Aftercare is cruel to kindergarteners

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have three friends whose children are starting kindergarten with my daughter. They will be dropping them off at 7:45 am, and not picking them up until 6 pm!! These poor kids are going to be in aftercare from 2:30 on. Why on earth would you do this to a five year old??

I don't get how they are comfortable only seeing their children about 2-3 hours a day. It would break my heart.

What do others think?

I'm with you 1,000%.

[Anonymous]

I think my favorite WOHMBashing expression is "having kids to put them in daycare". That was totally my thinking.

Oooooh, look, I've got some extra money in the bank. What to do, what to do . . . Tour Europe? Nah, I know I'll have a baby so I can put it in daycare.

9 months later "Shit, did you know that daycares expect you to take the kid home in the evenings and on the weekend? I thought this was just an easy way to get rid of my money!"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think my favorite WOHMBashing expression is "having kids to put them in daycare". That was totally my thinking.

Oooooh, look, I've got some extra money in the bank. What to do, what to do . . . Tour Europe? Nah, I know I'll have a baby so I can put it in daycare.

9 months later "Shit, did you know that daycares expect you to take the kid home in the evenings and on the weekend? I thought this was just an easy way to get rid of my money!"

What????

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think my favorite WOHMBashing expression is "having kids to put them in daycare". That was totally my thinking.

Oooooh, look, I've got some extra money in the bank. What to do, what to do . . . Tour Europe? Nah, I know I'll have a baby so I can put it in daycare.

9 months later "Shit, did you know that daycares expect you to take the kid home in the evenings and on the weekend? I thought this was just an easy way to get rid of my money!"

Ha ha ha

[Anonymous]

Yea, I work because I like having disposable income and lots of it. My husband makes 180k/yr and I make 200K and I'm not trying to forgo 200K/yr to SAH. If my earning potential had been sub 100K, no way in hell would I have returned to work.

Yes, I like having a beautiful home, a personal trainer, nice vacations, shopping at the farmers market, weekly date night, new clothes when I want, 2xs a week house cleaners.

I'm unashamed and completely confident in my choice and feel no need to justify it. I'm not going to pretend I'm a poor single mom just trying to make the ends meet. My children are now older and we have an AuPair because we need a driver to get them to all of their sports after school. Aftercare has been replaced with travel hockey and travel soccer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think my favorite WOHMBashing expression is "having kids to put them in daycare". That was totally my thinking.

Oooooh, look, I've got some extra money in the bank. What to do, what to do . . . Tour Europe? Nah, I know I'll have a baby so I can put it in daycare.

9 months later "Shit, did you know that daycares expect you to take the kid home in the evenings and on the weekend? I thought this was just an easy way to get rid of my money!"

What????

You left him there didn't you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yea, I work because I like having disposable income and lots of it. My husband makes 180k/yr and I make 200K and I'm not trying to forgo 200K/yr to SAH. If my earning potential had been sub 100K, no way in hell would I have returned to work.

Yes, I like having a beautiful home, a personal trainer, nice vacations, shopping at the farmers market, weekly date night, new clothes when I want, 2xs a week house cleaners.

I'm unashamed and completely confident in my choice and feel no need to justify it. I'm not going to pretend I'm a poor single mom just trying to make the ends meet. My children are now older and we have an AuPair because we need a driver to get them to all of their sports after school. Aftercare has been replaced with travel hockey and travel soccer.

I'm putting myself up for adoption... You and your husband seem to have a lot of love to $hare

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yea, I work because I like having disposable income and lots of it. My husband makes 180k/yr and I make 200K and I'm not trying to forgo 200K/yr to SAH. If my earning potential had been sub 100K, no way in hell would I have returned to work.

Yes, I like having a beautiful home, a personal trainer, nice vacations, shopping at the farmers market, weekly date night, new clothes when I want, 2xs a week house cleaners.

I'm unashamed and completely confident in my choice and feel no need to justify it. I'm not going to pretend I'm a poor single mom just trying to make the ends meet. My children are now older and we have an AuPair because we need a driver to get them to all of their sports after school. Aftercare has been replaced with travel hockey and travel soccer.

Hence your need to justify it here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yea, I work because I like having disposable income and lots of it. My husband makes 180k/yr and I make 200K and I'm not trying to forgo 200K/yr to SAH. If my earning potential had been sub 100K, no way in hell would I have returned to work.

Yes, I like having a beautiful home, a personal trainer, nice vacations, shopping at the farmers market, weekly date night, new clothes when I want, 2xs a week house cleaners.

I'm unashamed and completely confident in my choice and feel no need to justify it. I'm not going to pretend I'm a poor single mom just trying to make the ends meet. My children are now older and we have an AuPair because we need a driver to get them to all of their sports after school. Aftercare has been replaced with travel hockey and travel soccer.

Hence your need to justify it here.

SNAP. You go, girl.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yea, I work because I like having disposable income and lots of it. My husband makes 180k/yr and I make 200K and I'm not trying to forgo 200K/yr to SAH. If my earning potential had been sub 100K, no way in hell would I have returned to work.

Yes, I like having a beautiful home, a personal trainer, nice vacations, shopping at the farmers market, weekly date night, new clothes when I want, 2xs a week house cleaners.

I'm unashamed and completely confident in my choice and feel no need to justify it. I'm not going to pretend I'm a poor single mom just trying to make the ends meet. My children are now older and we have an AuPair because we need a driver to get them to all of their sports after school. Aftercare has been replaced with travel hockey and travel soccer.

Hence your need to justify it here.

Nope, no justification contained in my above statement. No excuse or altruistic reason working. I like working and I like having disposable income. It is not to "feed or clothe or house my family" I do not live in a small apartment. We could easily live on one income, we just don't want to. I don't need to justify it because there is nothing to justify. It is the same reason I do not justify why I drive an SUV. I drive one because I like it and I want to drive one, not because I need a utility vehicle. I don't even need the extra space. I simply saw it, I liked it, and I bought it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yea, I work because I like having disposable income and lots of it. My husband makes 180k/yr and I make 200K and I'm not trying to forgo 200K/yr to SAH. If my earning potential had been sub 100K, no way in hell would I have returned to work.

Yes, I like having a beautiful home, a personal trainer, nice vacations, shopping at the farmers market, weekly date night, new clothes when I want, 2xs a week house cleaners.

I'm unashamed and completely confident in my choice and feel no need to justify it. I'm not going to pretend I'm a poor single mom just trying to make the ends meet. My children are now older and we have an AuPair because we need a driver to get them to all of their sports after school. Aftercare has been replaced with travel hockey and travel soccer.

Hence your need to justify it here.

Nope, no justification contained in my above statement. No excuse or altruistic reason working. I like working and I like having disposable income. It is not to "feed or clothe or house my family" I do not live in a small apartment. We could easily live on one income, we just don't want to. I don't need to justify it because there is nothing to justify. It is the same reason I do not justify why I drive an SUV. I drive one because I like it and I want to drive one, not because I need a utility vehicle. I don't even need the extra space. I simply saw it, I liked it, and I bought it.

And this attitude, people, is why I cannot wait to leave DC.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yea, I work because I like having disposable income and lots of it. My husband makes 180k/yr and I make 200K and I'm not trying to forgo 200K/yr to SAH. If my earning potential had been sub 100K, no way in hell would I have returned to work.

Yes, I like having a beautiful home, a personal trainer, nice vacations, shopping at the farmers market, weekly date night, new clothes when I want, 2xs a week house cleaners.

I'm unashamed and completely confident in my choice and feel no need to justify it. I'm not going to pretend I'm a poor single mom just trying to make the ends meet. My children are now older and we have an AuPair because we need a driver to get them to all of their sports after school. Aftercare has been replaced with travel hockey and travel soccer.

Hence your need to justify it here.

Nope, no justification contained in my above statement. No excuse or altruistic reason working. I like working and I like having disposable income. It is not to "feed or clothe or house my family" I do not live in a small apartment. We could easily live on one income, we just don't want to. I don't need to justify it because there is nothing to justify. It is the same reason I do not justify why I drive an SUV. I drive one because I like it and I want to drive one, not because I need a utility vehicle. I don't even need the extra space. I simply saw it, I liked it, and I bought it.

Honey, you just don't get it.

Ten sentences, each and every one defending yourself.

It's OK. Really. You love money and the easy life.

It's much more dignified to just own it.

Of course, you're shallow and superficial, but so is most of humanity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ok ladies. I'm sure that OP has left the building. She came, she trolled, and she left. It's such a nice day outside...please move along.

Wow. I posted this in the early afternoon and then left work, played 9 holes, went to happy hour, came home for dinner with DS and DW, played w/DS, put him to sleep, then fired up the laptop to see what's going on in DCUM-land. I see that you ladies are still trying to claw each other's eyes out. One zinger after another. Some of you haven't stopped thinking about this thread all day. What a waste of a great August day. Cmon girls, get your acts together. IT'S NOT THAT BIG OF A DEAL. Kindergarden lasts for 1 year. After that, kids are usually in afterschool activities. Why are you getting so worked up about this topic?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am going to chime in here. My neighbour, lives in a 1.5 million dollar home, not in DC.

She has a nanny, three kids under six and leaves them with the nanny all day. Then she comes home and instead of being with her kids, SHE GOES JOGGING. Yes, I will admit I think that's pretty shitty.

Also, when the older one attends school. The nanny has to drag all the kids along. THE MOM IS HOME getting ready for work. She does this when its RAINING. Can't the mom just drop the kid off at school when it rains, she is home.

Even my kids commented when they saw her jogging. They feel bad for those kids.

You sound judgmental and awful. And what about the dad in this family?

He works longer hours. He doesn't jog.iPlus, I don't see his car siting in the driveway while three kids are shleped to school in the rain by the nanny.

He works longer hours? How materialistic! If he got a job with shorter hours, and scaled down on his mansion, he could be at home with his kids! How cruel of him.

Oh, wait, sorry -- I forgot. It's only the mom who isn't allowed to enjoy life outside of her kids.

[Anonymous]

Damn, 21 pages of responses in less than 12 hours....amazing