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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I’m a very high earner and work 70-80 hour weeks. I will be involved as I possibly can with kids, but she will be the default parent. We will hire help with childcare and housekeeping, but she will manage the day-to-day responsibilities of cooking, cleaning, shuffling kids to school, etc. My parents had the same setup and it worked. My dad was very involved in raising us, but my mom did the bulk of it. [/quote]

Why would you even want kids?![/quote]

Because he is ticking off the boxes of what is suppose to happen in life.  He just doesn't want to do any of the actual work that goes with it.  He wants the female to do that, take care of the kids, keep them out of his hair, make sure his dinner is ready on the table, clean his toilet.  But then he wants to make sure that he protects all his money in case they divorce, he doesn't care if the mother of his child is destitute and the reason for that is that she stayed home to take care of the household duties and childcare, nope its all I, I, I, I, I want in all his posts.  Of course she will have to portray the picture perfect image for everyone as well.
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He sounds abusive and I don't believe in his story of wanting real love.  When talking about his life he says "I know the life I want".  There is no room in that I for a we.  He is just following his parents set up.  This is what my parents did and this is what I'll do.  It just makes me want to vomit[/b].[/quote]

All of this, but especially the bold. In typical DCUM fashion, some want to turn this into a  SAHM war or even more disgustingly an American woman bashing thread, ignoring the real red flags with OP.[/quote]

OP here. I hate that a man who wants a certain lifestyle is deemed “ abusive”. I have never and will never be abusive. I would never harm anyone. I’m not controlling and do not expect a submissive woman. I have an ideal way of how I want my life to look, but I know that may not happen. I realize I may need to relax some of my wants to get what I need. I think it’s better to be honest and upfront about what I want than blindside her 2-3 years down the road. Many women want certain lifestyles and they are not deemed “ abusive” or other derogatory terms. [/quote]

PP here and I'll add to originall pp's list of red flags OP's  victimizing of men.[/quote]

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