It is wrong to ask a woman to give up her financial security. Do you get that, OP?
If you make her sign a prenup, you need to agree to make up for all lost wages and salary increases and retirement benefits she gave up while being a SAHM. You also need to provide several years of alimony until she gets back on her feet. Did your prenup include these points? Or was it all about your assets and your future? |
OP I agree with PP who recommended finding a conservative church. (Anglican or Presbyterian evangelical or Baptist) But I disagree that you’re too late. There are plenty of single women in the DMV who are also seeking a loving relationship with this specific division of labor. And they would be happy to know that there are men who appreciate that same view and don’t loom down on them for it. |
Look, OP, there’s nothing wrong with wanting the life you want but no woman with an ounce of self-preservation will go for what you are offering unless she is completely desperate. If you want a SAHM but want to cut her out in the event of a divorce, you need to write into the prenup that she will be paid for the years of wages and career potential she lost raising your kids and taking care of your home. Depending on she was doing before and how long she stays at home, it may be cheaper for you to resign yourself to a 50/50 split. |
I don’t think OP is asking to find a woman who will “give up financial security” at all. He doesn’t want to marry someone who sees this arrangement as a sacrifice or concession. OP is seeking a woman who WANTS to take on this role in marriage and who wants to marry a man who will be the sole provider while she raises kids and manages the house. I honestly don’t think a marriage like this would work in 2020 unless BOTH parties agreed that these were the roles they wanted! |
Now I suspect these are all family run businesses. |
But who, among the types of women he seemingly wants, would agree to this arrangement knowing that if they divorce, she will be left in a very bad position? If OP didn’t believe in divorce, that would be one thing, but he clearly is ok with it, as evidenced by his prenup demand. |
Really? I’m a DP and I know at least 3. Not the wife leaving part, although this has happened, but the mail order bride part. It’s more common than you think. |
Hello, not earning an income means giving up financial security. A wife and mother who chooses to stay at home is giving up her income and relying on the good grace of her husband. If they divorce, she will not have a job. |
Read the thread, people. OP doesn't want a religious woman. |
Abusive people cannot take constructive criticism. Abusive people twist words. You weren't deemed abusive "for wanting a certain lifestyle". You know that. |
PP here and I'll add to originall pp's list of red flags OP's victimizing of men. |
An we may have believed that if " OP" wasn't on a string of answering questions. You messed up., you had a good troll going for awhile though. |
This isn't the 1950s, though, OP. Your SAHM will be playing on her phone all day instead of working on household chores and reading to the kids. She'll probably have a boyfriend while you're working. |
Have seen the movie Stay? The main character was a man like you and wanted a SAHM. |
If you aren't OP since we know he likes to sockpuppet it sounds like you came from the same incel boards he did. |