Nanny wants to bring her mom to our house post covid

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP with an update. Nanny’s mom ended up salarying at the hospital until lunch today and then was discharged. I only had to take 2 afternoon off and was able to work the rest of the time.
Nanny brought her mom here and she will stay here (with her husband) for a week (possibly more). My nanny will be able to take care of my kids since there are so many adults in the house to help.

I had originally posted this on the health page because I had questions related to the health of the nanny’s mom (and I still do), but the thread was moved here.

I wonder if I should start a new thread there again.

But basically nanny’s mom is unable to walk, barely talk, is not self-sufficient in anything and has no memory. I have no idea what happened to her, she was 100% normal a few weeks back and now she has no idea who her daughter is or even who she is. They did an MRI at the hospital because they thought she might have had a stroke, but did not find anything. She had covid, a blood clot, pneumonia, UTI and irregular heart beat for a couple of days. Everything since to have been resolved except that she has no idea who she is...

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Does anyone know what might have happened to her?

First of all, who is the “so many” adults in the household to help- the nanny’s husband? Do you really think your nanny will be able to take care of her mom and your kids (and her kids?) at the same time?

What is the plan after a week? You say the nanny’s parents can’t afford a nursing home but it really sounds like the mom needs full time care?

Their plan is to have nanny, nanny’s husband, nanny’s dad and nanny’s mom at the house. Nanny has an 8 month old baby and two kids in college... a lot of people I know for a 2 bedrooms place.

The mom has help, but I have no idea what her prognosis is. Will she get better? As of now, she really needs two people taking care of her because she does not move and needs to be carried everywhere. I wish they would have brought her to a rehab facility...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP with an update. Nanny’s mom ended up salarying at the hospital until lunch today and then was discharged. I only had to take 2 afternoon off and was able to work the rest of the time.
Nanny brought her mom here and she will stay here (with her husband) for a week (possibly more). My nanny will be able to take care of my kids since there are so many adults in the house to help.

I had originally posted this on the health page because I had questions related to the health of the nanny’s mom (and I still do), but the thread was moved here.

I wonder if I should start a new thread there again.

But basically nanny’s mom is unable to walk, barely talk, is not self-sufficient in anything and has no memory. I have no idea what happened to her, she was 100% normal a few weeks back and now she has no idea who her daughter is or even who she is. They did an MRI at the hospital because they thought she might have had a stroke, but did not find anything. She had covid, a blood clot, pneumonia, UTI and irregular heart beat for a couple of days. Everything since to have been resolved except that she has no idea who she is...

Does anyone know what might have happened to her?

First of all, who is the “so many” adults in the household to help- the nanny’s husband? Do you really think your nanny will be able to take care of her mom and your kids (and her kids?) at the same time?

What is the plan after a week? You say the nanny’s parents can’t afford a nursing home but it really sounds like the mom needs full time care?

Try to keep up...the adults in the house are...OP, OP’s husband, nanny, nanny’s unemployed husband, nanny’s mom, nanny’s mom’s husband, and nanny’s two kids.

BTW OP, nanny’s mom and her husband are never leaving.

This situation is really really really messed up...I hope a neighbor reports this, there has to be some occupancy laws being broken here. Maybe the authorities need to get involved and figure all this out.

OP hasn’t said for sure, but, my bet is the nanny is a poor African immigrant who ended up in Europe and got swept along to “work” for the OP in the US. OP saying that this is what the nanny wants doesn’t mean anything, because where the hell is this woman going to go if she makes it out of the basement?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP with an update. Nanny’s mom ended up salarying at the hospital until lunch today and then was discharged. I only had to take 2 afternoon off and was able to work the rest of the time.
Nanny brought her mom here and she will stay here (with her husband) for a week (possibly more). My nanny will be able to take care of my kids since there are so many adults in the house to help.

I had originally posted this on the health page because I had questions related to the health of the nanny’s mom (and I still do), but the thread was moved here.

I wonder if I should start a new thread there again.

But basically nanny’s mom is unable to walk, barely talk, is not self-sufficient in anything and has no memory. I have no idea what happened to her, she was 100% normal a few weeks back and now she has no idea who her daughter is or even who she is. They did an MRI at the hospital because they thought she might have had a stroke, but did not find anything. She had covid, a blood clot, pneumonia, UTI and irregular heart beat for a couple of days. Everything since to have been resolved except that she has no idea who she is...

Does anyone know what might have happened to her?

First of all, who is the “so many” adults in the household to help- the nanny’s husband? Do you really think your nanny will be able to take care of her mom and your kids (and her kids?) at the same time?

What is the plan after a week? You say the nanny’s parents can’t afford a nursing home but it really sounds like the mom needs full time care?

Try to keep up...the adults in the house are...OP, OP’s husband, nanny, nanny’s unemployed husband, nanny’s mom, nanny’s mom’s husband, and nanny’s two kids.

BTW OP, nanny’s mom and her husband are never leaving.

This situation is really really really messed up...I hope a neighbor reports this, there has to be some occupancy laws being broken here. Maybe the authorities need to get involved and figure all this out.

OP hasn’t said for sure, but, my bet is the nanny is a poor African immigrant who ended up in Europe and got swept along to “work” for the OP in the US. OP saying that this is what the nanny wants doesn’t mean anything, because where the hell is this woman going to go if she makes it out of the basement?

But OP and her husband are presumably working, two of nanny’s kids are in college (so unclear to me what their availability is), and OP says that two adults are needed to care for the mom (presumably nanny and nanny’s dad?).

OP if you are a troll, this is a dramatic tale that continues to draw people in, well done.

[Anonymous]

OP started yet another new thread about this. https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/15/962549.page#19669118

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP started yet another new thread about this. https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/15/962549.page#19669118

That thread was deleted! Why?

Is OP really a troll?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP started yet another new thread about this. https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/15/962549.page#19669118

That thread was deleted! Why?

Is OP really a troll?

Probably because it was OP's fourth thread about her nanny's mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP started yet another new thread about this. https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/15/962549.page#19669118

That thread was deleted! Why?

Is OP really a troll?

Probably because it was OP's fourth thread about her nanny's mom.

OP here and not a troll. It was my second thread. I had originally posted in the health forum because I was concerned with Covid risk. However, people started discussing my arrangement with my nanny and several were really nasty bullies. Someone moved the thread here after that.

Nanny’s mom came to stay at our place yesterday and I wanted health advice about her medical situation so I posted to the health forum, but that was deleted.

[Anonymous]

Damn, some of you are horrible.

Glad it worked out OP.

[Anonymous]

How is the nanny's mom doing? I'm worried. Hospitals will pull that on you even if you have insurance. If you don't speak up.

Does the nanny's husband watch their baby? Otherwise he should find something to do. She should not have another baby.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Damn, some of you are horrible.

Glad it worked out OP.

Why? OP is a slave owner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband is traveling and won’t be home until Friday. I also just started a new job in January and my main project (since I started) is due on Monday. This is suck bad timing for me

So you find a backup nanny on Nextdoor or through White House Nannies or pull a favor from a friend or you let the nanny bring her mom. Life happens and the nanny is not your personal slave.

This is so offensive. Nanny is part of the family. We helped her and her family in so many ways. We brought her whole family (husband and kids) to the uS. Gave them all a place to live, helped with college applications, fees, etc. You have no clue

You have a serious savior complex. You sound like an entitled jerk TBH. Maybe you’re not in real life but this post was disgusting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband is traveling and won’t be home until Friday. I also just started a new job in January and my main project (since I started) is due on Monday. This is suck bad timing for me

So you find a backup nanny on Nextdoor or through White House Nannies or pull a favor from a friend or you let the nanny bring her mom. Life happens and the nanny is not your personal slave.

This is so offensive. Nanny is part of the family. We helped her and her family in so many ways. We brought her whole family (husband and kids) to the uS. Gave them all a place to live, helped with college applications, fees, etc. You have no clue

You have a serious savior complex. You sound like an entitled jerk TBH. Maybe you’re not in real life but this post was disgusting.

+infinity

OP has moved this "nanny" from Europe, where the nanny worked for her parents, and shipped her to the US, trading her around. This is borderline trafficking. You're not saving the nanny from anything. You are taking extreme advantage of an entire family because you have more money. Absolutely and totally disgusting. Shame on your soul.

[Anonymous]

OP STILL hasn't answered how her husband's employer was able to procure a visa to bring the nanny to the US.

My guess is that OP and her husband are long-term diplomats. There have been several diplomats that have gotten in trouble for bringing their nannies to the US and paying them barely anything.

[Anonymous]

When I read OP's story, I think about this one:

https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2017/06/lolas-story/524490/

[Anonymous]

Something just made me remember this thread. Any updates OP?