Aftercare is cruel to kindergarteners

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:An actual oncologist would have described him/herself that way. Not as a "cancer surgeon."

I call BS on cancer surgeon too.
I worked and an RN in the OR and I have never heard the term.
It stood out to me.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I was raised by two full-time working parents. Mom put in 40 hrs/week M-F and spent 2.5 years working all day Saturdays while she wrote a book and we had movie day with Dad. I'm a 4th generation working mom and I LOVED my childhood. If you're assuming your kids will spend all of the after school hours missing you, you probably didn't have a working mom, right? Or you didn't have many friends as a child? Those of us who actually grew up as the children of these kinds of mothers know how wonderful a family life can be with two working parents. I choose to work because I know it's best, not just for our bank account, but for my child. If you doubt that, then go for a different decision. That's fine and I'm sure that can work out great too. But you're making a straw man argument - the notion that daycare harms kids was debunked in the 80s. If you want to keep arguing it, feel free but there's no evidence to back you up.

And I was raised by two working parents as well. Spent my summers and after schools in daycare- and I wanted nothing more than to spend my summers running around the neighborhood with the rest of my friends, playing in the woods alone with no adults in sight, biking, etc. or just come home and have freshly made cookies by mom, time to veg out alone, etc. The type of childhood people always dream of. Sure, I had fun at camps and no I was not permanently damaged, but I really longed for that classic, carefree childhood.

So, on top of being bat shit insane, you're also an ungrateful bitch of a daughter. Your poor parents deserved so much better.

Huh? How is this poster batshit insane?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was raised by two full-time working parents. Mom put in 40 hrs/week M-F and spent 2.5 years working all day Saturdays while she wrote a book and we had movie day with Dad. I'm a 4th generation working mom and I LOVED my childhood. If you're assuming your kids will spend all of the after school hours missing you, you probably didn't have a working mom, right? Or you didn't have many friends as a child? Those of us who actually grew up as the children of these kinds of mothers know how wonderful a family life can be with two working parents. I choose to work because I know it's best, not just for our bank account, but for my child. If you doubt that, then go for a different decision. That's fine and I'm sure that can work out great too. But you're making a straw man argument - the notion that daycare harms kids was debunked in the 80s. If you want to keep arguing it, feel free but there's no evidence to back you up.

And I was raised by two working parents as well. Spent my summers and after schools in daycare- and I wanted nothing more than to spend my summers running around the neighborhood with the rest of my friends, playing in the woods alone with no adults in sight, biking, etc. or just come home and have freshly made cookies by mom, time to veg out alone, etc. The type of childhood people always dream of. Sure, I had fun at camps and no I was not permanently damaged, but I really longed for that classic, carefree childhood.

So, on top of being bat shit insane, you're also an ungrateful bitch of a daughter. Your poor parents deserved so much better.

Huh? How is this poster batshit insane?

+1 wondered the same.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am going to chime in here. My neighbour, lives in a 1.5 million dollar home, not in DC.

She has a nanny, three kids under six and leaves them with the nanny all day. Then she comes home and instead of being with her kids, SHE GOES JOGGING. Yes, I will admit I think that's pretty shitty.

Also, when the older one attends school. The nanny has to drag all the kids along. THE MOM IS HOME getting ready for work. She does this when its RAINING. Can't the mom just drop the kid off at school when it rains, she is home.

Even my kids commented when they saw her jogging. They feel bad for those kids.

You sound judgmental and awful. And what about the dad in this family?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am going to chime in here. My neighbour, lives in a 1.5 million dollar home, not in DC.

She has a nanny, three kids under six and leaves them with the nanny all day. Then she comes home and instead of being with her kids, SHE GOES JOGGING. Yes, I will admit I think that's pretty shitty.

Also, when the older one attends school. The nanny has to drag all the kids along. THE MOM IS HOME getting ready for work. She does this when its RAINING. Can't the mom just drop the kid off at school when it rains, she is home.

Even my kids commented when they saw her jogging. They feel bad for those kids.

You sound judgmental and awful. And what about the dad in this family?

Gosh. How dare she get ready for work when it's RAINING. How dare she go JOGGING. I can't imagine anything worse that a mother could do to her child.

(Also, I bet she takes the dog JOGGING. That is because she gives more thought to her dog than to her children.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am going to chime in here. My neighbour, lives in a 1.5 million dollar home, not in DC.

She has a nanny, three kids under six and leaves them with the nanny all day. Then she comes home and instead of being with her kids, SHE GOES JOGGING. Yes, I will admit I think that's pretty shitty.

Also, when the older one attends school. The nanny has to drag all the kids along. THE MOM IS HOME getting ready for work. She does this when its RAINING. Can't the mom just drop the kid off at school when it rains, she is home.

Even my kids commented when they saw her jogging. They feel bad for those kids.

You sound judgmental and awful. And what about the dad in this family?

He works longer hours. He doesn't jog.
Plus, I don't see his car siting in the driveway while three kids are shleped to school in the rain by the nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am going to chime in here. My neighbour, lives in a 1.5 million dollar home, not in DC.

She has a nanny, three kids under six and leaves them with the nanny all day. Then she comes home and instead of being with her kids, SHE GOES JOGGING. Yes, I will admit I think that's pretty shitty.

Also, when the older one attends school. The nanny has to drag all the kids along. THE MOM IS HOME getting ready for work. She does this when its RAINING. Can't the mom just drop the kid off at school when it rains, she is home.

Even my kids commented when they saw her jogging. They feel bad for those kids.

You sound judgmental and awful. And what about the dad in this family?

Gosh. How dare she get ready for work when it's RAINING. How dare she go JOGGING. I can't imagine anything worse that a mother could do to her child.

(Also, I bet she takes the dog JOGGING. That is because she gives more thought to her dog than to her children.)

She could drive them on the way.
They don have a dog, she wouldn't want to ruin her hardwood floor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am going to chime in here. My neighbour, lives in a 1.5 million dollar home, not in DC.

She has a nanny, three kids under six and leaves them with the nanny all day. Then she comes home and instead of being with her kids, SHE GOES JOGGING. Yes, I will admit I think that's pretty shitty.

Also, when the older one attends school. The nanny has to drag all the kids along. THE MOM IS HOME getting ready for work. She does this when its RAINING. Can't the mom just drop the kid off at school when it rains, she is home.

Even my kids commented when they saw her jogging. They feel bad for those kids.

You sound judgmental and awful. And what about the dad in this family?

He works longer hours. He doesn't jog.
Plus, I don't see his car siting in the driveway while three kids are shleped to school in the rain by the nanny.

Moral of the story: join a gym. Then you can park there and not be judged by idiot neighbors.

Is the issue that the kids are walking in the rain? My kid loved walks in the rain, jumping in puddles, etc . . . when he was that age (by that age I'm assuming that if they're just dropping off the oldest, the younger too are under 5).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am going to chime in here. My neighbour, lives in a 1.5 million dollar home, not in DC.

She has a nanny, three kids under six and leaves them with the nanny all day. Then she comes home and instead of being with her kids, SHE GOES JOGGING. Yes, I will admit I think that's pretty shitty.

Also, when the older one attends school. The nanny has to drag all the kids along. THE MOM IS HOME getting ready for work. She does this when its RAINING. Can't the mom just drop the kid off at school when it rains, she is home.

Even my kids commented when they saw her jogging. They feel bad for those kids.

You sound judgmental and awful. And what about the dad in this family?

He works longer hours. He doesn't jog.
Plus, I don't see his car siting in the driveway while three kids are shleped to school in the rain by the nanny.

Moral of the story: join a gym. Then you can park there and not be judged by idiot neighbors.

Is the issue that the kids are walking in the rain? My kid loved walks in the rain, jumping in puddles, etc . . . when he was that age (by that age I'm assuming that if they're just dropping off the oldest, the younger too are under 5).

To bad the mom can't drop the oldest off while nanny is home with the others.
Being thin and having a big house are her priorities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Moral of the story: join a gym. Then you can park there and not be judged by idiot neighbors.

Is the issue that the kids are walking in the rain? My kid loved walks in the rain, jumping in puddles, etc . . . when he was that age (by that age I'm assuming that if they're just dropping off the oldest, the younger too are under 5).

Moral of the story: join a gym near work so that your neighbors think you're at work while you're really out JOGGING. (In the RAIN.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
To bad the mom can't drop the oldest off while nanny is home with the others.
Being thin and having a big house are her priorities.

What are your priorities? Looking out the window and judging your neighbors?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
To bad the mom can't drop the oldest off while nanny is home with the others.
Being thin and having a big house are her priorities.

What are your priorities? Looking out the window and judging your neighbors?

I am a very active hands on mom. I am always out with my kids so we see her while we are out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
To bad the mom can't drop the oldest off while nanny is home with the others.
Being thin and having a big house are her priorities.

What are your priorities? Looking out the window and judging your neighbors?

I am a very active hands on mom. I am always out with my kids so we see her while we are out.

And if God forbid she should stop jogging and gain weight, there would be a comment that she is fat. Geez, MYOB and raise your own kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

What are your priorities? Looking out the window and judging your neighbors?

I am a very active hands on mom. I am always out with my kids so we see her while we are out.

How nice for you. Nonetheless, yours is not the one universal way to be a good mother.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Working moms always want to hear how progressive and educated they are and how they are providing and setting a good example for their children not to rely on a man for $.

In reality though: working moms bewilder me. When you consider the thought people put into getting a dog for example- whether the dog will have space to run, enough time for walks, enough time to spend with it each day. It's sad to see that people don't put this forethought into bringing an actual human being into the world. If you are having children to put them in daycare, aftercare, whatever, then you're showing that your child that your priority is your job, your career, your happiness and your poor child is less than a dog. I'm sorry if you don't want to hear this.

I'll have you know I crate trained my child. I admit I had a terrible time getting her not to jump up on strangers, but we finally got it once I employed the squirt bottle.

My dog, on the other hand, adores his doggy day care. He also does Kumon on weekends. I'm pretty sure he's going to make it into AAP.

No swim team? No violin lessons? Why don't you love your dog?

My dog needs free play! None of this over scheduling for him!

Besides, he has Chinese school and Calligraphy class. Violin is so last year.