Found nude pics on DHs phone

[Anonymous]

Have you looked at the phone bill? Have you done a reverse look up (spokeo or something else) on the number he texted? Have you checked the credit card bill for unexplained expenses? Bank activity for unexplained withdrawals? He continues to gaslight you. Only you can decide whether to allow that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

I have been awake all night being in investigative mode. I woke up DH this morning and asked him why he was out till 2 am last night. He said he was out with his boss. I said thats cool but was there someone else? He said what are you talking about? I asked how is your girlfriend? He says I am annoying him and I need to stop. I say well you stay out till 2 am so surely there is someone else. He says he is married and I should stop saying such disgusting things. I say I am not but I find it suspicious that he is out so late on a week night. He says I am psycho and that I should go to work and leave him alone!

I am now at work and feeling intolerably alone and devastated. I did not sleep a wink last night. I am exhausted and traumatized. My world and everything I knew is crashing around me. I know I must be stealthy and continue to get to the bottom of this as he will not become truthful. But I want to slap him and confront him today. How am I supposed to go to bed with him?

OP you have enough evidence between the phone calls and the miss you text

[Anonymous]

Op thanks for the updates... so sorry that he is being such a dick. Do what is best for you.

[Anonymous]

I would stop confronting him until you decide what you plan to do.

[Anonymous]

Please OP don't confront him anymore. You are only giving him ammo to hide it from you. I would want to catch him with her to stop the gas lighting, and put closure on it so I could move forward. If you think it's the boss drive by there if he does another late night, or there are time gaps from the office to your home. I am betting the number is a generated one but you can try these websites:

www.spydialer.com www.411.com www.usphonebook.com


I would nip it soon whatever you decide to do.

[Anonymous]

Can't you sleep in a different room? Continue to watch the phone/phone bill statements online with numbers.

[Anonymous]

OP why would he be out with his boss that late??? That wouldn't be acceptable so why did you say it was cool?

So where was his car till 2:00 a.m.?

[Anonymous]

Op, try a VAR (voice activated recorder) under the seat in his car or somewhere in the house he might go to talk alone. You can order on amazon. You need undeniable proof or he is going to keep lying. Cheaters lie.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I have been tracking his phone quietly over the past few weeks. I saw tonight that he made multiple calls to a contact called “telemarketer” I also saw a text where he said. “Got home. Missing you”

I called this number and a female voice picked up.

I’ve been awake all night.

You don't need to torture yourself like this, the pics told you everything you need to know. Figure out what you are going to do. If you choose to stay stop snooping and forget about it. That road is just misery. If you are leaving, stop snooping and start marshalling resources for an exit.

Some betrayed spouses need to know the true extent of everything, and some don't. Some want to know exactly what happened, and some don't. It's not a one-size-fits-all type reaction. I agree with marshalling assets, but personally I would want to gather more infmation before confronting, starting with searching the phone number and figuring out who the texter is. As a PP said, if it's someone at work, it could have ramifications on his job and, in turn, her income/child support, etc. After you confront, your chances of finding out the truth become very slim.

That was the big mistake right there, she tipped him off. I don't know why women always do that. Still she can easily find out the truth. My friend's husband was leaving his car at random places. The OW would then come pick him up. I guess so his car wouldn't be spotted at her address. The DW put a gps on his car. When she saw the gps online it showed him parking his car in a shopping area not near their home so she went right over there, and waited till OW dropped him off. Got her plates then followed her to her home. The next time they met she went right to the ladies house and confronted them. Not everyone would do that, but if you want to catch him it's fairly easy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, try a VAR (voice activated recorder) under the seat in his car or somewhere in the house he might go to talk alone. You can order on amazon. You need undeniable proof or he is going to keep lying. Cheaters lie.

Great idea. Years ago I busted a bf I was going to marry that way. Also followed him with a gf in her car, he was at her house. Threw him out and moved on.

[Anonymous]

Put a tracker on his car.

[Anonymous]

OP, do you have kids (can't recall the whole thread)? if not, just pack up and leave for a few days while you think about what to do. Oh, before you do that, make a copy of tax returns, w2s, bank accounts.

[Anonymous]

Second copying all the financial information. It's hard to get out of the hurt head space but you keep tipping him off that you're onto him without coming up with your own plan (you can bet he has his). Start protecting yourself NOW, especially if you have kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, try a VAR (voice activated recorder) under the seat in his car or somewhere in the house he might go to talk alone. You can order on amazon. You need undeniable proof or he is going to keep lying. Cheaters lie.

+1. Can also GPS the car. No, you don't necessarily need more proof of the affair, but you might want it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Second copying all the financial information. It's hard to get out of the hurt head space but you keep tipping him off that you're onto him without coming up with your own plan (you can bet he has his). Start protecting yourself NOW, especially if you have kids.

+1. Download/screen shot all cc and bank account information and save it where it can't be deleted.