Boy slapped my daughter's butt on the walk from school

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is one of the more insane threads I've seen in DCUM. I'm all for holding peole accountable for their actions, but some posters seem to be rabid. We are talking about children here. OP I wonder why you didn't just stop the boy in his tracks and told him that what he did was wrong and asked him for his name?

I don't have the ability to teleport. I'll be sure to work on that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you have forgotten your original post. You did INDEED mention police.

I'm not sure what to do. A boy ran up and hit her on the butt while his friends cheered him on. She said he's from her middle school, but doesn't know his name. I'd like to find out who he is and have a word with his parents and/or the principal.

Advice? These are 12 and 13 year olds, or send the police to do it.

I explained this, but you guys don't care to consider that over bring snarky. That's not my problem. Other posters got it. Give it a rest already.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you have forgotten your original post. You did INDEED mention police.

I'm not sure what to do. A boy ran up and hit her on the butt while his friends cheered him on. She said he's from her middle school, but doesn't know his name. I'd like to find out who he is and have a word with his parents and/or the principal.

Advice? These are 12 and 13 year olds, or send the police to do it.

I explained this, but you guys don't care to consider that over bring snarky. That's not my problem. Other posters got it. Give it a rest already.

Well, o.k. What do YOU want to see happen Op?

[Anonymous]

This is my thought: the kids don't even know each other so the incident does not sound at all personal (it was an act of opportunity vs. Op's daughter being actively targeted). It's the end of the school year and kids were in high spirits and goofing around to the max. No - that boy should not have smacked anyone's butt, his buddies should not have laughed like they did. However, the likelihood that this will happen again to Op's daughter in particular seems very slim (the kids still don't know each other) UNLESS there is more going on here than Op's daughter is letting on I would probably just let it go. Maybe document it for your own records - date/time/details/witness names - so if there is a repeat, you'll have some facts written down.

[Anonymous]

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As a women born in the 60s and who has seen feminism come full circle from empowerment to victimization, I am disgusted. As a mother of both boys and girls, I am terrified.

The craziness that passes for feminism these days will set us back decades.

+1
I cannot believe the nutcases on this thread and seriously hope they aren't representative of society at large. Surely there is more common sense out there than here on DCUM.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Holy shit. The stuff in middle school and junior high was nothing. Wait until shes a young lady and attracting male attention from all sides. Empower her, don't make her a victim.

I'm not OP- what in the world do you mean by this?

It means my mother told me to stand up for myself. To make clear when an advance was unwanted. She didn't talk to the principal for me and call the police. So when I grew up and faced unwanted male attention in the real world I was able to handle myself.

So if a man slaps your butt today at work, how are you going to stand up for yourself? Are you not going to report him? Is that what OP should teach her daughter, that boys will be boys and it's ridiculous to make a big deal out of unwanted touching?

If a man slaps your butt at work, you report him to HR. If a 12 yr old boy slaps your butt, you hit him, yell at him, and let your parents/teacher know.

However a 12 yr old is not someone that the police need to be called in. They're all young and need to learn how to interact with the opposite genders. Its a learning opportunity for everyone.

I think there was a consensus that the police DO NOT need to be called, the question is whether the OP should inform the school and the boy's parents.

The principal absolutely needs to be contacted. The boy need to learn respect and that there are consequences to touching a girl that does not want to be touched.

+1

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You women are nuts. You blow little shit out of proportion and then wonder why people aren't outraged when really bad stuff happens. It's like the little boy who cried wolf or chicken little. Do yourselves, your daughters and all women a favor and get a grip.

So you're entitled to play grabass with 12 year old girls? NOPE. Sorry, the world has changed. We're not here for your amusement anymore. F off.

This, x 1,000

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You women are nuts. You blow little shit out of proportion and then wonder why people aren't outraged when really bad stuff happens. It's like the little boy who cried wolf or chicken little. Do yourselves, your daughters and all women a favor and get a grip.

So you're entitled to play grabass with 12 year old girls? NOPE. Sorry, the world has changed. We're not here for your amusement anymore. F off.

This, x 1,000

You must have missed the part where the poster was a women not a man...Some women are logical, mature, practical thinkers who don't get hysterical over every injustice and teach our daughters strength, character and maturity in the face of adversity recognizing that 12 year olds of both sexes do dumb things for which they need not be publicly castigated or hauled to jail.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Holy shit. The stuff in middle school and junior high was nothing. Wait until shes a young lady and attracting male attention from all sides. Empower her, don't make her a victim.

I'm not OP- what in the world do you mean by this?

Girls do this stuff too. My brother was getting harassed by a bunch of girls because he was attractive. They would take his stuff and hide them to get his attention. I basically went to the head girl and told her to knock it off. The genders are noticing each other and trying to get each other's attention. Let's criminalize the girls too..stealing.

If they are taking his things, yes, it's petty theft and should be dealt with as such.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op, don't be so sure that your daughter and her friends haven't been up to their own inappropriate behavior with this boy and his friends.

I found it very suspect that she had no idea who any of the boys were, yet they go to her school.

Your daughter might not be telling the entire truth here.

Her middle school has almost 1,000 students in two grades. You may find it suspect, but that's your problem.

She was crying when she called to tell me. She is very upset, even though she reacted immediately and appropriately. I discussed it with her, how she felt about it, etc. I didn't ask for advice on how to deal with her. I'm confident in the discussions we've had today and prior.

I'd like to find a way to let his parents know. Will the principal contact them if it was off of school property?

I don't understand why everyone needs to rewrite the story to suit their own needs. The assumptions and accusations about my child and I are nuts. It says a lot more about you than it does about us.

I would be willing to bet that the principal wouldn't. Does your daughter have a yearbook so that she can see if she can find him in it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Holy shit. The stuff in middle school and junior high was nothing. Wait until shes a young lady and attracting male attention from all sides. Empower her, don't make her a victim.

I'm not OP- what in the world do you mean by this?

Girls do this stuff too. My brother was getting harassed by a bunch of girls because he was attractive. They would take his stuff and hide them to get his attention. I basically went to the head girl and told her to knock it off. The genders are noticing each other and trying to get each other's attention. Let's criminalize the girls too..stealing.

If they are taking his things, yes, it's petty theft and should be dealt with as such.

These are KIDS trying to get attention. I will not be getting these girls intro trouble
With the police for petty theft. Get some
Perspective .'

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

As a women born in the 60s and who has seen feminism come full circle from empowerment to victimization, I am disgusted. As a mother of both boys and girls, I am terrified.

The craziness that passes for feminism these days will set us back decades.

+1
I cannot believe the nutcases on this thread and seriously hope they aren't representative of society at large. Surely there is more common sense out there than here on DCUM.

If DCUM represented society at large, this would be hell on earth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You women are nuts. You blow little shit out of proportion and then wonder why people aren't outraged when really bad stuff happens. It's like the little boy who cried wolf or chicken little. Do yourselves, your daughters and all women a favor and get a grip.

So you're entitled to play grabass with 12 year old girls? NOPE. Sorry, the world has changed. We're not here for your amusement anymore. F off.

This, x 1,000

You must have missed the part where the poster was a women not a man...Some women are logical, mature, practical thinkers who don't get hysterical over every injustice and teach our daughters strength, character and maturity in the face of adversity recognizing that 12 year olds of both sexes do dumb things for which they need not be publicly castigated or hauled to jail.

+1000

[Anonymous]

OP, I would call the police after my daughter identified him from the yearbook.

Btw, that's what my grandmother when my mother was sexually assaulted in '81 (4 boys touching, 2 egging on). Police reminded every single boy in the group that it was sexual assault and if they were adults they would have been arrested. Scared them all, they apologized the next fall, and they started treating girls with more respect.

[Anonymous]

Thank you OP. It's people like you who keep the lowest common denominator in my profession in business. Signed, a lawyer