Wife Upset About Pregnancy

[Anonymous]

Worrying during pregnancy is normal, pandemic or not. At least during a pandemic, there is something more reasonable to worry about. Get used to it, your wife will be worried her entire pregnancy and for the decades after that.... I didn’t understand this until I had children, the worries never go away. You learn to stay busy and try to not focus on it.... You will need to learn to support her and manage your own feelings as time goes by...

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OP here. We are broth very excited but she is super worried being pregnant in a pandemic. She is worried about Hong to appointments, working with co-workers ( she goes into work a couple times a month), and giving birth during a pandemic, etc. I know she is happy but the worry is keeping her from being super excited about it.

Is your wife into instagram? Tell her about @doctoranddancer. She's an ER doctor in NYC who got covid back in the spring while pregnant and had a perfectly healthy pregnancy and baby girl in June. I don't know her personally but she seems very friendly and I'm sure would respond to your wife if she DMed her to talk.

[Anonymous]

How long has it been? With both of my planned, very wanted, pregnancies I still felt overwhelmed and worried and concerned with timing initially. It’s a huge life change. Those feelings passed. There just an intial “oh shit!” phase. Give her support and it will likely pass quickly. Also, congrats!!

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Anonymous wrote:My wife and I are expecting our first child. She’s 31 and I’m 35. She is happy that we are having a child but is upset with timing. We have been married for a little over a year. She is a healthcare worker ( works from home) and worried about getting pregnant with the pandemic. We had decided to wait until next fall to start trying, but we got pregnant. She is happy overall but I can tell she is worried. It sucks because I feel like I can’t be that happy about it. How do I help ease her worry? How can I be happy but respectful of her feelings at the same time?

First of all you did not get pregnant. Im assuming you are a male? You can be happy and supportive. If she is still worried after you reassiring her maybe she can talk to someone about her feelings?

Congrats

You know what he means. Plus, he said they’re expecting. That’s normal to say “ we’re expecting..” They are both expecting, not just her.

My wife and I are expecting our first child. She’s 31 and I’m 35. She is happy that we are having a child but is upset with timing. We have been married for a little over a year. She is a healthcare worker ( works from home) and worried about getting pregnant with the pandemic. We had decided to wait until next fall to start trying, but we got pregnant. She is happy overall but I can tell she is worried. It sucks because I feel like I can’t be that happy about it. How do I help ease her worry? How can I be happy but respectful of her feelings at the same time?

No, he said WE ARE PREGNANT RIGHT THERE! NO He is not. Only his wife is pregnant!!!!!! It is one of my pet peeves. The other is "I have TWO twins" .

Keep it to yourself. No one cares.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My wife and I are expecting our first child. She’s 31 and I’m 35. She is happy that we are having a child but is upset with timing. We have been married for a little over a year. She is a healthcare worker ( works from home) and worried about getting pregnant with the pandemic. We had decided to wait until next fall to start trying, but we got pregnant. She is happy overall but I can tell she is worried. It sucks because I feel like I can’t be that happy about it. How do I help ease her worry? How can I be happy but respectful of her feelings at the same time?

OP, you can absolutely be happy about the pregnancy and respect her feelings at the same time. I think what you're actually asking is how can you connect with your wife about your happiness while also connecting with her about her concerns. Part of that is understanding: you're excited about the baby, but she's focused on the pregnancy, which makes sense because 1) her body and her health is at stake and 2) she is solely and directly responsible for physically keeping the fetus safe in a pandemic. Part of that is communication: talk to her about exactly this. Tell her that you want to support her, but you also want to be able to express to her that you're feeling happy without making her feel like you don't understand how scared she is. See what she says. And part of this is redirection - you may want to find someone else to express some of that happiness with. She's in the hot seat on this one -- is there a way you can rely on someone else a bit?

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Anonymous wrote:You do have other options if she is still early in the pregnancy.

OP here. She is 16 weeks pregnant and no. We would never consider any other option besides keeping our child. He was unexpected but a wonderful gift.

Troll. You don’t find out the gender until 20 weeks.

OP here. You can figure out the gender earlier. We found out at 8 weeks.

Insurance doesn't cover that blood test unless you are over 35

not op, but that's not true. my insurance covered it when i was 32

My younger sister's covered it at 33. And even if it's not covered, it's not that expensive - you can negotiate.

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Anonymous wrote:My wife and I are expecting our first child. She’s 31 and I’m 35. She is happy that we are having a child but is upset with timing. We have been married for a little over a year. She is a healthcare worker ( works from home) and worried about getting pregnant with the pandemic. We had decided to wait until next fall to start trying, but we got pregnant. She is happy overall but I can tell she is worried. It sucks because I feel like I can’t be that happy about it. How do I help ease her worry? How can I be happy but respectful of her feelings at the same time?

First of all you did not get pregnant. Im assuming you are a male? You can be happy and supportive. If she is still worried after you reassiring her maybe she can talk to someone about her feelings?

Congrats

You know what he means. Plus, he said they’re expecting. That’s normal to say “ we’re expecting..” They are both expecting, not just her.

My wife and I are expecting our first child. She’s 31 and I’m 35. She is happy that we are having a child but is upset with timing. We have been married for a little over a year. She is a healthcare worker ( works from home) and worried about getting pregnant with the pandemic. We had decided to wait until next fall to start trying, but we got pregnant. She is happy overall but I can tell she is worried. It sucks because I feel like I can’t be that happy about it. How do I help ease her worry? How can I be happy but respectful of her feelings at the same time?

No, he said WE ARE PREGNANT RIGHT THERE! NO He is not. Only his wife is pregnant!!!!!! It is one of my pet peeves. The other is "I have TWO twins" .

Keep it to yourself. No one cares.

You know what? Take your own advice. This whole point of this forum is to express your opinion. Who cares if YOU dont care. I can express my thoughts and you cant make me go away.

Congrats op but you are still not pregnant. You helped of course but only one of you is actually pregnant.

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Anonymous wrote:You do have other options if she is still early in the pregnancy.

OP here. She is 16 weeks pregnant and no. We would never consider any other option besides keeping our child. He was unexpected but a wonderful gift.

Troll. You don’t find out the gender until 20 weeks.

You don’t find out the gender for several years. You can find out the sex while baby is in utero.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why didn’t you guys use birth control?

What form of BC is 100% effective?

Anal

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Anonymous wrote:Why didn’t you guys use birth control?

What form of BC is 100% effective?

Anal

Actually, not. Depends on a sequence)

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You do have other options if she is still early in the pregnancy.

OP here. She is 16 weeks pregnant and no. We would never consider any other option besides keeping our child. He was unexpected but a wonderful gift.

Troll. You don’t find out the gender until 20 weeks.

Wrong. You can find out the gender at 11 weeks. Clearly, you have not been pregnant for awhile. I found of the gender of my second child in 2014 at 11 weeks. Blood test. No sonogram necessary for that now.

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Anonymous wrote:Why didn’t you guys use birth control?

OP here. We did use birth control but she still got pregnant.

Many people get pregnant on birth control. It’s no 100% effective.

I don't beleive that.

Then you are lucky. I know many birth control babies.

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Anonymous wrote:Why didn’t you guys use birth control?

What form of BC is 100% effective?

Anal

Actually, not. Depends on a sequence)

And this is why birth control babies exist because there are so many idiots who don't understand the basics of sexual health out there havign sex.

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Anonymous wrote:You do have other options if she is still early in the pregnancy.

OP here. She is 16 weeks pregnant and no. We would never consider any other option besides keeping our child. He was unexpected but a wonderful gift.

Troll. You don’t find out the gender until 20 weeks.

That's not true.

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Anonymous wrote:Why didn’t you guys use birth control?

What form of BC is 100% effective?

Anal

Actually, not. Depends on a sequence)

And this is why birth control babies exist because there are so many idiots who don't understand the basics of sexual health out there havign sex.

Exactly. Its the same with the i didn't know I was pregnant stories.