Millennials feel 'abandoned' by parents not available to help raise grandkids: 'Too busy'

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The childcare problem is created by the greed of living far beyond your means. If you want children then you need to be absolutely certain that you can (1) pay for outside childcare. Or (2,) one of you stays home and you live in one salary.

If you are stupid enough to have a child on your own then you better be sure that you can pay for childcare.

Childcare is the sole responsibility of the two people who create the child! If your use a donor then it is the sole responsibility of the woman who chooses this options. Unpaid childcare from relatives is not an option.

We aren't talking about daycare, Gladys. We just though maybe once in a while you'd actually like to have the kids over to spend time with them. We live well within our means and I don't work.

Then you don't need grandparents to take care of your kids because that is your job. Full time.

We don’t need them to and never said we did. We’d like them to want to or show any interest at all. And no it’s not the kids - the other grandparents adore them.

Then maybe they don't like you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The childcare problem is created by the greed of living far beyond your means. If you want children then you need to be absolutely certain that you can (1) pay for outside childcare. Or (2,) one of you stays home and you live in one salary.

If you are stupid enough to have a child on your own then you better be sure that you can pay for childcare.

Childcare is the sole responsibility of the two people who create the child! If your use a donor then it is the sole responsibility of the woman who chooses this options. Unpaid childcare from relatives is not an option.

We aren't talking about daycare, Gladys. We just though maybe once in a while you'd actually like to have the kids over to spend time with them. We live well within our means and I don't work.

Then you don't need grandparents to take care of your kids because that is your job. Full time.

We don’t need them to and never said we did. We’d like them to want to or show any interest at all. And no it’s not the kids - the other grandparents adore them.

Then maybe they don't like you.

Then I guess they don’t like any of their other kids or grandkids either because they behave the same to them. OR, you know, it’s them.

[Anonymous]

If you were a difficult kid or if your sibling was- ain’t no way a boomer parent going to helping. Done us done!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:The childcare problem is created by the greed of living far beyond your means. If you want children then you need to be absolutely certain that you can (1) pay for outside childcare. Or (2,) one of you stays home and you live in one salary.

If you are stupid enough to have a child on your own then you better be sure that you can pay for childcare.

Childcare is the sole responsibility of the two people who create the child! If your use a donor then it is the sole responsibility of the woman who chooses this options. Unpaid childcare from relatives is not an option.

We aren't talking about daycare, Gladys. We just though maybe once in a while you'd actually like to have the kids over to spend time with them. We live well within our means and I don't work.

Could be they aren't interested in babysitting the kids cause they are being micromanaged or they have to follow too many rules?
I found if I wasn't controlling about what they fed my kids or what they did with them or how much they overindulged them the grandparents and the kids were much happier and more likely to hang together.

Yes, this is why. We watch our grandkids often because we love them and want to have relationships with them. There are 4. It's like it doesn't count unless we take them all each time. We are 60 and active but they are 3,6,9 and 11. That's a lot and there are things we can't do with the younger ones. The rules and regulations are insane. I seriously wonder how they think we kept them alive without doing things the ONLY way they think is correct. The food... (I cook healthy) We don't let them eat junk or artificial colors. The older ones read every ingredient on everything and tattle. The TV restrictions are ridiculous. I got reprimanded for letting them watch OLD OLD looney tunes. They might be putting things into their minds from the 1960's. We follow the rules but are made to feel ignorant. It doesn't have to be this hard. Chill the F out. We even let the 3 oldest spend NYE overnight but when I returned them, the parents seemed so irritated that they still had the smallest at home. I was told: "You just want the easiest kids."
This was just one night. We had them all for a day making cookies last week which was supposed to be a family affair, but she had errands and returned after we were about finished. I guess what I'm getting at is we feel unappreciated when we do help and are to the point where we just want to get them 2 at a time so we can do hikes and things we enjoy with the older ones more.

Yes, look at the tik toks of moms telling grandparents off for doing something slightly different. The condescending explanation takes 5 minutes.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Boomers are too busy and galavanting around on vacations to help their kids and grand kids, sad. Another example of boomer selfishness on top of the wealth taking and focusing younger generations to find their lifestyles, sad.

https://www.foxnews.com/media/millennials-feel-abandoned-parents-available-help-raise-grandkids-busy.amp

Oh puh-lease, so tired of people generalizing about others based on age, young or old.

I just need to point out, while it’s a very documented historical phenomena for older generations to complain about younger generations “kids these days!”

I honestly don’t think there’s another example of cross generation hate against boomers. Whether you’re Gen X, Millenials, Gen Z and even some BOOMERS THEMSELVES Really seems like everyone complaining about boomers.

So rather than roll your eyes, maybe other boomers can ask “What can I do to help fix things before I die in at most another decade or two “

I'm also tired of older people complaining about "kids these days"! As I said above, one shouldn't generalize about people, whether they are young or old.

Do folks on this website think - well, there's so much racism against African-Americans, what can they do to help fix things? No, that doesn't sound problematic at all! (note - this is sarcasm) Really stunning how people who would never generalize about others based on race, gender, sexual orientation etc have no problems with ageism - whether it's used against young or old.

And what can *I* do to help fix things? I don't know - I'm too busy helping my grown kids with their dogs and other chores and once they have children I'll be helping take care of them. But go on, keep calling old people selfish. It looks so good on you.

[Anonymous]

In the 1970s, and into the early 80s, most middle class grandparent age people were retired or maybe working a part time retirement job.

Now? The vast majority of people are still working until they are 70, if they aren't UMC or rich.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In the 1970s, and into the early 80s, most middle class grandparent age people were retired or maybe working a part time retirement job.

Now? The vast majority of people are still working until they are 70, if they aren't UMC or rich.

Well, a lot of them were dead too by their early 70s. Dying in early 70s is still common and the longer people delay childbearing the less likely 70+ grandparents will be alive to help even if they wanted to.