Millennials who are mean.

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Anonymous wrote:Just wait until you’re in your 60’s. And your miserable adult kids blame everything on Mommy and Daddy. You’re knocking on the door of elder abuse. You know nothing about life.

My kids will have experienced two parents who:
1) Aren’t alcoholics in total denial, to the point of driving drunk and putting their children in danger
2) Actually apologize when they are wrong
3) Don’t offer unsolicited advice and obnoxious comments
4) Are critical thinkers who don’t guzzle Fox News and spit out hate

So I’m fairly confident that we’ll all get along as adults. I won’t guilt them about calling or visiting and act like adult children must always be the one to initiate calls. I won’t expect them to spend every hard-earned vacation day and dollar on me. Generally speaking, I won’t be a massive pain in the arse who expects everyone to kowtow and kiss the ring. So I’m fine with my future. Sounds like you were an awful parent if your kids want nothing to do with you. Look at yourself. Be honest for once, if you can.

I mean, talk about delusional! Your kids are not grown yet. You think being a parent that is not an alcoholic is something to be proud of? Are we comparing the complete dysfunction and you are not a completely drunk, abusive parent?
Is this like one of those, "My parents beat me ad abused me every single day, and I do not do that to you daily, so I am a great parent?"
You are "fairly confident" that you will get along? This is like Obi-Wan saying; I am pretty confident that Anakin will be the most noble of all Jedis in the galaxy and will always work for good. OOOOPPPSSS!
Don't talk about things you don't know. Don't tell others with adult kids what you think your kids will think. No doubt they already think you are a narc(an abbreviated term no longer used for drug addicts but for those suffering the epidemic of narcissism, which is you.)
What a completely BS post lacking any introspection and nothing but petting yourself on your own shoulder BCS, you do not drink!
Plenty of Fox new watchers are great parents, some are horrible, and some are mediocre parents. Plenty of CNN watchers are great parents and horrible parents. Your post is full of hate for people you think are not of your exact thinking. How can such a hateful person not engage in hate speech in front of her kids? Are you sure you never say, "Those horrible Trumpers who have no ounce of brain and are all racist pi*s and inhuman should be locked up?"
It sounds like you are a real critical thinker!
Did you ever pause to explore why racism and nationalism are on the rise in America and in the world? Do you explain to your kids how capitalism works and why people turn to extremism in poverty? Do you ever have them watch and tell them that people work two jobs and live in their cars? You are so full of "empathy" (by that, I mean you have none). I am sure your kids have never felt an ounce of understanding from you, as you are so quick to judge and bring people down, as you just did in your post.

Hey boomer, if you are THIS triggered by PP, you need to look into the mirror to see why you're projecting such hate and venom onto them. You are probably also due for a mental health evaluation because this was unhinged.

Nothing unhinged here. PP wrote it very effectively.
Just turning everything around and accusing them of the same thing, without any backup, is a Kafka trap. And immature.

Right? This is what she has been doing the whole thread, in a narcissistic way with no actual argument, just as a narc calls everyone else a narc or projects their horrible traits onto others. I am not a boomer at all.

+1000

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Millennials not coming off well in this thread at all.

Gen X’er and I disagree

I am the Anakin pp, Gen X too, and I agree with you, apart from one Millenial pp who needs a reality check. It's like a nightmare fight between Boomers and Millenials who lack any introspection.

I think the boomer side showed a lot more introspection, and came with explanation and receipts. Millennial side came with many, not just one, nightmare one sentence accusatory meme-like barb throws of no substance. I mean, read through it. I did!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Millennials not coming off well in this thread at all.

Gen X’er and I disagree

I am the Anakin pp, Gen X too, and I agree with you, apart from one Millenial pp who needs a reality check. It's like a nightmare fight between Boomers and Millenials who lack any introspection.

I think the boomer side showed a lot more introspection, and came with explanation and receipts. Millennial side came with many, not just one, nightmare one sentence accusatory meme-like barb throws of no substance. I mean, read through it. I did!

Came with receipts? What generation are you?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Millennials not coming off well in this thread at all.

Gen X’er and I disagree

I am the Anakin pp, Gen X too, and I agree with you, apart from one Millenial pp who needs a reality check. It's like a nightmare fight between Boomers and Millenials who lack any introspection.

I think the boomer side showed a lot more introspection, and came with explanation and receipts. Millennial side came with many, not just one, nightmare one sentence accusatory meme-like barb throws of no substance. I mean, read through it. I did!

Came with receipts? What generation are you?

Do you require this to be explained to you? Then, what generation are you?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Millennials not coming off well in this thread at all.

Gen X’er and I disagree

I am the Anakin pp, Gen X too, and I agree with you, apart from one Millenial pp who needs a reality check. It's like a nightmare fight between Boomers and Millenials who lack any introspection.

I think the boomer side showed a lot more introspection, and came with explanation and receipts. Millennial side came with many, not just one, nightmare one sentence accusatory meme-like barb throws of no substance. I mean, read through it. I did!

Came with receipts? What generation are you?

Do you require this to be explained to you? Then, what generation are you?

NP. Nobody needs an explanation, it’s just a dinosaur phrase. It’s so embarrassing for you.

[Anonymous]

I haven't read the whole thread yet, but my brother and his wife treated my parents like absolute garbage for several years. They took advantage of them, they were very rude and dismissive, and did some very perplexing things like not allowing my parents to use their bathroom when they visited. My parents were devastated by it. Now that their children are older, it's much better. I can only guess that they were under a lot of stress and exhausted with young children.
I'm glad my parents are still alive and well and have a better relationship with my brother and sister in law. My nieces and nephews are in their late teens now and have wonderful relationships with my parents.
FTR, my brother and his wife are GenX and my parents are Silent Gen and older Boomer.

[Anonymous]

Millennial with boomer parents here. I think my parents would describe themselves the way you describe yourself… but here’s what it’s actually like:

- They announce that they are coming to visit, even when we have plans to see then less than a month later. They don’t ask, the announce, and lay on the guilt if I say no.
- When we do visit, they just go about their daily lives—lunches with friends that we aren’t invited to, work, etc., meaning that I have given up my weekend as a full-time non-WFH working parent with a demanding job just so they can tell their friends I visited without actually maximizing the time together.
- My dad is a yeller who lectures as a grown-ass adult me in front of my own child.
- I’m financially independent, but my parents like to throw around that they’ll pay for whatever it is I say I’m planning to spend money on (swim lessons, other activities). I never take them up on their offer, but it makes them feel like they’re paying for it so they can give themselves a pat on the back.
- My mother complains that I don’t talk to her, but whenever I have tried to tell her about my life, she interrupts and starts talking about her. I have given up trying to have a meaningful relationship.

I know I probably don’t always say or do the right thing, but I’m exhausted from balancing everything, and I just don’t have time for the exhaustion they create in my life.

I could go on, but really examine your own behavior. I’m sure it’s you and them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Millennial with boomer parents here. I think my parents would describe themselves the way you describe yourself… but here’s what it’s actually like:

- They announce that they are coming to visit, even when we have plans to see then less than a month later. They don’t ask, the announce, and lay on the guilt if I say no.
So what? They are adults and can be left to handle their dissapointment.
- When we do visit, they just go about their daily lives—lunches with friends that we aren’t invited to, work, etc., meaning that I have given up my weekend as a full-time non-WFH working parent with a demanding job just so they can tell their friends I visited without actually maximizing the time together.
OK? It’s a known factor. Either make the choice not to visit (valid), or tell them you will only visit on the condition that they actually spend time with you (valid). Make a choice, live that choice, and stop complaining. If you continue visiting with no conditions, then own it: that is a choice you have made, so no complaining.
- My dad is a yeller who lectures as a grown-ass adult me in front of my own child.
Stop accepting this treatment. Tell him beforehand: if you yell at me, we leave. If you are in my home and you yell at me, you leave. Stop accepting this bad behavior. If you continue to choose to accept it, no complaining: own your choice.
- I’m financially independent, but my parents like to throw around that they’ll pay for whatever it is I say I’m planning to spend money on (swim lessons, other activities). I never take them up on their offer, but it makes them feel like they’re paying for it so they can give themselves a pat on the back.
You never take them up on the offer, so what’s the problem, exactly? They are offering to pay for things, and you decline? OK.
- My mother complains that I don’t talk to her, but whenever I have tried to tell her about my life, she interrupts and starts talking about her. I have given up trying to have a meaningful relationship.
OK, so either stop calling or interrupt right back. Do you get it? INTERRUPT RIGHT BACK. “Actually, Mom, I’m still talking. And it’s really boring to talk to you because you always interrupt and make the conversation about you. If you interrupt me again, I’m hanging up. Grow a spine.
I know I probably don’t always say or do the right thing, but I’m exhausted from balancing everything, and I just don’t have time for the exhaustion they create in my life.
Stand up for yourself and stop whining so much.
I could go on, but really examine your own behavior. I’m sure it’s you and them.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Millennial with boomer parents here. I think my parents would describe themselves the way you describe yourself… but here’s what it’s actually like:

- They announce that they are coming to visit, even when we have plans to see then less than a month later. They don’t ask, the announce, and lay on the guilt if I say no.
So what? They are adults and can be left to handle their dissapointment.
- When we do visit, they just go about their daily lives—lunches with friends that we aren’t invited to, work, etc., meaning that I have given up my weekend as a full-time non-WFH working parent with a demanding job just so they can tell their friends I visited without actually maximizing the time together.
OK? It’s a known factor. Either make the choice not to visit (valid), or tell them you will only visit on the condition that they actually spend time with you (valid). Make a choice, live that choice, and stop complaining. If you continue visiting with no conditions, then own it: that is a choice you have made, so no complaining.
- My dad is a yeller who lectures as a grown-ass adult me in front of my own child.
Stop accepting this treatment. Tell him beforehand: if you yell at me, we leave. If you are in my home and you yell at me, you leave. Stop accepting this bad behavior. If you continue to choose to accept it, no complaining: own your choice.
- I’m financially independent, but my parents like to throw around that they’ll pay for whatever it is I say I’m planning to spend money on (swim lessons, other activities). I never take them up on their offer, but it makes them feel like they’re paying for it so they can give themselves a pat on the back.
You never take them up on the offer, so what’s the problem, exactly? They are offering to pay for things, and you decline? OK.
- My mother complains that I don’t talk to her, but whenever I have tried to tell her about my life, she interrupts and starts talking about her. I have given up trying to have a meaningful relationship.
OK, so either stop calling or interrupt right back. Do you get it? INTERRUPT RIGHT BACK. “Actually, Mom, I’m still talking. And it’s really boring to talk to you because you always interrupt and make the conversation about you. If you interrupt me again, I’m hanging up. Grow a spine.
I know I probably don’t always say or do the right thing, but I’m exhausted from balancing everything, and I just don’t have time for the exhaustion they create in my life.
Stand up for yourself and stop whining so much.
I could go on, but really examine your own behavior. I’m sure it’s you and them.

Bizarre response to PP. She wasn’t asking for advice on how to deal with inappropriate behavior, she was just pointing out what her parents do that is inappropriate. But I guess you ultimately agree with her because you think she should stand up for herself to stop the behavior, so at least you’re on the same page.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Millennial with boomer parents here. I think my parents would describe themselves the way you describe yourself… but here’s what it’s actually like:

- They announce that they are coming to visit, even when we have plans to see then less than a month later. They don’t ask, the announce, and lay on the guilt if I say no.
So what? They are adults and can be left to handle their dissapointment.
- When we do visit, they just go about their daily lives—lunches with friends that we aren’t invited to, work, etc., meaning that I have given up my weekend as a full-time non-WFH working parent with a demanding job just so they can tell their friends I visited without actually maximizing the time together.
OK? It’s a known factor. Either make the choice not to visit (valid), or tell them you will only visit on the condition that they actually spend time with you (valid). Make a choice, live that choice, and stop complaining. If you continue visiting with no conditions, then own it: that is a choice you have made, so no complaining.
- My dad is a yeller who lectures as a grown-ass adult me in front of my own child.
Stop accepting this treatment. Tell him beforehand: if you yell at me, we leave. If you are in my home and you yell at me, you leave. Stop accepting this bad behavior. If you continue to choose to accept it, no complaining: own your choice.
- I’m financially independent, but my parents like to throw around that they’ll pay for whatever it is I say I’m planning to spend money on (swim lessons, other activities). I never take them up on their offer, but it makes them feel like they’re paying for it so they can give themselves a pat on the back.
You never take them up on the offer, so what’s the problem, exactly? They are offering to pay for things, and you decline? OK.
- My mother complains that I don’t talk to her, but whenever I have tried to tell her about my life, she interrupts and starts talking about her. I have given up trying to have a meaningful relationship.
OK, so either stop calling or interrupt right back. Do you get it? INTERRUPT RIGHT BACK. “Actually, Mom, I’m still talking. And it’s really boring to talk to you because you always interrupt and make the conversation about you. If you interrupt me again, I’m hanging up. Grow a spine.
I know I probably don’t always say or do the right thing, but I’m exhausted from balancing everything, and I just don’t have time for the exhaustion they create in my life.
Stand up for yourself and stop whining so much.
I could go on, but really examine your own behavior. I’m sure it’s you and them.

Bizarre response to PP. She wasn’t asking for advice on how to deal with inappropriate behavior, she was just pointing out what her parents do that is inappropriate. But I guess you ultimately agree with her because you think she should stand up for herself to stop the behavior, so at least you’re on the same page.

Thanks. This is the original PP. Exactly. I’m offering my experience of why I don’t want to interact with my parents. The end result is that I mostly send them to voicemail when they call, and I’m the terrible one. I’m so over their guilt trips that I don’t care anymore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Millennial with boomer parents here. I think my parents would describe themselves the way you describe yourself… but here’s what it’s actually like:

- They announce that they are coming to visit, even when we have plans to see then less than a month later. They don’t ask, the announce, and lay on the guilt if I say no.
So what? They are adults and can be left to handle their dissapointment.
- When we do visit, they just go about their daily lives—lunches with friends that we aren’t invited to, work, etc., meaning that I have given up my weekend as a full-time non-WFH working parent with a demanding job just so they can tell their friends I visited without actually maximizing the time together.
OK? It’s a known factor. Either make the choice not to visit (valid), or tell them you will only visit on the condition that they actually spend time with you (valid). Make a choice, live that choice, and stop complaining. If you continue visiting with no conditions, then own it: that is a choice you have made, so no complaining.
- My dad is a yeller who lectures as a grown-ass adult me in front of my own child.
Stop accepting this treatment. Tell him beforehand: if you yell at me, we leave. If you are in my home and you yell at me, you leave. Stop accepting this bad behavior. If you continue to choose to accept it, no complaining: own your choice.
- I’m financially independent, but my parents like to throw around that they’ll pay for whatever it is I say I’m planning to spend money on (swim lessons, other activities). I never take them up on their offer, but it makes them feel like they’re paying for it so they can give themselves a pat on the back.
You never take them up on the offer, so what’s the problem, exactly? They are offering to pay for things, and you decline? OK.
- My mother complains that I don’t talk to her, but whenever I have tried to tell her about my life, she interrupts and starts talking about her. I have given up trying to have a meaningful relationship.
OK, so either stop calling or interrupt right back. Do you get it? INTERRUPT RIGHT BACK. “Actually, Mom, I’m still talking. And it’s really boring to talk to you because you always interrupt and make the conversation about you. If you interrupt me again, I’m hanging up. Grow a spine.
I know I probably don’t always say or do the right thing, but I’m exhausted from balancing everything, and I just don’t have time for the exhaustion they create in my life.
Stand up for yourself and stop whining so much.
I could go on, but really examine your own behavior. I’m sure it’s you and them.

Bizarre response to PP. She wasn’t asking for advice on how to deal with inappropriate behavior, she was just pointing out what her parents do that is inappropriate. But I guess you ultimately agree with her because you think she should stand up for herself to stop the behavior, so at least you’re on the same page.

Thanks. This is the original PP. Exactly. I’m offering my experience of why I don’t want to interact with my parents. The end result is that I mostly send them to voicemail when they call, and I’m the terrible one. I’m so over their guilt trips that I don’t care anymore.

You care enough to start a thread. If you didn’t care, you’d just…you know, live your life.

[Anonymous]

And yet 22 pages in OP, you learned nothing about what YOU are bringing to the relationship. Typical.

[Anonymous]

My boomer mom didn't listen to me and my older brother kept molesting me since I was a child until high school.

I hate my life. Whenever I see an older woman hugging I cry. I wish I was adopted to a better and good family

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Millennials not coming off well in this thread at all.

Gen X’er and I disagree

I am the Anakin pp, Gen X too, and I agree with you, apart from one Millenial pp who needs a reality check. It's like a nightmare fight between Boomers and Millenials who lack any introspection.

I think the boomer side showed a lot more introspection, and came with explanation and receipts. Millennial side came with many, not just one, nightmare one sentence accusatory meme-like barb throws of no substance. I mean, read through it. I did!

Came with receipts? What generation are you?

Do you require this to be explained to you? Then, what generation are you?

NP. Nobody needs an explanation, it’s just a dinosaur phrase. It’s so embarrassing for you.

Are you the same one who polices all the other terms you think aren't trending? You mean on Snapchat, dear?
Anything intellectual to offer here?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Millennial with boomer parents here. I think my parents would describe themselves the way you describe yourself… but here’s what it’s actually like:

- They announce that they are coming to visit, even when we have plans to see then less than a month later. They don’t ask, the announce, and lay on the guilt if I say no.
So what? They are adults and can be left to handle their dissapointment.
- When we do visit, they just go about their daily lives—lunches with friends that we aren’t invited to, work, etc., meaning that I have given up my weekend as a full-time non-WFH working parent with a demanding job just so they can tell their friends I visited without actually maximizing the time together.
OK? It’s a known factor. Either make the choice not to visit (valid), or tell them you will only visit on the condition that they actually spend time with you (valid). Make a choice, live that choice, and stop complaining. If you continue visiting with no conditions, then own it: that is a choice you have made, so no complaining.
- My dad is a yeller who lectures as a grown-ass adult me in front of my own child.
Stop accepting this treatment. Tell him beforehand: if you yell at me, we leave. If you are in my home and you yell at me, you leave. Stop accepting this bad behavior. If you continue to choose to accept it, no complaining: own your choice.
- I’m financially independent, but my parents like to throw around that they’ll pay for whatever it is I say I’m planning to spend money on (swim lessons, other activities). I never take them up on their offer, but it makes them feel like they’re paying for it so they can give themselves a pat on the back.
You never take them up on the offer, so what’s the problem, exactly? They are offering to pay for things, and you decline? OK.
- My mother complains that I don’t talk to her, but whenever I have tried to tell her about my life, she interrupts and starts talking about her. I have given up trying to have a meaningful relationship.
OK, so either stop calling or interrupt right back. Do you get it? INTERRUPT RIGHT BACK. “Actually, Mom, I’m still talking. And it’s really boring to talk to you because you always interrupt and make the conversation about you. If you interrupt me again, I’m hanging up. Grow a spine.
I know I probably don’t always say or do the right thing, but I’m exhausted from balancing everything, and I just don’t have time for the exhaustion they create in my life.
Stand up for yourself and stop whining so much.
I could go on, but really examine your own behavior. I’m sure it’s you and them.

Bizarre response to PP. She wasn’t asking for advice on how to deal with inappropriate behavior, she was just pointing out what her parents do that is inappropriate. But I guess you ultimately agree with her because you think she should stand up for herself to stop the behavior, so at least you’re on the same page.

Thanks. This is the original PP. Exactly. I’m offering my experience of why I don’t want to interact with my parents. The end result is that I mostly send them to voicemail when they call, and I’m the terrible one. I’m so over their guilt trips that I don’t care anymore.

You care enough to start a thread. If you didn’t care, you’d just…you know, live your life.

NP. What are you talking about? If you’re referencing another thread, it’s polite to link to it. PP didn’t start a thread, she posted a response on an existing thread the same as you and I.