Nanny wants to bring her mom to our house post covid

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Anonymous wrote:I'm confused. You are saying you cannot let the nanny take time off work and that is why you may need to let the nanny's mom stay with you/her. But at the same time, you said the nanny wouldn't want to go be with the mom at the mom's residence. So where else could she care for her?

I think the COVID risk is low - but this might be a good question for the hospital discharging doctor. I agree with others that it would be reasonable to give your nanny some time off and I totally agree that this is the issue that comes with hiring a nanny. What if your nanny was the one sick? Then regardless of your work schedule you'd be forced to deal with it. But regardless of all that...if you don't want to give the nanny time off and the nanny's mom needs to stay somewhere other than home, then I'm not sure what other choice you would have.

I think OP is saying that nanny asked for the nanny's mom to come live at OP's house -- not that the nanny asked for time off. OP please clarify.

[Anonymous]

Nanny gets to prioritize her mom over your kids. So she should be given the time off to care for her mom if she wants it.

That’s a separate question from whether the mom can live with you. To me, that would be a bridge too far, but only you can decide that. (I wouldn’t want the nanny’s family or even the nanny living with me either. Too many people in my house. But that’s a personal decision.)

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Also I am confused. The nanny lives in your basement, but the nanny's husband lives somewhere else with their kids?

[Anonymous]

OP, this is where you call in that favor to your parents, siblings, neighbor, whatever, whomever.

Let the nanny take care of her mother at her own house.

You basically own this woman. I have a neighbor like you, in a situation like this, and she can't even see her insanity when she asks for "advice" in these kind of scenarios. You figure out what to do with your kids, and you allow the nanny to take care of her family. You do yours, she does hers. How is this even a question? Pivot and figure it out.

[Anonymous]

I don't understand what the concern is here. While it seems a bit unorthodox to have the nanny's mom stay in the basement, what's the specific concern over that?

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Anonymous wrote:My husband is traveling and won’t be home until Friday. I also just started a new job in January and my main project (since I started) is due on Monday. This is suck bad timing for me

So you find a backup nanny on Nextdoor or through White House Nannies or pull a favor from a friend or you let the nanny bring her mom. Life happens and the nanny is not your personal slave.

This is so offensive. Nanny is part of the family. We helped her and her family in so many ways. We brought her whole family (husband and kids) to the uS. Gave them all a place to live, helped with college applications, fees, etc. You have no clue

Which is why you think she owes it to you to blow off her mom who is still quite sick and take care of your kids?

No, it is why I can tell you that if I could, I would take time off from work (like I am doing this afternoon so she can pick up her mom).

I don't understand, can you please clarify? You found a superstar nanny from another country and brought her, her husband and kids over to the US and they all live in your basement?

Are you trafficking people?

Do you work for one of this NGO or foreign countries where people hire someone from another country, have them live with them, and basically never give them time off?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm confused. You are saying you cannot let the nanny take time off work and that is why you may need to let the nanny's mom stay with you/her. But at the same time, you said the nanny wouldn't want to go be with the mom at the mom's residence. So where else could she care for her?

I think the COVID risk is low - but this might be a good question for the hospital discharging doctor. I agree with others that it would be reasonable to give your nanny some time off and I totally agree that this is the issue that comes with hiring a nanny. What if your nanny was the one sick? Then regardless of your work schedule you'd be forced to deal with it. But regardless of all that...if you don't want to give the nanny time off and the nanny's mom needs to stay somewhere other than home, then I'm not sure what other choice you would have.

I think OP is saying that nanny asked for the nanny's mom to come live at OP's house -- not that the nanny asked for time off. OP please clarify.

Yes. My nanny wants to take care of her mom and she can only do that at my house (I don’t know the details of her mom’s living situation, but I think she lives in a nursing home where she works with her husband). Her daughter can’t stay there. My nanny wants to take care of her mom herself and the only way to do that is at my house.
Nanny did not ask for time off, but I am considering it so that my kids can be properly cared for (by me) and away from someone that is leaving the hospital right now...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Also I am confused. The nanny lives in your basement, but the nanny's husband lives somewhere else with their kids?

this entire thing makes no sense. Where is OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, this is where you call in that favor to your parents, siblings, neighbor, whatever, whomever.

Let the nanny take care of her mother at her own house.

You basically own this woman. I have a neighbor like you, in a situation like this, and she can't even see her insanity when she asks for "advice" in these kind of scenarios. You figure out what to do with your kids, and you allow the nanny to take care of her family. You do yours, she does hers. How is this even a question? Pivot and figure it out.

This is your answer OP. It's a family emergency, you'll have to speak to your boss and ask for a time off or if you have other family and friends to temporarily help, then this is the time to call. Otherwise, you have to look for a backup nanny.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband is traveling and won’t be home until Friday. I also just started a new job in January and my main project (since I started) is due on Monday. This is suck bad timing for me

So sorry you children are such an inconvenience for you.

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Anonymous wrote:Also I am confused. The nanny lives in your basement, but the nanny's husband lives somewhere else with their kids?

No, the nanny’s husband is also in the basement. This whole thing sounds like a nightmare TBH.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband is traveling and won’t be home until Friday. I also just started a new job in January and my main project (since I started) is due on Monday. This is suck bad timing for me

So you find a backup nanny on Nextdoor or through White House Nannies or pull a favor from a friend or you let the nanny bring her mom. Life happens and the nanny is not your personal slave.

This is so offensive. Nanny is part of the family. We helped her and her family in so many ways. We brought her whole family (husband and kids) to the uS. Gave them all a place to live, helped with college applications, fees, etc. You have no clue

Which is why you think she owes it to you to blow off her mom who is still quite sick and take care of your kids?

No, it is why I can tell you that if I could, I would take time off from work (like I am doing this afternoon so she can pick up her mom).

I don't understand, can you please clarify? You found a superstar nanny from another country and brought her, her husband and kids over to the US and they all live in your basement?

Are you trafficking people?

Do you work for one of this NGO or foreign countries where people hire someone from another country, have them live with them, and basically never give them time off?

You are racist and terrible. My nanny has 2-3 months off per year. But yes, we brought her here and then found a way to LEGALLY bring here her husband and two kids...

This is not what is important right now

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My husband is traveling and won’t be home until Friday. I also just started a new job in January and my main project (since I started) is due on Monday. This is suck bad timing for me

So you find a backup nanny on Nextdoor or through White House Nannies or pull a favor from a friend or you let the nanny bring her mom. Life happens and the nanny is not your personal slave.

This is so offensive. Nanny is part of the family. We helped her and her family in so many ways. We brought her whole family (husband and kids) to the uS. Gave them all a place to live, helped with college applications, fees, etc. You have no clue

Nanny is so much part of the family that she is expected to abandon her own family member to take care of your family member.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are no COVID risks. The mom is negative and, with a recent infection, at least temporarily she can’t spread it - so she can’t bring it home from the hospital. The nanny’s mom is one of the safest people to be around right now.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm confused. You are saying you cannot let the nanny take time off work and that is why you may need to let the nanny's mom stay with you/her. But at the same time, you said the nanny wouldn't want to go be with the mom at the mom's residence. So where else could she care for her?

I think the COVID risk is low - but this might be a good question for the hospital discharging doctor. I agree with others that it would be reasonable to give your nanny some time off and I totally agree that this is the issue that comes with hiring a nanny. What if your nanny was the one sick? Then regardless of your work schedule you'd be forced to deal with it. But regardless of all that...if you don't want to give the nanny time off and the nanny's mom needs to stay somewhere other than home, then I'm not sure what other choice you would have.

I think OP is saying that nanny asked for the nanny's mom to come live at OP's house -- not that the nanny asked for time off. OP please clarify.

Yes. My nanny wants to take care of her mom and she can only do that at my house (I don’t know the details of her mom’s living situation, but I think she lives in a nursing home where she works with her husband). Her daughter can’t stay there. My nanny wants to take care of her mom herself and the only way to do that is at my house.
Nanny did not ask for time off, but I am considering it so that my kids can be properly cared for (by me) and away from someone that is leaving the hospital right now...

Her mother does not pose a risk to you or your children. Period. She just had COVID and has tested negative FOUR times. What, exactly, are you worried about?