Was accidentally on a group text...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's interesting that the bully's reaction was to immediately position herself as the victim, and then lean on the trope of tipsy soccer mom.

A real apology would name the thing she did wrong, name the impact, and set out a plan to improve as a human being.

She did none of the above.

Yep. That woman is a loser.

Does not mean she is wrong.

I am forever grateful for the loser, mean mom in DD’s GS troop who spoke up about the twins that were ruining the experience for everyone else. At that time, due to DD’s health and some CS and visitation issues, that was her one weekly activity. She started dreading it due to two sisters’ behavior. It came to a head when we were asked to leave our rented meeting space in a MCPS school because of the twins’ noise disturbing other groups and their refusal to stop messing with the stuff in the classroom. The troop leader felt powerless and could only suggest that those of us who wanted to leave find a new troop. The loser mean mom told the troop leader that we ALL we leaving and asked for our cookie money. The next meeting the twins were gone.

Your kids sound like weak, pathetic snowflakes.

So are the people in the other rooms who complained about noise. And the teacher who complained that her materials were interfered with. Everyone is weak and pathetic except for your twins, Stephanie. We were soooooo miserable when you didn’t come back.

Yes. A teacher who can’t handle kids is pathetic.

[Anonymous]

I know it hurts but truly think about how to support the kid better. My sister is parenting “that” kid. He was tough, has ADHD, is way to loud, and causes chaos everywhere he goes. My three kids hated spending time with them because of her son. The text message was petty and not useful but I completely understand how horrible it is to be around an out of control kid. I finally got the courage to sit down and explain that my kids didn’t come to visit because they couldn’t handle being around her son. Of course, I said it much nicer and with examples of things that had happened but the message was clear. She started the kid in therapy and changed the way she parented him (her parenting style worked just fine for her other kid who was in fun to be around). I told her because I loved the little guy but would never tell another parent in a parent group this. Maybe your kid is just fine, maybe you aren’t ready to take a close look at how things are going socially for your kid, and maybe someone will be snarky about my post. I don’t care because I know my sister’s biggest regret is that she waited 7 years for someone to be honest with her about her son. She is a good mom for her other kid but she needed help and education to be the parent her son needed. Maybe you do too?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's interesting that the bully's reaction was to immediately position herself as the victim, and then lean on the trope of tipsy soccer mom.

A real apology would name the thing she did wrong, name the impact, and set out a plan to improve as a human being.

She did none of the above.

Yep. That woman is a loser.

Does not mean she is wrong.

I am forever grateful for the loser, mean mom in DD’s GS troop who spoke up about the twins that were ruining the experience for everyone else. At that time, due to DD’s health and some CS and visitation issues, that was her one weekly activity. She started dreading it due to two sisters’ behavior. It came to a head when we were asked to leave our rented meeting space in a MCPS school because of the twins’ noise disturbing other groups and their refusal to stop messing with the stuff in the classroom. The troop leader felt powerless and could only suggest that those of us who wanted to leave find a new troop. The loser mean mom told the troop leader that we ALL we leaving and asked for our cookie money. The next meeting the twins were gone.

I love this post. 1. That there was a Mom that stood up (though I'm firmly against how the textmom handled things) and 2. The line where you said 'asked for our cookie money'. LOL! I'm not a Girl Scout Mom, but that has to be laying down the gauntlet statement, to show you guys really meant business. I would have even been ok if the parents had designated the 'mean mom' to talk to the twins' parents. Take it head on. I don't believe anyone should suffer. It's the backhanded/passive-aggressive thing I cannot tolerate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's interesting that the bully's reaction was to immediately position herself as the victim, and then lean on the trope of tipsy soccer mom.

A real apology would name the thing she did wrong, name the impact, and set out a plan to improve as a human being.

She did none of the above.

Yep. That woman is a loser.

Does not mean she is wrong.

I am forever grateful for the loser, mean mom in DD’s GS troop who spoke up about the twins that were ruining the experience for everyone else. At that time, due to DD’s health and some CS and visitation issues, that was her one weekly activity. She started dreading it due to two sisters’ behavior. It came to a head when we were asked to leave our rented meeting space in a MCPS school because of the twins’ noise disturbing other groups and their refusal to stop messing with the stuff in the classroom. The troop leader felt powerless and could only suggest that those of us who wanted to leave find a new troop. The loser mean mom told the troop leader that we ALL we leaving and asked for our cookie money. The next meeting the twins were gone.

Your kids sound like weak, pathetic snowflakes.

So are the people in the other rooms who complained about noise. And the teacher who complained that her materials were interfered with. Everyone is weak and pathetic except for your twins, Stephanie. We were soooooo miserable when you didn’t come back.

Yes. A teacher who can’t handle kids is pathetic.

How can a teacher handle kids who come into the classroom after hours when the room is for rent by MCPS and the teacher is not allowed to be in the room?

Do you even know how ICB works?

A group rents space from MCPS, including classrooms. They are not supposed to use any supplies in the classroom or touch private property there. Most groups that include children such as churches, scouting, private language or STEM classes will get complaints that materials were wrongfully used or moved. Most teachers have just the lock on their desk or a single locked cabinet. They can’t fit everything they need to protect behind lock and key. Imagine how your child would feel if they came in on Wed morning to find all of their crayons snapped in two?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's interesting that the bully's reaction was to immediately position herself as the victim, and then lean on the trope of tipsy soccer mom.

A real apology would name the thing she did wrong, name the impact, and set out a plan to improve as a human being.

She did none of the above.

Yep. That woman is a loser.

Does not mean she is wrong.

I am forever grateful for the loser, mean mom in DD’s GS troop who spoke up about the twins that were ruining the experience for everyone else. At that time, due to DD’s health and some CS and visitation issues, that was her one weekly activity. She started dreading it due to two sisters’ behavior. It came to a head when we were asked to leave our rented meeting space in a MCPS school because of the twins’ noise disturbing other groups and their refusal to stop messing with the stuff in the classroom. The troop leader felt powerless and could only suggest that those of us who wanted to leave find a new troop. The loser mean mom told the troop leader that we ALL we leaving and asked for our cookie money. The next meeting the twins were gone.

Your kids sound like weak, pathetic snowflakes.

So are the people in the other rooms who complained about noise. And the teacher who complained that her materials were interfered with. Everyone is weak and pathetic except for your twins, Stephanie. We were soooooo miserable when you didn’t come back.

Yes. A teacher who can’t handle kids is pathetic.

How can a teacher handle kids who come into the classroom after hours when the room is for rent by MCPS and the teacher is not allowed to be in the room?

Do you even know how ICB works?

A group rents space from MCPS, including classrooms. They are not supposed to use any supplies in the classroom or touch private property there. Most groups that include children such as churches, scouting, private language or STEM classes will get complaints that materials were wrongfully used or moved. Most teachers have just the lock on their desk or a single locked cabinet. They can’t fit everything they need to protect behind lock and key. Imagine how your child would feel if they came in on Wed morning to find all of their crayons snapped in two?

God help me if my child fell apart over crayons being snapped.

Get a life lady.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's interesting that the bully's reaction was to immediately position herself as the victim, and then lean on the trope of tipsy soccer mom.

A real apology would name the thing she did wrong, name the impact, and set out a plan to improve as a human being.

She did none of the above.

Yep. That woman is a loser.

Does not mean she is wrong.

I am forever grateful for the loser, mean mom in DD’s GS troop who spoke up about the twins that were ruining the experience for everyone else. At that time, due to DD’s health and some CS and visitation issues, that was her one weekly activity. She started dreading it due to two sisters’ behavior. It came to a head when we were asked to leave our rented meeting space in a MCPS school because of the twins’ noise disturbing other groups and their refusal to stop messing with the stuff in the classroom. The troop leader felt powerless and could only suggest that those of us who wanted to leave find a new troop. The loser mean mom told the troop leader that we ALL we leaving and asked for our cookie money. The next meeting the twins were gone.

Your kids sound like weak, pathetic snowflakes.

So are the people in the other rooms who complained about noise. And the teacher who complained that her materials were interfered with. Everyone is weak and pathetic except for your twins, Stephanie. We were soooooo miserable when you didn’t come back.

Yes. A teacher who can’t handle kids is pathetic.

How can a teacher handle kids who come into the classroom after hours when the room is for rent by MCPS and the teacher is not allowed to be in the room?

Do you even know how ICB works?

A group rents space from MCPS, including classrooms. They are not supposed to use any supplies in the classroom or touch private property there. Most groups that include children such as churches, scouting, private language or STEM classes will get complaints that materials were wrongfully used or moved. Most teachers have just the lock on their desk or a single locked cabinet. They can’t fit everything they need to protect behind lock and key. Imagine how your child would feel if they came in on Wed morning to find all of their crayons snapped in two?

God help me if my child fell apart over crayons being snapped.

Get a life lady.

Little kids don’t just shrug that off. Unless their parents are so cold-hearted that they know they’d better not cry. You have conditioned your children well, Mommy Dearest.

[Anonymous]

Aside. What is a “stressed wine emoji”?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Does nothing bad ever happen in other people's lives? I'm surprised by this uproar. I feel sorry for the OP and also for the mom who mistakenly sent the bitchy text. They're both going to be equally stung for life.

+1 The responses on this thread are so over the top. The kid probably is a handful and the lady probably is mean. Such is life.

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Yes. The overreaction on this thread has been eye-opening. Dropping an entire friend group, changing schools, deeming someone “trash” for a mild and somewhat humorous text gaffe...glad I don’t know any of you.

We found the woman that texted OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does nothing bad ever happen in other people's lives? I'm surprised by this uproar. I feel sorry for the OP and also for the mom who mistakenly sent the bitchy text. They're both going to be equally stung for life.

+1 The responses on this thread are so over the top. The kid probably is a handful and the lady probably is mean. Such is life.

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[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If I were that woman I’d want to melt into the face of the earth. Based on her response she really has no shame. Not someone I’d want to be friends with.

+1. Her non-apology response was so lame. I don’t think you even need to reply further. Just drop this woman/the whole group unless you think your son really benefits from it. If you do stay in the group, I just would not engage w this particular woman any further. What a clueless jerk.

No one defended OP’s son means the others agreed.

Not necessarily. I'm guessing this is a group of predominantly white women, who have been socialized/allowed not to confront incivility. The wine "jokes" are a dead giveaway of the type of group we're dealing with here - UMC white women who "just want everyone to get along." It means they will side with the jerk, and the bully, and let comments like this slide because they don't want the drama of telling someone they are behaving badly.

Basically, they've never really had to fight for anything, or stand up for anyone, and they aren't about to start now.

Well which is it, are UMC white women Karens who think they can boss around the people around them or do they quietly drink wine and avoid conflict? As a white woman, I really need to know how to act. Please advise.

It the lifecycle of a WW. Before a WW can become a "Karen," she must first pass through the larval phase, known as a "Becky." In this phase, she will mistake drinking wine and doing pilates for having a personality, and studiously avoid conflict with her fellow WW.

Ha ha! Also, it’s possible to be a “Karen” to someone you don’t really know and consider beneath you (like a retail worker, or a person of color) but then seek to avoid conflict when among your own kind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Aside. What is a “stressed wine emoji”?

Haha I was wondering this too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does nothing bad ever happen in other people's lives? I'm surprised by this uproar. I feel sorry for the OP and also for the mom who mistakenly sent the bitchy text. They're both going to be equally stung for life.

+1 The responses on this thread are so over the top. The kid probably is a handful and the lady probably is mean. Such is life.

+2

Yes. The overreaction on this thread has been eye-opening. Dropping an entire friend group, changing schools, deeming someone “trash” for a mild and somewhat humorous text gaffe...glad I don’t know any of you.

I'm sorry you have such poor reading comprehension.

This is not a "friend group", this is a bunch of moms who the OP knows due to a shared activity. As is clear, these people are not her "friends."
Changing schools-- what are you talking about?
The mom is trash not for the gaffe, but for her non-apology and all the people who are defending her are trash for turning it around and gaslighting the OP to make it seem like her fault.

Hope that clears it up for you.

It was 100% suggested that OP might want to change schools because these people are so “toxic”. Guess you need some remedial reading classes as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does nothing bad ever happen in other people's lives? I'm surprised by this uproar. I feel sorry for the OP and also for the mom who mistakenly sent the bitchy text. They're both going to be equally stung for life.

+1 The responses on this thread are so over the top. The kid probably is a handful and the lady probably is mean. Such is life.

+2

Yes. The overreaction on this thread has been eye-opening. Dropping an entire friend group, changing schools, deeming someone “trash” for a mild and somewhat humorous text gaffe...glad I don’t know any of you.

We found the woman that texted OP.

No, but I like the cut of her jib!

[Anonymous]

OP, did you show up and offer the texter Advil and wine?

[Anonymous]

It does not matter if OP's kid is the worst. We are talking about an Adult woman who is b*tching about a kid on a group text. Clearly she is trash.