Millennials feel 'abandoned' by parents not available to help raise grandkids: 'Too busy'

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The childcare problem is created by the greed of living far beyond your means. If you want children then you need to be absolutely certain that you can (1) pay for outside childcare. Or (2,) one of you stays home and you live in one salary.

If you are stupid enough to have a child on your own then you better be sure that you can pay for childcare.

Childcare is the sole responsibility of the two people who create the child! If your use a donor then it is the sole responsibility of the woman who chooses this options. Unpaid childcare from relatives is not an option.

We aren't talking about daycare, Gladys. We just though maybe once in a while you'd actually like to have the kids over to spend time with them. We live well within our means and I don't work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The childcare problem is created by the greed of living far beyond your means. If you want children then you need to be absolutely certain that you can (1) pay for outside childcare. Or (2,) one of you stays home and you live in one salary.

If you are stupid enough to have a child on your own then you better be sure that you can pay for childcare.

Childcare is the sole responsibility of the two people who create the child! If your use a donor then it is the sole responsibility of the woman who chooses this options. Unpaid childcare from relatives is not an option.

We aren't talking about daycare, Gladys. We just though maybe once in a while you'd actually like to have the kids over to spend time with them. We live well within our means and I don't work.

Could be they aren't interested in babysitting the kids cause they are being micromanaged or they have to follow too many rules?
I found if I wasn't controlling about what they fed my kids or what they did with them or how much they overindulged them the grandparents and the kids were much happier and more likely to hang together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The childcare problem is created by the greed of living far beyond your means. If you want children then you need to be absolutely certain that you can (1) pay for outside childcare. Or (2,) one of you stays home and you live in one salary.

If you are stupid enough to have a child on your own then you better be sure that you can pay for childcare.

Childcare is the sole responsibility of the two people who create the child! If your use a donor then it is the sole responsibility of the woman who chooses this options. Unpaid childcare from relatives is not an option.

We aren't talking about daycare, Gladys. We just though maybe once in a while you'd actually like to have the kids over to spend time with them. We live well within our means and I don't work.

Could be they aren't interested in babysitting the kids cause they are being micromanaged or they have to follow too many rules?
I found if I wasn't controlling about what they fed my kids or what they did with them or how much they overindulged them the grandparents and the kids were much happier and more likely to hang together.

Yes, look at the tik toks of moms telling grandparents off for doing something slightly different. The condescending explanation takes 5 minutes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Boomers are living too long

how does boomers dying younger help the childcare situation?

Duh, inheritances? Keep up!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The childcare problem is created by the greed of living far beyond your means. If you want children then you need to be absolutely certain that you can (1) pay for outside childcare. Or (2,) one of you stays home and you live in one salary.

If you are stupid enough to have a child on your own then you better be sure that you can pay for childcare.

Childcare is the sole responsibility of the two people who create the child! If your use a donor then it is the sole responsibility of the woman who chooses this options. Unpaid childcare from relatives is not an option.

It’s been an option all throughout human history and is the likely evolutionary reason why women go into menopause (to help the next generation with grandkids). I wonder if people who think this way just can’t stand their own families

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Boomers are living too long

how does boomers dying younger help the childcare situation?

Duh, inheritances? Keep up!

What inheritance? Boomers are selfishly spending all of their money. Or so I've read on DCUM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Boomers are too busy and galavanting around on vacations to help their kids and grand kids, sad. Another example of boomer selfishness on top of the wealth taking and focusing younger generations to find their lifestyles, sad.

https://www.foxnews.com/media/millennials-feel-abandoned-parents-available-help-raise-grandkids-busy.amp

Poor millennials. Mommy and daddy won't take care of their grandkids
Lazy boomers. Don't they know it's their job to take care of our children,! Bad, bad grand mommies and grand daddies,!

Just don't be mad when we go on vacation instead of spending Christmas with you Granny. We learned it from you! Treat yo self first!

Knowing that my poor grandchildren are horrible feral, whiny, greedy brats who tear around my house, Thank You For going elsewhere. And, don't you get a hair up your derriere when we leave our money to a charity for the higher education of inner city children whose parents cannot afford to pay for their college.

I don’t get why you posted this, it makes you and your family look so pitiable!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The childcare problem is created by the greed of living far beyond your means. If you want children then you need to be absolutely certain that you can (1) pay for outside childcare. Or (2,) one of you stays home and you live in one salary.

If you are stupid enough to have a child on your own then you better be sure that you can pay for childcare.

Childcare is the sole responsibility of the two people who create the child! If your use a donor then it is the sole responsibility of the woman who chooses this options. Unpaid childcare from relatives is not an option.

It’s been an option all throughout human history and is the likely evolutionary reason why women go into menopause (to help the next generation with grandkids). I wonder if people who think this way just can’t stand their own families

They are probably white. Most Asian, Black, and Hispanic people I know have strong family ties and involved grandparents (health permitting). There are a few rare exceptions.

[Anonymous]

I wish my folks would invite my daughter to visit more. We don’t need childcare, but we’d like them to know her better. They’re always too busy. I have to ask for overnights and they love it after , it’s like pulling teeth to plan though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wish my folks would invite my daughter to visit more. We don’t need childcare, but we’d like them to know her better. They’re always too busy. I have to ask for overnights and they love it after , it’s like pulling teeth to plan though.

What are they so busy with?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The childcare problem is created by the greed of living far beyond your means. If you want children then you need to be absolutely certain that you can (1) pay for outside childcare. Or (2,) one of you stays home and you live in one salary.

If you are stupid enough to have a child on your own then you better be sure that you can pay for childcare.

Childcare is the sole responsibility of the two people who create the child! If your use a donor then it is the sole responsibility of the woman who chooses this options. Unpaid childcare from relatives is not an option.

We aren't talking about daycare, Gladys. We just though maybe once in a while you'd actually like to have the kids over to spend time with them. We live well within our means and I don't work.

Could be they aren't interested in babysitting the kids cause they are being micromanaged or they have to follow too many rules?
I found if I wasn't controlling about what they fed my kids or what they did with them or how much they overindulged them the grandparents and the kids were much happier and more likely to hang together.

No. And it’s clearly not a problem with the other grandparents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The childcare problem is created by the greed of living far beyond your means. If you want children then you need to be absolutely certain that you can (1) pay for outside childcare. Or (2,) one of you stays home and you live in one salary.

If you are stupid enough to have a child on your own then you better be sure that you can pay for childcare.

Childcare is the sole responsibility of the two people who create the child! If your use a donor then it is the sole responsibility of the woman who chooses this options. Unpaid childcare from relatives is not an option.

We aren't talking about daycare, Gladys. We just though maybe once in a while you'd actually like to have the kids over to spend time with them. We live well within our means and I don't work.

Then you don't need grandparents to take care of your kids because that is your job. Full time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wish my folks would invite my daughter to visit more. We don’t need childcare, but we’d like them to know her better. They’re always too busy. I have to ask for overnights and they love it after , it’s like pulling teeth to plan though.

Maybe your daughter is a brat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The childcare problem is created by the greed of living far beyond your means. If you want children then you need to be absolutely certain that you can (1) pay for outside childcare. Or (2,) one of you stays home and you live in one salary.

If you are stupid enough to have a child on your own then you better be sure that you can pay for childcare.

Childcare is the sole responsibility of the two people who create the child! If your use a donor then it is the sole responsibility of the woman who chooses this options. Unpaid childcare from relatives is not an option.

We aren't talking about daycare, Gladys. We just though maybe once in a while you'd actually like to have the kids over to spend time with them. We live well within our means and I don't work.

Then you don't need grandparents to take care of your kids because that is your job. Full time.

We don’t need them to and never said we did. We’d like them to want to or show any interest at all. And no it’s not the kids - the other grandparents adore them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Boomers are living too long

how does boomers dying younger help the childcare situation?

Duh, inheritances? Keep up!

What makes you so sure that they will leave the money to you or your children? If I ever have DIL's like so many who post on DCUM. I would rather leave the bulk of my money to the local animal shelter and leave $100 to each child whose spouse made every effort to show how much she hated me.