How do you get an affair/relationship started with another married person?

[Anonymous]

Was he hotter than your husband, or particularly hot at all? How did you meet? How did you guys finally hook up (as in the title of this thread)? More details, please!

[Anonymous]

They are both equally hot. The reason I asked here (would love Rico/Rica to respond) is bc it was almost exactly as described in his/her seduction posts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Soooo, do any of you travel to NC for business????

I do, north of Charlotte! By a lake perhaps? Large $13B company?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They are both equally hot. The reason I asked here (would love Rico/R
ca to respond) is bc it was almost exactly as described in his/her seduction posts.

So tell us more about how the Estudiante de Rico executed his seduction.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:these two will probably have the most vanilla sex ever.

if they cant get creative to find a way to fuck in a car, office, cheap hotel something, they just want to have regular vanilla missionary sex.

she probably wont even put her legs on his shoulders/chest she so boring.

Guess what? I paid for a motel and we did it. It was anything but vanilla. Thanks for the encouragement

glad my thread encouraged you to go through with it.

and why did you pay for the motel as oppose to him?

'cause I make more, and because his wife does the bills in his house

OP here/

so do you plan on doing it again? seems like if you paying for the motels, this side dick is going to be a regular expense you have to manage

[ThatSmileyFaceGuy]

A very expensive regular expense

[Anonymous]

Don't know what's going to happen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They are both equally hot. The reason I asked here (would love Rico/R
ca to respond) is bc it was almost exactly as described in his/her seduction posts.

So tell us more about how the Estudiante de Rico executed his seduction.

I can't give too many details. I don't want to risk my identity.

[Anonymous]

Research has shown that teambuilding exercises can be very effective for newly created groups but completely ineffective for long-established groups with defined alliances, rivalries, and entrenched patterns of miscommunication.

To seduce a new love we must make the target believe in a certain persona. To seduce a spouse we must make him forget the old persona and accept a new one. I have not met anyone with the level of commitment and discipline that would be required to pull it off. It should be easy because you know, from years of proximity, the meta-message that your spouse really wants to hear (i.e. "Yes, darling. If you had kept up your acting classes Johnny Depp would not have been able to compete. You have oceans of talent of which he can only dream.")

But the problem is that your spouse knows when you are BSing with a purpose. You have to create the new persona, believe it, and live it, all while convincing him that the old was a flawed situational rendering of the real you. This is why we have so much divorce. As Sandra Tsing Loh noted, children, work, other friends and interests absorb so much psychic energy that almost no one has the huge amount available needed to make a serious effort to revitalize a marriage.

If I really wanted to start an emotional or physical affair with a spouse I would do something he wants but would never expect me to be willing to do. If, for example, he likes costly gadgets and we argue nonstop about money I would go out and buy him a Wii (or whatever). If I normally never initiate sex I would buy lingerie or the accoutrements for his fetish of choice and pin him against the wall, etc. The sad thing is it still probably would not work in the long run because you would have to be willing to be the new person basically all the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Research has shown that teambuilding exercises can be very effective for newly created groups but completely ineffective for long-established groups with defined alliances, rivalries, and entrenched patterns of miscommunication.

To seduce a new love we must make the target believe in a certain persona. To seduce a spouse we must make him forget the old persona and accept a new one. I have not met anyone with the level of commitment and discipline that would be required to pull it off. It should be easy because you know, from years of proximity, the meta-message that your spouse really wants to hear (i.e. "Yes, darling. If you had kept up your acting classes Johnny Depp would not have been able to compete. You have oceans of talent of which he can only dream.")

But the problem is that your spouse knows when you are BSing with a purpose. You have to create the new persona, believe it, and live it, all while convincing him that the old was a flawed situational rendering of the real you. This is why we have so much divorce. As Sandra Tsing Loh noted, children, work, other friends and interests absorb so much psychic energy that almost no one has the huge amount available needed to make a serious effort to revitalize a marriage.

If I really wanted to start an emotional or physical affair with a spouse I would do something he wants but would never expect me to be willing to do. If, for example, he likes costly gadgets and we argue nonstop about money I would go out and buy him a Wii (or whatever). If I normally never initiate sex I would buy lingerie or the accoutrements for his fetish of choice and pin him against the wall, etc. The sad thing is it still probably would not work in the long run because you would have to be willing to be the new person basically all the time.

And even harder yet, how do I get him to seduce me...if I were even able to keep up a new persona all the time, how could I be sure he would in turn do so as well.

[Anonymous]

Men are easy to seduce. All you need to offer is sex, sex, and more sex. Works to start and affair and will work for your DH. I've never known a man to turn down a good BJ or a good fuck.

I think it is harder for men to seduce women. Per Rico/Rica's examples, there is a lot more work involved because to seduce a woman, you have to mess with her head. Women analyze situations where as men think with their penises.

[Montana]

PP, I assume you are a female....so, according to you, men think w their cocks, but women bypass their pussies? While women MAY analyze situations, you almost make it seem that they are either more cerebral, evolved, etc. I think both genders fall for the same thing: heat, passion, chemistry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Research has shown that teambuilding exercises can be very effective for newly created groups but completely ineffective for long-established groups with defined alliances, rivalries, and entrenched patterns of miscommunication.

To seduce a new love we must make the target believe in a certain persona. To seduce a spouse we must make him forget the old persona and accept a new one. I have not met anyone with the level of commitment and discipline that would be required to pull it off. It should be easy because you know, from years of proximity, the meta-message that your spouse really wants to hear (i.e. "Yes, darling. If you had kept up your acting classes Johnny Depp would not have been able to compete. You have oceans of talent of which he can only dream.")

But the problem is that your spouse knows when you are BSing with a purpose. You have to create the new persona, believe it, and live it, all while convincing him that the old was a flawed situational rendering of the real you. This is why we have so much divorce. As Sandra Tsing Loh noted, children, work, other friends and interests absorb so much psychic energy that almost no one has the huge amount available needed to make a serious effort to revitalize a marriage.

If I really wanted to start an emotional or physical affair with a spouse I would do something he wants but would never expect me to be willing to do. If, for example, he likes costly gadgets and we argue nonstop about money I would go out and buy him a Wii (or whatever). If I normally never initiate sex I would buy lingerie or the accoutrements for his fetish of choice and pin him against the wall, etc. The sad thing is it still probably would not work in the long run because you would have to be willing to be the new person basically all the time.

And even harder yet, how do I get him to seduce me...if I were even able to keep up a new persona all the time, how could I be sure he would in turn do so as well.

I'm not Rica but I think it's impossible to get your husband to seduce you. You can get him to be more "romantic" and more giving but seduction is for people who don't know each other that well. I do agree that it would help a lot to give him the things he really wants that you might have been withholding in the past.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Research has shown that teambuilding exercises can be very effective for newly created groups but completely ineffective for long-established groups with defined alliances, rivalries, and entrenched patterns of miscommunication.

To seduce a new love we must make the target believe in a certain persona. To seduce a spouse we must make him forget the old persona and accept a new one. I have not met anyone with the level of commitment and discipline that would be required to pull it off. It should be easy because you know, from years of proximity, the meta-message that your spouse really wants to hear (i.e. "Yes, darling. If you had kept up your acting classes Johnny Depp would not have been able to compete. You have oceans of talent of which he can only dream.")

But the problem is that your spouse knows when you are BSing with a purpose. You have to create the new persona, believe it, and live it, all while convincing him that the old was a flawed situational rendering of the real you. This is why we have so much divorce. As Sandra Tsing Loh noted, children, work, other friends and interests absorb so much psychic energy that almost no one has the huge amount available needed to make a serious effort to revitalize a marriage.

If I really wanted to start an emotional or physical affair with a spouse I would do something he wants but would never expect me to be willing to do. If, for example, he likes costly gadgets and we argue nonstop about money I would go out and buy him a Wii (or whatever). If I normally never initiate sex I would buy lingerie or the accoutrements for his fetish of choice and pin him against the wall, etc. The sad thing is it still probably would not work in the long run because you would have to be willing to be the new person basically all the time.

And even harder yet, how do I get him to seduce me...if I were even able to keep up a new persona all the time, how could I be sure he would in turn do so as well.

I'm not Rica but I think it's impossible to get your husband to seduce you. You can get him to be more "romantic" and more giving but seduction is for people who don't know each other that well. I do agree that it would help a lot to give him the things he really wants that you might have been withholding in the past.

Why is it impossible for him to seduce me? I don't want romance. I want seduction and attention.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Research has shown that teambuilding exercises can be very effective for newly created groups but completely ineffective for long-established groups with defined alliances, rivalries, and entrenched patterns of miscommunication.

To seduce a new love we must make the target believe in a certain persona. To seduce a spouse we must make him forget the old persona and accept a new one. I have not met anyone with the level of commitment and discipline that would be required to pull it off. It should be easy because you know, from years of proximity, the meta-message that your spouse really wants to hear (i.e. "Yes, darling. If you had kept up your acting classes Johnny Depp would not have been able to compete. You have oceans of talent of which he can only dream.")

But the problem is that your spouse knows when you are BSing with a purpose. You have to create the new persona, believe it, and live it, all while convincing him that the old was a flawed situational rendering of the real you. This is why we have so much divorce. As Sandra Tsing Loh noted, children, work, other friends and interests absorb so much psychic energy that almost no one has the huge amount available needed to make a serious effort to revitalize a marriage.

If I really wanted to start an emotional or physical affair with a spouse I would do something he wants but would never expect me to be willing to do. If, for example, he likes costly gadgets and we argue nonstop about money I would go out and buy him a Wii (or whatever). If I normally never initiate sex I would buy lingerie or the accoutrements for his fetish of choice and pin him against the wall, etc. The sad thing is it still probably would not work in the long run because you would have to be willing to be the new person basically all the time.

And even harder yet, how do I get him to seduce me...if I were even able to keep up a new persona all the time, how could I be sure he would in turn do so as well.

I'm not Rica but I think it's impossible to get your husband to seduce you. You can get him to be more "romantic" and more giving but seduction is for people who don't know each other that well. I do agree that it would help a lot to give him the things he really wants that you might have been withholding in the past.

Why is it impossible for him to seduce me? I don't want romance. I want seduction and attention.

Because here is the definition of seduce:

se·duce? ?[si-doos, -dyoos] Show IPA
verb (used with object), se·duced, se·duc·ing.
1.
to lead astray, as from duty, rectitude, or the like; corrupt.
2.
to persuade or induce to have sexual intercourse.
3.
to lead or draw away, as from principles, faith, or allegiance: He was seduced by the prospect of gain.
4.
to win over; attract; entice: a supermarket seducing customers with special sales.


It isn't really an activity for married people. What exactly do you want from him? Whatever it is, you need to tell him what you need. The fourth definition-- maybe but why does he need to win you over or entice you? He has you. If it's attention, that is different but he is your husband. Seduction doesn't apply.