How do you get an affair/relationship started with another married person?

[Anonymous]

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And even harder yet, how do I get him to seduce me...if I were even able to keep up a new persona all the time, how could I be sure he would in turn do so as well.

I'm not Rica but I think it's impossible to get your husband to seduce you. You can get him to be more "romantic" and more giving but seduction is for people who don't know each other that well. I do agree that it would help a lot to give him the things he really wants that you might have been withholding in the past.

Why is it impossible for him to seduce me? I don't want romance. I want seduction and attention.

Because here is the definition of seduce:

se·duce? ?[si-doos, -dyoos] Show IPA
verb (used with object), se·duced, se·duc·ing.
1.
to lead astray, as from duty, rectitude, or the like; corrupt.
2.
to persuade or induce to have sexual intercourse.
3.
to lead or draw away, as from principles, faith, or allegiance: He was seduced by the prospect of gain.
4.
to win over; attract; entice: a supermarket seducing customers with special sales.


It isn't really an activity for married people. What exactly do you want from him? Whatever it is, you need to tell him what you need. The fourth definition-- maybe but why does he need to win you over or entice you? He has you. If it's attention, that is different but he is your husband. Seduction doesn't apply.

Oh there are plenty of ways he can lead me astray #4 is also a good definition. I've told him what I want...exactly like Rico/Rica states...people can't keep up personas for very long. I just want to be wanted...and wanted badly. (and no I have not gotten fat or sloppy).

[ThatSmileyFaceGuy]

Have you tried seducing and paying attention to him. Marriages sometimes fall in to the rut of having to live life. Perhaps you both have become a bit complacent that the other will be there when you need them. You sometimes need to remind them that you needs to go beyond the basic "slap and tickle" that is the most that even loving couples seem to have time for anymore.

[Anonymous]

ThatSmileyFaceGuy wrote:Have you tried seducing and paying attention to him. Marriages sometimes fall in to the rut of having to live life. Perhaps you both have become a bit complacent that the other will be there when you need them. You sometimes need to remind them that you needs to go beyond the basic "slap and tickle" that is the most that even loving couples seem to have time for anymore.

I promise you...I have tried. ALOT. Lingerie, porn, breakfast in bed etc...He doesn't turn me away, but really, he just doesn't seem completely excited.

[ThatSmileyFaceGuy]

So he is responding but not to the level of excitement that you need. I do understand. He probably knows what he is doing to your self esteem but doesn't know how to correct it. But still even if he isn't totally feeling it, he does need to put on his happy face and make a concerted go. We often tell women that when they aren't feeling especially sexy after giving birth due to hormones and body issues to "fake it until you make it" in regards to keeping up the sex life with their husbands so that the men in their lives don't feel neglected. This advice should apply to your husband too.

[Anonymous]

Maybe you haven't figured out what will excite him and you will never know unless he tells you. Ask him what his sexual fantasies are. There has to be something that will turn him on or there is a bigger issue than just sex.

[hotteach]

To PP :

[Anonymous]

Check out When Your Sex Drives Don't Match by Sandra Pertot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't have experience here, but be careful with non-married people. They don't have as much to lose as you.

This.

A single acquiantance of mine was involved with a married guy who actually promised to leave his wife for her, but never did. In fact, when his wife found out, she flat refused to grant him the divorce, and he just couldn't be bothered,so he dumped my acquiantance instead. She almost lost it, she was threatening him with 'revenge' whatever that might have been.

It was a total mess.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Don't have experience here, but be careful with non-married people. They don't have as much to lose as you.

This.

A single acquiantance of mine was involved with a married guy who actually promised to leave his wife for her, but never did. In fact, when his wife found out, she flat refused to grant him the divorce, and he just couldn't be bothered,so he dumped my acquiantance instead. She almost lost it, she was threatening him with 'revenge' whatever that might have been.

It was a total mess.

why does the woman always believe that the man is going to leave their wife for them?

unless you see the final paper, there is no need to trust whenever he says anything like that

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't have experience here, but be careful with non-married people. They don't have as much to lose as you.

This.

A single acquiantance of mine was involved with a married guy who actually promised to leave his wife for her, but never did. In fact, when his wife found out, she flat refused to grant him the divorce, and he just couldn't be bothered,so he dumped my acquiantance instead. She almost lost it, she was threatening him with 'revenge' whatever that might have been.

It was a total mess.

why does the woman always believe that the man is going to leave their wife for them?

unless you see the final paper, there is no need to trust whenever he says anything like that

"You're right, you're right. I know you're right"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't have experience here, but be careful with non-married people. They don't have as much to lose as you.

This.

A single acquiantance of mine was involved with a married guy who actually promised to leave his wife for her, but never did. In fact, when his wife found out, she flat refused to grant him the divorce, and he just couldn't be bothered,so he dumped my acquiantance instead. She almost lost it, she was threatening him with 'revenge' whatever that might have been.

It was a total mess.

why does the woman always believe that the man is going to leave their wife for them?

unless you see the final paper, there is no need to trust whenever he says anything like that

"You're right, you're right. I know you're right"

Never expected that...does suck though, but you gotta know what you're getting in to.

[Anonymous]

Why would you want him to leave his wife? So he can be with you?

If he wasn't faithful to his wife what makes you think he would be faithful to you? He will do to you exactly what he did to his wife because he would be the same SOB.

If you have an affair with a married guy, you can't expect any strings attached. It would just be sex and nothing else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why would you want him to leave his wife? So he can be with you?

If he wasn't faithful to his wife what makes you think he would be faithful to you? He will do to you exactly what he did to his wife because he would be the same SOB.

If you have an affair with a married guy, you can't expect any strings attached. It would just be sex and nothing else.

Perfectly said. These dumbass idiots who think their married lovers are going to leave the wife/husband and be faithful to THEM?? hahaha

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:They are both equally hot. The reason I asked here (would love Rico/R
ca to respond) is bc it was almost exactly as described in his/her seduction posts.

So tell us more about how the Estudiante de Rico executed his seduction.

I can't give too many details. I don't want to risk my identity.

Did you want to be seduced?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They are both equally hot. The reason I asked here (would love Rico/R
ca to respond) is bc it was almost exactly as described in his/her seduction posts.

So tell us more about how the Estudiante de Rico executed his seduction.

I can't give too many details. I don't want to risk my identity.

Did you want to be seduced?

well, it wasn't something I was looking for or thinking about, but once it started happening I relished every minute of it.