Am I being unreasonable? Mother needs to get up several times during the night
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Anonymous
| She might need to sleep in a lounger type chair so she is already sitting up. Then get herself to the bathroom or commode next to the chair. |
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I agree. Or you pay half, and your mother pays half. You can't expect her to pee in her diaper all night long, and she can't expect you to get up every 1.5 hours. |
Anonymous
If mobility and transferring are an issue, you can look into assistive devices: A grab bar for positioning, a grabber tool for helping to manage her clothing (maybe sleeping without undies is an option?), there are tools for post-toileting hygiene. Is an aide of some sort financially possible to help with this? You don't need a night NURSE. I totally get her fear of falling issue. If an aide is a possibility, perhaps she can return to her own home sooner rather than later. Also, I'd do a medication review, can some meds be moved to earlier in the day? Tell her Dr. she is only dribbling and perhaps they can add a medication to promote bladder emptying and cut down on some of her night trips. HTH!!! |
Anonymous
| I’m reading all the replies and really appreciate them. I don’t mean to come across as heartless as my family and I have taken her in. She’s a difficult person in general and it puts a strain on everybody. Just trying to find ways to make things easier and less stressful for everybody. |
Anonymous
She does not need a nurse, just a helper. 8 hours at $15/hour, $120. $60/night/person (mother, daugher). Totally worth it. |
Anonymous
Thank you! I didn’t know there may be medication For urine dribbling . will look into it. |
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Why didn't she go to a rehab for a couple of weeks? Medicare would probably pay for at least a little while.
-social worker |
Anonymous
OP, I understand, but primarily because I am there too. It is so easy to call people heartless until they are faced with the reality of personally having to care for a difficult adult. It is just different than caring for your own child. You can dictate to your child. It is next to impossible to do it with an adult. |
Anonymous
Case manager said this is an option only after surgery ( if she’s able to get it). |
Anonymous
| RN here. Would a home PureWick be an option? I have no clue about the cost but I regularly use them on my ICU patients with a good success rate. |
Anonymous
I am the PP. I am not referring to a nurse. I paying for a health aide now. I'm curious where you are getting 8 hour shifts for $15/hour. Depending on number of hours I am paying 16-18/hour. |
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More than likely it is age related. Probably isn't helped by the fact I bet she isn't drinking enough liquids during the day so bladder isn't emptying until night time. Really a lost cause at this point to try to address.
Eldercare is like dealing with a toddler but some things might help. A bed rail and a bedside commode from walmart or Amazon. Maybe a walker to provide support from bed to commode. she either doesn't wear underwear or wears the diapers which can be ripped off (expense will add up). She will need to practice a dozen times during the day to be more comfortable at night. Look for a 3-in-1 commode since more ways to use. Good luck. |
Anonymous
I'm a PP. I've heard mixed reviews, but have been intrigued. I think it's about $395/unit. I also think it's a great option for someone in the ICU or stroke victims. I would love to hear if anyone here has used one with a cognizant patient. |
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OP, here is the PureWick that the RN mentioned.
https://www.purewickathome.com/how-it-works/ |