Wife Upset About Pregnancy

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Anonymous wrote:Why didn’t you guys use birth control?

OP here. We did use birth control but she still got pregnant.

Many people get pregnant on birth control. It’s no 100% effective.

I don't beleive that.

What? LOL. It's a fact. Facts don't care whether you "believe" them or not.

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Anonymous wrote:By the time she has the baby we should be in a much better place pandemic wise. I am struggling to conceive and the pandemic is not high on my list of concerns. You can social distance while pregnant...

She's a health care worker so unless she's able to switch to a work at home role she's in a high COVID risk position and won't be able to get the vaccine. I understand her worries. I do hope she is able to enjoy it though, just so in the future she won't look back with regret.

From the OP: She is a healthcare worker ( works from home)

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Anonymous wrote:You do have other options if she is still early in the pregnancy.

OP here. She is 16 weeks pregnant and no. We would never consider any other option besides keeping our child. He was unexpected but a wonderful gift.

Troll. You don’t find out the gender until 20 weeks.

OP here. You can figure out the gender earlier. We found out at 8 weeks.

Insurance doesn't cover that blood test unless you are over 35

OP here. I never said it did. We have paid for multiple tests out-of-pocket.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How long has it been? With both of my planned, very wanted, pregnancies I still felt overwhelmed and worried and concerned with timing initially. It’s a huge life change. Those feelings passed. There just an intial “oh shit!” phase. Give her support and it will likely pass quickly. Also, congrats!!

OP here. She is 16 weeks. She was very surprised and worried at first. She has some endocrine issues and we didn’t think getting pregnant would be very easy. This is part of why we wanted to wait. We thought we would need a fertility doctor or at least more doctors appointments, etc. Then she got bummed worrying about everything, happy, and now is happy but worried. I’m worried too, but a little more excited than worried.

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Some people are just never going to be super excited about being pregnant, and that's totally ok. Let her feel what she feels without trying to change her. Unless she's in a place of actual depression or uncontrollable anxiety, at which point urge her to seek help, her feeling more worried than excited is no less legitimate a way to approach it than your feeling more excited than worried and she probably doesn't need you trying to manager her emotions on top of everything else. Even if it comes from a good place, it's just one more thing she doesn't need to deal with while growing a human in her body.

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OP here. This has become a little heavy and I didn’t think I would get so many replies. Thanks everyone who had kind replies!

I realize I said “ we got pregnant”, but I know I don’t get pregnant. It was just a saying and no need to make multiple responses about it. It’s not that big of a deal.

She is in healthcare but doesn’t have any direct access to patients. She is not a nurse, doctor, or anything with a direct line. She does go into a clinic once a month but that’s about it. We both work from home and have been quarantining.

The blood test we got at 10 weeks was out-of-pocket, but I fail to see why the “ it’s not covered by insurance” comment was necessary or needed. That’s really no ones business of how we paid for it.

I will the to get some friends and family included once we tell them. We will be telling everyone at Christmas. We wanted to wait until we made sure if was a healthy pregnancy.

Birth control is not 100% and can fail. We used a condom and still got pregnant. I’ve known people on the pill who still became pregnant. Condoms are not 100% effective. It happens.

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Anonymous wrote:Why didn’t you guys use birth control?

What form of BC is 100% effective?

::raises hand:: abstinence

1. Not a form of birth control.
2. How does abstinence prevent pregnancy if you're raped?

I guess the pill isn't birth control either because you can still get pregnant if you are raped even on that.

The pill prevents most pregnancies. Abstinence has a much higher failure rate. Sorry. Like I said, it's not 100% effective.

It is 100% effective, if you don't have sex you can''t pregnant, a rap is non consenual sexual intercourse, thus no abstinence.

And even with your new argumen t you can't claim the pill as birth conrol because it's not 100% effective.

OP here. We are teenagers with an oops pregnancy. Yes, she is pregnant before we planned it, but we are both adults. We care for our child. We are in a loving and committed marriage, which includes sex. I don’t know any married couples practicing abstinence.

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Anonymous wrote:Why didn’t you guys use birth control?

What form of BC is 100% effective?

::raises hand:: abstinence

1. Not a form of birth control.
2. How does abstinence prevent pregnancy if you're raped?

I guess the pill isn't birth control either because you can still get pregnant if you are raped even on that.

The pill prevents most pregnancies. Abstinence has a much higher failure rate. Sorry. Like I said, it's not 100% effective.

It is 100% effective, if you don't have sex you can''t pregnant, a rap is non consenual sexual intercourse, thus no abstinence.

And even with your new argumen t you can't claim the pill as birth conrol because it's not 100% effective.

OP here. We are teenagers with an oops pregnancy. Yes, she is pregnant before we planned it, but we are both adults. We care for our child. We are in a loving and committed marriage, which includes sex. I don’t know any married couples practicing abstinence.

* aren’t

We have the means to support a child.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why didn’t you guys use birth control?

What form of BC is 100% effective?

The pill is 99% effective.

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Never argue with a crazy person, a drunk person, or a pregnant woman.
-signed Dad of 3

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Anonymous wrote:You do have other options if she is still early in the pregnancy.

OP here. She is 16 weeks pregnant and no. We would never consider any other option besides keeping our child. He was unexpected but a wonderful gift.

Troll. You don’t find out the gender until 20 weeks.

OP here. You can figure out the gender earlier. We found out at 8 weeks.

Insurance doesn't cover that blood test unless you are over 35

OP here. I never said it did. We have paid for multiple tests out-of-pocket.

I call troll. The out of pocket cost for that test if insurance doesn't cover it is thousands of dollars. No one would do that just to find out the gender a few weeks earlier.

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We had our first child a few months ago. Of course Covid added extra stress, but the hospital handled things amazingly, we felt very safe, and our daughter has been a beacon of light and hope in an otherwise meh grind of a year. If you're going to be stuck at home during a pandemic, you might as well kill two birds with one and get the slog of the first few months with an infant out of the way: you'll be spending a lot of time at home anyway!

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oP The world seems very out of control right now. Very hard to add pregnancy into that. I understand why she is worried. But it will all be OK.

Everyone else, good lord you are a bunch of argumentative trolls and not at all helpful.

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Tell her to get the vaccine. Many pregnant women are. In general, vaccines are incredibly safe for pregnant women.

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Anonymous wrote:You do have other options if she is still early in the pregnancy.

OP here. She is 16 weeks pregnant and no. We would never consider any other option besides keeping our child. He was unexpected but a wonderful gift.

Troll. You don’t find out the gender until 20 weeks.

OP here. You can figure out the gender earlier. We found out at 8 weeks.

Insurance doesn't cover that blood test unless you are over 35

OP here. I never said it did. We have paid for multiple tests out-of-pocket.

I call troll. The out of pocket cost for that test if insurance doesn't cover it is thousands of dollars. No one would do that just to find out the gender a few weeks earlier.

No, it is not thousands.