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Was accidentally on a group text...
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Anonymous
She sounds like a super bitch. |
Anonymous
This was a good reply from you to her, OP. A pretty shitty response from her to you, however. Clearly it WAS personal since it was directed at your child. I guess now you just need to let it go. |
Anonymous
No, I would never do that, and it has never happened in my group of friends. I'm sorry you have shitty friends. |
Anonymous
I was thinking that, actually. The defining characteristic here is punching down. A "Becky" will punch down by refusing to confront bullies and always choosing the passive option when other white folks are involved (whether those white folks are bullies at the BarreTheory studio, or racist Uncle Bob at Thanksgiving). That same person might yell at a service worker or choose conflict when the person they are confronting is "beneath them" in either racial hierarchy or the social construct of white vs. blue collar employment. |
Anonymous
Maybe, but I want to hear more about this last time you were all together, OP. What were the circumstances and were you aware then that your son might have been annoying other people? |
Anonymous
Oh my god. It literally does not matter. There is nothing that kid could have done that would make what text lady did okay. Why is this so hard for people to understand. |
Anonymous
Yep this. |
Anonymous
This. It's the kind of remark that I would totally make in private to my husband about an annoying kid. But never to a whole crowd or virtual crowd. If text lady had said the same thing to her husband during a Zoom because she mistakenly thought she was on mute, I would be much more sympathetic to her but would still expect a profuse apology and would make one myself if it was me. |
Anonymous
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It's weird to me how many people are saying "oh, take the free advice" and dismissing how rude this was.
I don't have a loud kid-- I have a shy, quiet kid. I don't worry about people complaining about my kid being too high energy or making too much noise. Usually people say things like "Can we adopt her? She was so polite!" And yet, the idea of someone saying something unkind about her at all, much less in a group setting, is awful to me. I could imagine people making fun of my kid for being quiet or shy, or making a crack about how she's not outgoing enough or doesn't have enough friends. And because it would be based on a kernel of truth, I'd take it personally. She is quiet, she doesn't have a ton of friends, and I do sometimes worry about it because I'm her mom and it's my job. So it is extremely easy for me to recognize that this kind of comment is just hurtful. It's not helpful AT ALL. OP knows her son is loud and high energy. She worries about it sometimes and works on it because she wants her son to be well-liked. She doesn't need a fellow parent making snarking comments that will only make her feel more stressed about it. It was a rude comment. It deserved a real apology, and the fact that this other woman just made an excuse and blew it off sucks. Imagine if it had been a child who made that comment, and had "apologized" by saying "Oh yeah, nothing personal, I just have a lot going on." I'm betting you'd all think "What kind of parent lets their kid get off that easy -- make a real apology." I don't care how loud he is. He didn't do anything wrong. This woman did. Why are so many people asking a child to behave better because a full-grown adult doesn't know how to take responsibility for her actions? SMDH |
Anonymous
My guess is that this kid has been the topic of many texts between the group. |
Anonymous
The unkindness isn't great but it's not like what she said isn't true, and OP hasn't had much to say about that. Anyone with a modicum of self-awareness knows when their kid is THAT KID and hard for other parents to have around. |
Anonymous
100% I don't know what is wrong with all you women who think there is any place for a comment from a woman like that to a group of moms who know that boy and his mother. And then can't be adult enough to apologize. She sounds awful. OP: I'm disappointed to hear that you didn't feel a direct question to her, inside the group text, was the way to go. I'm sorry it happened, but you should have handled it with some serious heat! |
Anonymous
If so, that just means that there are more jerks than one. Saying unkind things to one's spouse or other close confidant one-on-one (which we all do to vent) is totally different than trashing someone to a group of people to get laughs. |
Anonymous
👏🏼WHAT DONT YALL UNDERSTAND 👏🏼 Even if the kid is “that kid” it is not okay what she did! It was immature, high school Regina George crap but mean mom version. If that’s how she feels about the kid, fine. There are kids in our social circle I find kind of annoying. But they aren’t bad kids or deserving to be put down in a group text of other mean moms. Those convos are reserved for your spouse while doing the dishes in the privacy of your home. What she did was wrong. There’s no take away for OP except that the woman and others in the text are a pile of snakes. Period. |
Anonymous
+1. Adults gossiping about children aren’t happy people, and the gossip is a reflection of the adults issues, not the kid. |