Millennials feel 'abandoned' by parents not available to help raise grandkids: 'Too busy'

[Anonymous]

Boomers had their parents (sometimes both sets!) nearby. And they were helpful.

Now as grandparents they want all the fun without any of the assistance. It sucks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m gen x but my grandparents were very involved with my life. My boomer mom never even calls my kids. It’s very sad.

Same here.

[Anonymous]

When my children were born, my parents were already dead from cancer. Shut your whiny pieholes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel like a lot of millennials refuse to do the math. When I was small, my grandma was in her 50s. People complaining about lack of help when “my parents’ parents helped them”: how old are your parents? My guess is, substantially older than their parents were when you were born.

It’s nobody’s fault. It’s just a societal change. Complaining won’t help.

My grandparents were old. But I could call them at any time growing up as soon as I learned how to use the phone. My parents for my little kids, Not so much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When my children were born, my parents were already dead from cancer. Shut your whiny pieholes.

At least you were able to have children. Shut your own mouth.

[Anonymous]

And barely Gen Exer Growing up in the 70’s and 80’s, I don’t remember very many kids with grandparents helping out. I remember latch key kids instead. It certainly wasn’t the norm in either of my parent’s extended families.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Boomers had their parents (sometimes both sets!) nearby. And they were helpful.

Now as grandparents they want all the fun without any of the assistance. It sucks.

nope

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is mostly true about white 2nd+ gen Americans.
Immigrants and their kids help each other out, helping kids to avoid student debt and exorbitant childcare expenses, and then kids help their parents avoid elder care expenses. As a result the money stays in the family and helps build generational wealth.
The traditional American middle class strategy where everyone fends for themselves isn’t working anymore. Soon most white Americans will lose their status, financial and professional, unless they rethink their generational strategies.

I am going to report this racist post.

[Anonymous]

My MIL used her boomer parents as full time, free child care. She hasn't watched her grandkids even for 1 night.

[Anonymous]

My parents don't spend their time on vacations. They spend it on elder care for their parents and aunts, and caring for my disabled sibling. It sucks. They never get a break either. They worked and saved diligently for 35 years so they could then retire and take care of others.

[Anonymous]

Whatever.

— GenX

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is mostly true about white 2nd+ gen Americans.
Immigrants and their kids help each other out, helping kids to avoid student debt and exorbitant childcare expenses, and then kids help their parents avoid elder care expenses. As a result the money stays in the family and helps build generational wealth.
The traditional American middle class strategy where everyone fends for themselves isn’t working anymore. Soon most white Americans will lose their status, financial and professional, unless they rethink their generational strategies.

I am going to report this racist post.

Racist towards who? I am confused

[Anonymous]

My husband’s parents are like this. Fortunately mine are willing and able to pitch in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel like a lot of millennials refuse to do the math. When I was small, my grandma was in her 50s. People complaining about lack of help when “my parents’ parents helped them”: how old are your parents? My guess is, substantially older than their parents were when you were born.

It’s nobody’s fault. It’s just a societal change. Complaining won’t help.

I’m GenX and got zero help from parents due to them being too old — they were older parents for me as the third kid, and we were older parents. The math just doesn’t add up to lots of help, as noted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Whatever.

— GenX

+1. Was about to post "Join the club."

- Another GenX