Reported hazing incident involving Damascus High School JV Football team

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Who leaked the police report to the Post?

Who cares, really? I'm grateful that they did. Or else, MCPS would continue to play it down as if it was NBD.

I’m not. It revictimizes the victims with too many details.

Strongly disagree! This needs to be discussed in the open, without naming the victims. Keeping the culture of silence ensures that there will be more victims.

I agree! Keeping it quiet will lead to even more victims.

Ignoring what happened re-victimizes the victims. Reporting how brutal the attacks were sends a wakeup call to parents and hopefully will help much needed change to occur in MCPS.

My child was abused in a MCPS school. It took bravery for him to come forward and share his story. My son's actions of sharing his story hopefully will prevent what happened to him in high school from happening to others. We shared the details with media but not his name. The media was protective of his identity and we saw improvement with the added lens of the media regarding the details.

Change is the only closure to offer a victim.

[Anonymous]

Thank you 15:55! All the best to your son.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who leaked the police report to the Post?

Who cares, really? I'm grateful that they did. Or else, MCPS would continue to play it down as if it was NBD.

I’m not. It revictimizes the victims with too many details.

Strongly disagree! This needs to be discussed in the open, without naming the victims. Keeping the culture of silence ensures that there will be more victims.

I agree! Keeping it quiet will lead to even more victims.

Ignoring what happened re-victimizes the victims. Reporting how brutal the attacks were sends a wakeup call to parents and hopefully will help much needed change to occur in MCPS.

My child was abused in a MCPS school. It took bravery for him to come forward and share his story. My son's actions of sharing his story hopefully will prevent what happened to him in high school from happening to others. We shared the details with media but not his name. The media was protective of his identity and we saw improvement with the added lens of the media regarding the details.

Change is the only closure to offer a victim.

I didn’t say to keep it quiet. I said to not describe in detail what’s in the police report. This is not an either/or. This is a situation where discretion must be used to put the victims first. Please don’t be so selfish. You can hold the schools accountable without further hurting victims.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who leaked the police report to the Post?

Who cares, really? I'm grateful that they did. Or else, MCPS would continue to play it down as if it was NBD.

I’m not. It revictimizes the victims with too many details.

Strongly disagree! This needs to be discussed in the open, without naming the victims. Keeping the culture of silence ensures that there will be more victims.

I agree! Keeping it quiet will lead to even more victims.

Ignoring what happened re-victimizes the victims. Reporting how brutal the attacks were sends a wakeup call to parents and hopefully will help much needed change to occur in MCPS.

My child was abused in a MCPS school. It took bravery for him to come forward and share his story. My son's actions of sharing his story hopefully will prevent what happened to him in high school from happening to others. We shared the details with media but not his name. The media was protective of his identity and we saw improvement with the added lens of the media regarding the details.

Change is the only closure to offer a victim.

I didn’t say to keep it quiet. I said to not describe in detail what’s in the police report. This is not an either/or. This is a situation where discretion must be used to put the victims first. Please don’t be so selfish. You can hold the schools accountable without further hurting victims.

Oh, and that’s great your son came forwar. But HE chose that. That empowers him. Having the media report details is not the victims’ choice. Please see the difference.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who leaked the police report to the Post?

Who cares, really? I'm grateful that they did. Or else, MCPS would continue to play it down as if it was NBD.

I’m not. It revictimizes the victims with too many details.

Strongly disagree! This needs to be discussed in the open, without naming the victims. Keeping the culture of silence ensures that there will be more victims.

I agree! Keeping it quiet will lead to even more victims.

Ignoring what happened re-victimizes the victims. Reporting how brutal the attacks were sends a wakeup call to parents and hopefully will help much needed change to occur in MCPS.

My child was abused in a MCPS school. It took bravery for him to come forward and share his story. My son's actions of sharing his story hopefully will prevent what happened to him in high school from happening to others. We shared the details with media but not his name. The media was protective of his identity and we saw improvement with the added lens of the media regarding the details.

Change is the only closure to offer a victim.

I didn’t say to keep it quiet. I said to not describe in detail what’s in the police report. This is not an either/or. This is a situation where discretion must be used to put the victims first. Please don’t be so selfish. You can hold the schools accountable without further hurting victims.

Oh, and that’s great your son came forwar. But HE chose that. That empowers him. Having the media report details is not the victims’ choice. Please see the difference.

Then all police reports should be sealed. No details of crimes should ever come forward. Court proceedings should be closed to the public.

[Anonymous]

https://losangeles.cbslocal.com/2018/11/08/thousand-oaks-gunman-high-school-coach-assault/amp/?__twitter_impression=true

According to this article, the shooter in the bar sexually assaulted his track coach and her school pressured her not to report him. I post this for anyone who doubts that schools don’t try to hush things up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who leaked the police report to the Post?

Who cares, really? I'm grateful that they did. Or else, MCPS would continue to play it down as if it was NBD.

I’m not. It revictimizes the victims with too many details.

Strongly disagree! This needs to be discussed in the open, without naming the victims. Keeping the culture of silence ensures that there will be more victims.

I agree! Keeping it quiet will lead to even more victims.

Ignoring what happened re-victimizes the victims. Reporting how brutal the attacks were sends a wakeup call to parents and hopefully will help much needed change to occur in MCPS.

My child was abused in a MCPS school. It took bravery for him to come forward and share his story. My son's actions of sharing his story hopefully will prevent what happened to him in high school from happening to others. We shared the details with media but not his name. The media was protective of his identity and we saw improvement with the added lens of the media regarding the details.

Change is the only closure to offer a victim.

I didn’t say to keep it quiet. I said to not describe in detail what’s in the police report. This is not an either/or. This is a situation where discretion must be used to put the victims first. Please don’t be so selfish. You can hold the schools accountable without further hurting victims.

I disagree. That is the backward mentality that victims should be ashamed of their assault, when really it's perpetrators who should be punished. Let's move on from such medieval thinking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Since when is it okay to call sexual assault hazing? If a girl was raped would they have the nerve to call it "hazing"? I don't think so. This is a horrific crime and I have a hard time believing this happened.

If one of the victims was my child, I would be suing every authority figure involved in athletics at that school....including the principal. This is just horrible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who leaked the police report to the Post?

Who cares, really? I'm grateful that they did. Or else, MCPS would continue to play it down as if it was NBD.

I’m not. It revictimizes the victims with too many details.

Strongly disagree! This needs to be discussed in the open, without naming the victims. Keeping the culture of silence ensures that there will be more victims.

I agree! Keeping it quiet will lead to even more victims.

Ignoring what happened re-victimizes the victims. Reporting how brutal the attacks were sends a wakeup call to parents and hopefully will help much needed change to occur in MCPS.

My child was abused in a MCPS school. It took bravery for him to come forward and share his story. My son's actions of sharing his story hopefully will prevent what happened to him in high school from happening to others. We shared the details with media but not his name. The media was protective of his identity and we saw improvement with the added lens of the media regarding the details.

Change is the only closure to offer a victim.

I didn’t say to keep it quiet. I said to not describe in detail what’s in the police report. This is not an either/or. This is a situation where discretion must be used to put the victims first. Please don’t be so selfish. You can hold the schools accountable without further hurting victims.

I disagree. That is the backward mentality that victims should be ashamed of their assault, when really it's perpetrators who should be punished. Let's move on from such medieval thinking.

Correct.


The victims can not heal if their assault is something to be assumed of, it needs to come to the light.

Keeping the details secret hurts the victims.

Bravo to your son for coming forward!!! Seriously that takes courage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who leaked the police report to the Post?

Who cares, really? I'm grateful that they did. Or else, MCPS would continue to play it down as if it was NBD.

I’m not. It revictimizes the victims with too many details.

Strongly disagree! This needs to be discussed in the open, without naming the victims. Keeping the culture of silence ensures that there will be more victims.

I agree! Keeping it quiet will lead to even more victims.

Ignoring what happened re-victimizes the victims. Reporting how brutal the attacks were sends a wakeup call to parents and hopefully will help much needed change to occur in MCPS.

My child was abused in a MCPS school. It took bravery for him to come forward and share his story. My son's actions of sharing his story hopefully will prevent what happened to him in high school from happening to others. We shared the details with media but not his name. The media was protective of his identity and we saw improvement with the added lens of the media regarding the details.

Change is the only closure to offer a victim.

I didn’t say to keep it quiet. I said to not describe in detail what’s in the police report. This is not an either/or. This is a situation where discretion must be used to put the victims first. Please don’t be so selfish. You can hold the schools accountable without further hurting victims.

I disagree. That is the backward mentality that victims should be ashamed of their assault, when really it's perpetrators who should be punished. Let's move on from such medieval thinking.

You don’t get it. I’m not saying victims should be ashamed. They have been victimized once and were held powerless in their assault. Let them be in charge of how things move forward. Do not use them as pawns in your game. If they want details out there, that’s up to them, and them alone.

[Anonymous]

Some of you know zero about sexual assault trauma.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who leaked the police report to the Post?

Who cares, really? I'm grateful that they did. Or else, MCPS would continue to play it down as if it was NBD.

I’m not. It revictimizes the victims with too many details.

Strongly disagree! This needs to be discussed in the open, without naming the victims. Keeping the culture of silence ensures that there will be more victims.

I agree! Keeping it quiet will lead to even more victims.

Ignoring what happened re-victimizes the victims. Reporting how brutal the attacks were sends a wakeup call to parents and hopefully will help much needed change to occur in MCPS.

My child was abused in a MCPS school. It took bravery for him to come forward and share his story. My son's actions of sharing his story hopefully will prevent what happened to him in high school from happening to others. We shared the details with media but not his name. The media was protective of his identity and we saw improvement with the added lens of the media regarding the details.

Change is the only closure to offer a victim.

I didn’t say to keep it quiet. I said to not describe in detail what’s in the police report. This is not an either/or. This is a situation where discretion must be used to put the victims first. Please don’t be so selfish. You can hold the schools accountable without further hurting victims.

I disagree. That is the backward mentality that victims should be ashamed of their assault, when really it's perpetrators who should be punished. Let's move on from such medieval thinking.

You don’t get it. I’m not saying victims should be ashamed. They have been victimized once and were held powerless in their assault. Let them be in charge of how things move forward. Do not use them as pawns in your game. If they want details out there, that’s up to them, and them alone.

Anyone with a child on the JV Football team could have had their child raped on October 31st. Many children were in danger. Covering up the details only protects MCPS, the coaches, and the assailants as they are the only ones who are served when people stop talking about and stop following the case.

Sexual, physical, verbal, and emotional abuse is a real problem in MCPS that is often under reported. Athletics often falls short of the RAISE Core values. Hopefully, no child in MCPS will ever experience what the victims did on October 31st, but major change is needed in MCPS to protect children from all forms of abuse for that goal to be achieved. Change happens when the story is in the paper, on TV, and on the radio. The details are not pleasant to read or hear but it was 10000 times worst for the poor children who were the victims.

As a society, we need to get used to talking about the uncomfortable subjects in order to move forward and protect children in our public schools.

[Anonymous]

Did anyone know that Seneca Valley had a similar incident?

https://www.washingtonpost.com/opinions/montgomery-county-should-seriously-address-allegations-of-rape-at-damascus-high-school/2018/11/10/333d9da8-e46b-11e8-b759-3d88a5ce9e19_story.html?utm_term=.66594046448b

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did anyone know that Seneca Valley had a similar incident?

https://www.washingtonpost.com/opinions/montgomery-county-should-seriously-address-allegations-of-rape-at-damascus-high-school/2018/11/10/333d9da8-e46b-11e8-b759-3d88a5ce9e19_story.html?utm_term=.66594046448b

Thank you Washington Post editorial board. Now please keep digging. MCPS is ALL about image. Here are some suggestions for you and your reporters:

1.) Check out publicly available legal records on MCPS staff, and you will be shocked how many people in the system have major problems yet still get to teach or coach.
2.) There are people inside the system who know what’s really happening, so start contacting people individually and letting them comment off the record. Some will be grateful to be given the chance to speak up.
3.) Talk to coaches and teachers who have left the system and who feel freer to talk.
4.) Find recent graduates of these athletic programs and let them talk off the record.
5.) Collect examples of things people say happened but that were not reported. I suspect you’ll discover many discrepancies between incidents and forms like reports——-
The press is the best hope here.

[Anonymous]

Washington Post should start with Churchill - several teams there have BIG problems that MCPS wants to keep quiet.