Nanny wants to bring her mom to our house post covid

[Anonymous]

I posted a little while back about my nanny’s mom health issues post Covid.

Her mom is doing much better now and is being discharged. She could go to her home where her husband (nanny’s dad) lives. However, she is convalescent and can’t walk yet. My nanny asked to bring her to my house (our nanny lives with us in the basement).

Is that ok? She had Covid, but has had several (probably 4) negative tests since. Husband and I are fully vaccinated and our nanny just got her first shot. Nanny’s husband and kids(as well as my kids) are not vaccinated.

I am a little uncomfortable with this situation, but can’t take care of my kids during the day for the next 3 or 4 days because of work (so can’t let the nanny take time off).

What do you think?

Thanks

[Anonymous]

If my boss said I couldn't have time off to take care of my sick mom I would tell her where to shove it. The nanny's mom is definitely not contagious anymore, if that's your actual concern.

[Anonymous]

Why can't this woman's husband take care of his wife? People need a LOT of care when they get home from a hospital. Plus, I don't want tons of hospital germs in my home. No.

[Anonymous]

If she is already taking care of her mom now, then she is already having contact with your kids and her mom at the same time, so it seems like the risk is the same. Her mom has also tested negative 4x so that seems really low risk as well?

[Anonymous]

Her Mom isn’t contagious. I’d just be more concerned that she won’t be able to attend to her Mom and watch your kids. How old are they?

But if I were her and because of you I wasn’t able to take care of my Mom, I’d watch your kids, but be mad and would start looking for another job.

[Anonymous]

Can you explain why your house is better for someone who can’t walk? Why can’t her husband take care of her? This has nothing to do with covid. I wouldn’t want someone in my house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If my boss said I couldn't have time off to take care of my sick mom I would tell her where to shove it. The nanny's mom is definitely not contagious anymore, if that's your actual concern.

I wish I could take time off from work, but I really can’t this week

[Anonymous]

Really the solution should be that nanny should be allowed to take care of her mother for a few days similar to how I imagine you might be allowed to take some PTO for your own mother if she was being discharged from the hospital. Her mother should be able to go to the comfort of her own home and have support from her daughter. I realize it isn't ideal to have to cover care for your kids for a few days but this is life and what you take on knowing you'll have a nanny - that they are people with family emergencies, illnesses etc. and you'll need to find back up care or take time off yourself to manage. That is my personal recommendation. It doesn't seem reasonable to me to not give your nanny a few days time here.

[Anonymous]

I don’t know why her husband (or my nanny’s husband that does not work) can’t take care of the mom. They are not very old 64-66 and healthy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Really the solution should be that nanny should be allowed to take care of her mother for a few days similar to how I imagine you might be allowed to take some PTO for your own mother if she was being discharged from the hospital. Her mother should be able to go to the comfort of her own home and have support from her daughter. I realize it isn't ideal to have to cover care for your kids for a few days but this is life and what you take on knowing you'll have a nanny - that they are people with family emergencies, illnesses etc. and you'll need to find back up care or take time off yourself to manage. That is my personal recommendation. It doesn't seem reasonable to me to not give your nanny a few days time here.

Ok. I will need to find a new nanny that can start tomorrow morning or my kids (between the ages of 7 and 2) will be home alone.

[Anonymous]

My husband is traveling and won’t be home until Friday. I also just started a new job in January and my main project (since I started) is due on Monday. This is suck bad timing for me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If she is already taking care of her mom now, then she is already having contact with your kids and her mom at the same time, so it seems like the risk is the same. Her mom has also tested negative 4x so that seems really low risk as well?

Mom is at the hospital and nanny will pick her up this afternoon

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband is traveling and won’t be home until Friday. I also just started a new job in January and my main project (since I started) is due on Monday. This is suck bad timing for me

So you find a backup nanny on Nextdoor or through White House Nannies or pull a favor from a friend or you let the nanny bring her mom. Life happens and the nanny is not your personal slave.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband is traveling and won’t be home until Friday. I also just started a new job in January and my main project (since I started) is due on Monday. This is suck bad timing for me

So you find a backup nanny on Nextdoor or through White House Nannies or pull a favor from a friend or you let the nanny bring her mom. Life happens and the nanny is not your personal slave.

This is so offensive. Nanny is part of the family. We helped her and her family in so many ways. We brought her whole family (husband and kids) to the uS. Gave them all a place to live, helped with college applications, fees, etc. You have no clue

[Anonymous]

This is tough.

Do you have any back up childcare? Neighbor, college kid, family member that can step in for a few days?

I don't think the nanny's mom is going to spread covid, but I don't really see how the nanny can care for your kids and her mom all day.

Can you offer to pay for a carer for the nanny's mom? Maybe someone from care.com who is vaxxed?