I went to high school with claims she's 34 and not only has she never dated and but she has never kissed a guy before either.

Yeah another reminder that most people and most of society would never expect this for women because well women Naturally by default always have options and suitors or have attention from Men by default since they have always been the ones to get approached and pursued and courted and hit on.

Even the hottest handsome good looking men or high status men normally never have women chasing them or pursuing them or hitting on them or making advances on them

Wow, that's not true. My dh is hot and has had women try to flirt with him in front of me. The hot married guys I worked with had women chasing them. Dh and I participate joined a hiking group and I often didn't walk with him. Women definitely were after him and other single good looking guys.

Well there's no denying the fact that 99% of heterosexual relationships are initiated by the man, women Almost Never approach men or ask men out

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Many are either lesbian (whether or not they realize it), low self esteem, avoid men due to trauma, untreated special needs like autism, or mental health issues (sometimes created by family issues like some pp's described).

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Anonymous wrote:They are very pretty, educated, professionally successful, and have interesting hobbies.

But they have few social skills. They don't know how to date. They don't know how to communicate well. They don't know how to be with someone in a non-work capacity. They have no idea about how to sustain a long-term, loving relationship with one other person. No man her age wants to teach her how, either. Instead, a man will look at her and think there must be a bad reason why she's never had a long-term relationship. Next.

That's the cold, hard truth.

yep, that was me. I didn't know what to talk to guys about other than work stuff, news and current events. I took myself way too seriously.

So what are we supposed to talk about? /middle aged women lacking social skills.

PP here, well, now that I'm in my early 50s, I have my kids, my house, summer plans, some traveling I've done, to talk about. When I was 30, I didn't have any kids, hadn't traveled much, and was apartment hopping.

Did you watch movies? Television shows? Listen to music? Read books?

Yea, movies and tv are somewhat safe topics, and I did talk about those, but it was also about feeling comfortable with the other person to talk about things like that because what you watch is kind of personal, IMO, but I guess it would show how compatible you might be.

Like when I was 30, if a guy talked about watching jack@ass, I'd be completely turned off. I'd feel the same about women who watched The Real Housewives, too.

This is such a strange response. I don't mean this unkindly, but if you are this anxious about sharing what kind of TV shows you like to watch, you probably need therapy. Men - they are similar to women! My husband and I recently have watched Succession, Poker Face, and Billions together and enjoyed them together.

+1 That's an abnormal level of controlling and fear to refuse to share what tv shows you watch. It's also very controlling and judgmental to reject even potential friends because of what they watch. There's an underlying trauma or mental health issue here.