Nanny wants to bring her mom to our house post covid

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Something just made me remember this thread. Any updates OP?

OP here. Thank you for asking. Lots has happened in the last week or two since I last wrote in this thread.
Mom came to stay with us about 10 days or 2 weeks ago. She was very weak, was not speaking/walking/swallowing food, etc. Finally about 5 days later (1 week ago) we called 911 because she seemed worse again. The EMT rushed her to the hospital because her blood pressure was very low, she was in Afib and had difficulties breathing. She was intimated and subsequently brought to another hospital to the cardiology ICU. She has been there since and her situation has not improved much because they can’t understand what’s wrong with her. I have been talking to the doctors everyday to help with the language barrier.

Nanny’s dad who is now also living in our house, was able to spend time with his wife at the hospital yesterday.

For all the critics that called me a slave owners, you are ugly and bad people. I have bent over backward for my nanny and her family... and it has been a lot. Now I have her dad here who apparently can visit his wife and then stay here with my unvaccinated kids. I doubt 99% of DCUM would do that for their nanny... I don’t wish this on anyone.

BTW, nanny was not working while her mom was here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP STILL hasn't answered how her husband's employer was able to procure a visa to bring the nanny to the US.

My guess is that OP and her husband are long-term diplomats. There have been several diplomats that have gotten in trouble for bringing their nannies to the US and paying them barely anything.

It's a pretty common setup for employees of international organizations. We are able to bring domestic staff using a special visa (G5). Demand for these is quite high, and there is a standard set of terms we must guarantee. If they aren't being met, these workers can complain and we can get in serious trouble.

OP could not be a diplomat because the terms don't sound right (2 weeks for maternity leave? serious pressure at work? changing jobs?). My guess is her husband is a diplomat or WB/IMF, and OP works in the private sector.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Something just made me remember this thread. Any updates OP?

OP here. Thank you for asking. Lots has happened in the last week or two since I last wrote in this thread.
Mom came to stay with us about 10 days or 2 weeks ago. She was very weak, was not speaking/walking/swallowing food, etc. Finally about 5 days later (1 week ago) we called 911 because she seemed worse again. The EMT rushed her to the hospital because her blood pressure was very low, she was in Afib and had difficulties breathing. She was intimated and subsequently brought to another hospital to the cardiology ICU. She has been there since and her situation has not improved much because they can’t understand what’s wrong with her. I have been talking to the doctors everyday to help with the language barrier.

Nanny’s dad who is now also living in our house, was able to spend time with his wife at the hospital yesterday.

For all the critics that called me a slave owners, you are ugly and bad people. I have bent over backward for my nanny and her family... and it has been a lot. Now I have her dad here who apparently can visit his wife and then stay here with my unvaccinated kids. I doubt 99% of DCUM would do that for their nanny... I don’t wish this on anyone.

BTW, nanny was not working while her mom was here.

You basically sponsored this family in order to have this extraordinary woman be your nanny. 99% of us MBs would have just hired someone already legal to work in this country. It would be nice if you could also help with the mother’s substantial medical bills after she recovers since it is unlikely her family can pay them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Something just made me remember this thread. Any updates OP?

OP here. Thank you for asking. Lots has happened in the last week or two since I last wrote in this thread.
Mom came to stay with us about 10 days or 2 weeks ago. She was very weak, was not speaking/walking/swallowing food, etc. Finally about 5 days later (1 week ago) we called 911 because she seemed worse again. The EMT rushed her to the hospital because her blood pressure was very low, she was in Afib and had difficulties breathing. She was intimated and subsequently brought to another hospital to the cardiology ICU. She has been there since and her situation has not improved much because they can’t understand what’s wrong with her. I have been talking to the doctors everyday to help with the language barrier.

Nanny’s dad who is now also living in our house, was able to spend time with his wife at the hospital yesterday.

For all the critics that called me a slave owners, you are ugly and bad people. I have bent over backward for my nanny and her family... and it has been a lot. Now I have her dad here who apparently can visit his wife and then stay here with my unvaccinated kids. I doubt 99% of DCUM would do that for their nanny... I don’t wish this on anyone.

BTW, nanny was not working while her mom was here.

You basically sponsored this family in order to have this extraordinary woman be your nanny. 99% of us MBs would have just hired someone already legal to work in this country. It would be nice if you could also help with the mother’s substantial medical bills after she recovers since it is unlikely her family can pay them.

Not sure if you are being sarcastic, but the mom has health insurance and I will not pay for any of her bills. We only sponsored the nanny and her immediate family (her parents came with green cards in another way). Nanny just had a baby this summer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Something just made me remember this thread. Any updates OP?

OP here. Thank you for asking. Lots has happened in the last week or two since I last wrote in this thread.
Mom came to stay with us about 10 days or 2 weeks ago. She was very weak, was not speaking/walking/swallowing food, etc. Finally about 5 days later (1 week ago) we called 911 because she seemed worse again. The EMT rushed her to the hospital because her blood pressure was very low, she was in Afib and had difficulties breathing. She was intimated and subsequently brought to another hospital to the cardiology ICU. She has been there since and her situation has not improved much because they can’t understand what’s wrong with her. I have been talking to the doctors everyday to help with the language barrier.

Nanny’s dad who is now also living in our house, was able to spend time with his wife at the hospital yesterday.

For all the critics that called me a slave owners, you are ugly and bad people. I have bent over backward for my nanny and her family... and it has been a lot. Now I have her dad here who apparently can visit his wife and then stay here with my unvaccinated kids. I doubt 99% of DCUM would do that for their nanny... I don’t wish this on anyone.

BTW, nanny was not working while her mom was here.

Why can't the dad go back to where they were living before? I thought the whole idea was that the mom couldn't go to the nursing home they worked at in her poor condition. Did he have to quit the job, and subsequently lose housing? What is the long term plan, everyone is going to live in your basement indefinitely?

Of course the nanny wasn't working while her mom was there- it was always rather delusional of you to think she could care both for her mom and your kids at the same time (and her baby).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Something just made me remember this thread. Any updates OP?

OP here. Thank you for asking. Lots has happened in the last week or two since I last wrote in this thread.
Mom came to stay with us about 10 days or 2 weeks ago. She was very weak, was not speaking/walking/swallowing food, etc. Finally about 5 days later (1 week ago) we called 911 because she seemed worse again. The EMT rushed her to the hospital because her blood pressure was very low, she was in Afib and had difficulties breathing. She was intimated and subsequently brought to another hospital to the cardiology ICU. She has been there since and her situation has not improved much because they can’t understand what’s wrong with her. I have been talking to the doctors everyday to help with the language barrier.

Nanny’s dad who is now also living in our house, was able to spend time with his wife at the hospital yesterday.

For all the critics that called me a slave owners, you are ugly and bad people. I have bent over backward for my nanny and her family... and it has been a lot. Now I have her dad here who apparently can visit his wife and then stay here with my unvaccinated kids. I doubt 99% of DCUM would do that for their nanny... I don’t wish this on anyone.

BTW, nanny was not working while her mom was here.

Why can't the dad go back to where they were living before? I thought the whole idea was that the mom couldn't go to the nursing home they worked at in her poor condition. Did he have to quit the job, and subsequently lose housing? What is the long term plan, everyone is going to live in your basement indefinitely?

Of course the nanny wasn't working while her mom was there- it was always rather delusional of you to think she could care both for her mom and your kids at the same time (and her baby).

He could, but that’s in MD and far from the hospital. Dad does not drive, but also my nanny asked if the dad could stay here while her mom is sick. It was a non issue for me until I realized that he will be visiting his wife periodically (I thought hospital did not allow that because of Covid) and he is not fully vaccinated (10 days past first dose).
The reason why the mom could not go back to the nursing home is that her daughter (my nanny) would not be allowed to visit/take care of her mom.

I feel like I am doing a lot for my nanny and her family and knowingly exposing my own kids to risks...

[Anonymous]

I think it would be helpful for us to know what it is about this nanny that makes her so valued that you would go above and beyond what is typical especially during a pandemic. Is it because she has the same language and culture as your family of origin or because she is well known and trusted to be in your house with your children? Because you ARE taking substantial risks to you and your nuclear family’s health.

[Anonymous]

Keep dad 6 feet away. Do not let him breathe on you.

[Anonymous]

I’m not sure what just made me think of this thread but I want an update!