Millennials feel 'abandoned' by parents not available to help raise grandkids: 'Too busy'

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Anonymous wrote:I feel like a lot of millennials refuse to do the math. When I was small, my grandma was in her 50s. People complaining about lack of help when “my parents’ parents helped them”: how old are your parents? My guess is, substantially older than their parents were when you were born.

It’s nobody’s fault. It’s just a societal change. Complaining won’t help.

Yes this is a huge issue. Also mostly white Americans delay childbirth. This is a big mistake in the long run.

Totally agree that delayed childbirth is a huge mistake. Women need to know infertility is going up big time, so don’t further reduce your chances of pregnancy by waiting so long.

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Anonymous wrote:As a boomer I never expected child care or financial support from my parents and my parents never received that from their parents. Why do millennials expect it from their parents? We all faced child care and financial challenges when we were in our 30s and 40s but somehow survived over time. I still cringe when I think about our 17.25% mortgage in 1981. I never had one below 6-7% which is now considered outrageous.

Cost of living and home prices back then were in a completely different league than today.

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In 1965, one could buy a house in the Northeast for about $30k. A new car was about $3k. What do you think those comparables cost now?

The average salary as $126 per week. People’s monthly income averaged $500 per month. The federal tax was up to 70% of your income. People making 1,000 per year paid a 10% federal tax rate. People making $200,000 paid 70% in federal taxes.

I don’t get what that has to do with anything.

I also think these comparisons are rarely apples to apples. In 1970 the average new build was 1500 sq ft. Now it’s almost doubled, even though families are smaller.

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Anonymous wrote:As a boomer I never expected child care or financial support from my parents and my parents never received that from their parents. Why do millennials expect it from their parents? We all faced child care and financial challenges when we were in our 30s and 40s but somehow survived over time. I still cringe when I think about our 17.25% mortgage in 1981. I never had one below 6-7% which is now considered outrageous.

Right but what was the value of your mortgage? Guessing it wasnt 1.5 million. 17% of 100000 is less than 4% of 1 million. Full picture here, which I know is not boomers strong suit.

It was over 40% of our income. That is what’s relevant. What percent is it of yours? If it’s 40% you are as stupid as we were but at least ours quickly started declining as we had a 6 mos variable. I’m awaiting your full picture.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do grandparents owe their children and grandchildren anything? Yes, it would be great if they could help out but some of your are downright entitled. You think your parents still owe you their time and effort? How messed up is that?

Why do we owe you Social security or medicare?

The average boomer never paid enough into those systems, which is why they're going broke.

That’s not how it works.

For decades Boomers vehementy opposed paying more taxes to shore up SS or medicare. Instead they always pushed for expanding yet abother benefit for themselves. So they're getting way more out of those systems than they ever paid in. Now Millennials are left holding the bag with all this national debt while Boomers basically have the gov pay for their viagra and pleasure cruises.

Precisely. Most selfish generation in history.

Look at who’s demanding child care…. The navel-gazing Millennials.

Thank you.

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Anonymous wrote:Boomers are too busy and galavanting around on vacations to help their kids and grand kids, sad. Another example of boomer selfishness on top of the wealth taking and focusing younger generations to find their lifestyles, sad.

https://www.foxnews.com/media/millennials-feel-abandoned-parents-available-help-raise-grandkids-busy.amp

I think millennials need to stop having sex.

Vasectomies all around! Problem solved.

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Anonymous wrote:It never would occur to me to be angry at my parents for my own choices.

That’s because you’re mature and not childish, spoiled and entitled. You seem to be a rare unicorn in this thread.

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Anonymous wrote:I do get a bit annoyed at my boomer parents, who are always on vacation, while I have small children at home, a demanding career, and cannot get enough sleep.

That’s really bizarre. You made choices to have children and keep a demanding job. And you’re annoyed at retired parents who spent 30 or 40 years working jobs, taking care of children and are now taking vacations?

As I explained earlier, the annoying part is that they can’t watch the kids for 15 minutes. They ask us to go out of our way for them to see grandkids, but cannot watch them for 15 min. They live a life of leisure that is obnoxious and we don’t want to go out of our way for them anymore.

Your attempt at making a point is invalid, which is why you keep having to repeat “as I explained earlier.” What you explained earlier was incorrect. Be better.

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Anonymous wrote:As a boomer I never expected child care or financial support from my parents and my parents never received that from their parents. Why do millennials expect it from their parents? We all faced child care and financial challenges when we were in our 30s and 40s but somehow survived over time. I still cringe when I think about our 17.25% mortgage in 1981. I never had one below 6-7% which is now considered outrageous.

Cost of living and home prices back then were in a completely different league than today.

Yes, and incomes were much lower. No boomer ever had a 3% mortgage and with debt that cheap size of homes and prices escalate which is very understandable. Cost of living? Boomers never, in their 30s and 40s, paid for cell phones, streaming services, Instacart, Uber Eats etc. They didn’t exist! Our cost of living may have been lower because we didn’t have all of these things to piss our money away on. We actually cooked our own meals and watched free TV.

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Anonymous wrote:I do get a bit annoyed at my boomer parents, who are always on vacation, while I have small children at home, a demanding career, and cannot get enough sleep.

That’s really bizarre. You made choices to have children and keep a demanding job. And you’re annoyed at retired parents who spent 30 or 40 years working jobs, taking care of children and are now taking vacations?

+1. The sense of entitlement is beyond me.

From our perspective, it is the grandparents who are entitled and making demands of us.

And as *I* explained earlier” your “perspective” is WRONG.

They
Are
Your
Kids

They
Are
Your
Responsibility
And
No
One
Else’s

Have you caught up yet? Unreal.

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Anonymous wrote:I do get a bit annoyed at my boomer parents, who are always on vacation, while I have small children at home, a demanding career, and cannot get enough sleep.

That’s really bizarre. You made choices to have children and keep a demanding job. And you’re annoyed at retired parents who spent 30 or 40 years working jobs, taking care of children and are now taking vacations?

+1. The sense of entitlement is beyond me.

From our perspective, it is the grandparents who are entitled and making demands of us.

What demands are they making of you?

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To have grandkids, to see the grandkids on holidays, to host them at our house, to FaceTime with them, to send them pictures and give them updates. But they can’t lift a finger. We just don’t have the time for that anymore. It just creates more work for us.

You should never had kids. You are unfit for the job.

Nailed it. End of thread.

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Biden has ruined life with massive inflation and sticker shock. No way anybody can stay home with kids. Boomer grandparents from massive loser and mental midget Biden generation need to help out with the Biden misery index.

Yawn. Begone, idiot Trumper (and yes, you are a Trumper. Don’t bother to lie).

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Anonymous wrote:I feel like a lot of millennials refuse to do the math. When I was small, my grandma was in her 50s. People complaining about lack of help when “my parents’ parents helped them”: how old are your parents? My guess is, substantially older than their parents were when you were born.

It’s nobody’s fault. It’s just a societal change. Complaining won’t help.

Agree with this

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a boomer and my husband and I both worked full time and never had any parent support except right after giving birth. We didn’t live near either set of parents, though one set was an hour away, and we didn’t expect them to play an active role in raising our kids. My grandparents didn’t play an active role in raising us. Feeling abandoned by parents not being available is such a cop out in terms of owning your life. You got married, had kids and now you need to own it.

We are owning it because grandparents are of zero help.

You SHOULD be owning it. They are not required to be your “help.”

You’re either just trolling for attention at this point, or you are the most spoiled, entitled brat of a supposed adult walking the earth.

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Anonymous wrote:I do get a bit annoyed at my boomer parents, who are always on vacation, while I have small children at home, a demanding career, and cannot get enough sleep.

That’s really bizarre. You made choices to have children and keep a demanding job. And you’re annoyed at retired parents who spent 30 or 40 years working jobs, taking care of children and are now taking vacations?

+1. The sense of entitlement is beyond me.

From our perspective, it is the grandparents who are entitled and making demands of us.

What demands are they making of you?

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To have grandkids, to see the grandkids on holidays, to host them at our house, to FaceTime with them, to send them pictures and give them updates. But they can’t lift a finger. We just don’t have the time for that anymore. It just creates more work for us.

You should never had kids. You are unfit for the job.

Not at all. We just see the priorities of our grandparents clearly.

They have done their job to raise kids (i.e., you and your siblings). Now, STFU and do YOUR job and raise your own damn kids! You sound terribly entitled.

You sound like a caricature of a lazy boomer.

No, she sounds correct. You sound like the caricature of a lazy, spoiled, entitled Millennial.

-Gen C

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Anonymous wrote:Boomer grandparents don’t even want to get to know their grandchildren and it is very sad. They benefitted from a village of support to raise children and now have the attitude that we need to pull ourselves up all by ourselves.

They are the most selfish generation.

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