How To Find A SAHM?

[Anonymous]

I’m 37 and single. I’ve been trying I find a certain type of woman and just haven’t. You can say I’m looking for a 1950’s housewife. I don’t expect a servant or anything like that, but I wanted a woman who wants to stay at home taking care of her kids and husband. I’m looking for a woman who wants to take care of raising the kids and responsibilities of the household, while I work and manage things like finances. Most of the women I meet want to be a SAHM only short-term, or want to be a SAHM but expect the man to be a 50/50 partner in childcare and household responsibilities. I’m looking for a woman who can handle the bulk of it. How do I find a woman like this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m 37 and single. I’ve been trying I find a certain type of woman and just haven’t. You can say I’m looking for a 1950’s housewife. I don’t expect a servant or anything like that, but I wanted a woman who wants to stay at home taking care of her kids and husband. I’m looking for a woman who wants to take care of raising the kids and responsibilities of the household, while I work and manage things like finances. Most of the women I meet want to be a SAHM only short-term, or want to be a SAHM but expect the man to be a 50/50 partner in childcare and household responsibilities. I’m looking for a woman who can handle the bulk of it. How do I find a woman like this?

Make it clear in your dating profile. Are you high income? That makes all the difference to women who might consider.

[Anonymous]

Join a conservative church.

You’re getting kind of old for this type of pairing to be honest. Most women who are okay with this marry a college sweetheart shortly after graduation. You’re over a decade too late.

[Anonymous]

You say you don't want a "servant" but the only responsibilities you want to have are to sire children, go to work, and manage the finances. Gee, I wonder why women aren't falling all over themselves for you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You say you don't want a "servant" but the only responsibilities you want to have are to sire children, go to work, and manage the finances. Gee, I wonder why women aren't falling all over themselves for you?

+1 Nothing wrong with a SAHP but OP is looking to start a family with the explicit expectation that he will not participate in parenting. Even if I wanted to SAH I would avoid him for that reason.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You say you don't want a "servant" but the only responsibilities you want to have are to sire children, go to work, and manage the finances. Gee, I wonder why women aren't falling all over themselves for you?

It's not crazy for families to divide the labor as OP describes. Many women don't want that these days, which is obviously their prerogative, but some are still happy with this division of labor which puts plenty on the male contrary to what your comment implies.

[Anonymous]

mail order bride from a 3rd world country?

But be careful, I've known a few men who have done this, and the women all left the men as soon as they got their green cards. Buyer beware.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Join a conservative church.

You’re getting kind of old for this type of pairing to be honest. Most women who are okay with this marry a college sweetheart shortly after graduation. You’re over a decade too late.

+1. A conservative church or temple. Get someone young and naive. That's what my ex did at 35 - joined a church and was married to a religious 24 year old in under a year.

Are you well off, OP? As in, well off enough that you can afford to hire household help? Because I don't think any woman wants to sign up to care for kids and do 100% of the household and childcare while all you have to do is go to work (which you're already doing) and get her pregnant. Sounds like a pretty terrible deal.

[Anonymous]

OP here. I’m a very high earner and work 70-80 hour weeks. I will be involved as I possibly can with kids, but she will be the default parent. We will hire help with childcare and housekeeping, but she will manage the day-to-day responsibilities of cooking, cleaning, shuffling kids to school, etc. My parents had the same setup and it worked. My dad was very involved in raising us, but my mom did the bulk of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You say you don't want a "servant" but the only responsibilities you want to have are to sire children, go to work, and manage the finances. Gee, I wonder why women aren't falling all over themselves for you?

It's not crazy for families to divide the labor as OP describes. Many women don't want that these days, which is obviously their prerogative, but some are still happy with this division of labor which puts plenty on the male contrary to what your comment implies.

It's not crazy but it's all not super common. There's a reason women fought for the right to go to work.

Enlighten me - if the woman does all the childcare and all the housework, what else is on the male? He already goes to work and manages finances, wife or no wife.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Join a conservative church.

You’re getting kind of old for this type of pairing to be honest. Most women who are okay with this marry a college sweetheart shortly after graduation. You’re over a decade too late.

+1. A conservative church or temple. Get someone young and naive. That's what my ex did at 35 - joined a church and was married to a religious 24 year old in under a year.

Are you well off, OP? As in, well off enough that you can afford to hire household help? Because I don't think any woman wants to sign up to care for kids and do 100% of the household and childcare while all you have to do is go to work (which you're already doing) and get her pregnant. Sounds like a pretty terrible deal.

OP here. I’m not conservative or religious.

[Anonymous]

Make a ton of money. A fair amount of women would be willing to do the bulk of of the child/household work, so long as you make plenty to provide a good lifestyle and house help when she needs/wants it, since you aren’t willing to pitch in. She will also want to make sure, in the event of divorce, that her “half” will be still be a lot and keep her comfortable , since she pretty much gave up a career and even if she goes back to work, so won’t make nearly what she could have or once did.

[Anonymous]

Not here. Every SAHM here was on track to be a partner at a big law firm, CEO at a Fortune 500 or some other high power job(all within a year of starting work)...just ask them!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:mail order bride from a 3rd world country?

But be careful, I've known a few men who have done this, and the women all left the men as soon as they got their green cards. Buyer beware.

OP here. I’m looking for a traditional relationship with my love. I just want to know if there are certain sites that cater to this that are not sugar baby sites or anything like a mail order bride.

[Anonymous]

Most people don't know whether or not they want to stay at home until after a baby arrives. Many are shocked by their own decisions one way or the other.

So, if this is what you are looking for, you may think you've found it only to be disappointed later.