Wife Upset About Pregnancy

[Anonymous]

My wife and I are expecting our first child. She’s 31 and I’m 35. She is happy that we are having a child but is upset with timing. We have been married for a little over a year. She is a healthcare worker ( works from home) and worried about getting pregnant with the pandemic. We had decided to wait until next fall to start trying, but we got pregnant. She is happy overall but I can tell she is worried. It sucks because I feel like I can’t be that happy about it. How do I help ease her worry? How can I be happy but respectful of her feelings at the same time?

[Anonymous]

Why didn’t you guys use birth control?

[Anonymous]

Just let her work through these feelings. Encourage her to reach out to the actual doctors and scientists she knows to talk about it with them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why didn’t you guys use birth control?

What form of BC is 100% effective?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why didn’t you guys use birth control?

OP here. We did use birth control but she still got pregnant.

Many people get pregnant on birth control. It’s no 100% effective.

[Anonymous]

You do have other options if she is still early in the pregnancy.

[Anonymous]

Birth control fails. About 50% of pregnancies in the US are still unplanned. I hate when people assume birth control is 100% effective. It’s not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You do have other options if she is still early in the pregnancy.

That is ridiculous to say. They were planning to have a child anyway. This is an inappropriate comment.

I got accidentally pregnant and was married and not planning children. That is different. I still could not pursue “other options.”

That is wrong to say to a couple planning to have a child.

OP; reassure her we are nearing the end of the pandemic. I have a friend who had unplanned twins at age 45 this summer. She will be okay. You can’t always time a pregnancy. In the past, no one could.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My wife and I are expecting our first child. She’s 31 and I’m 35. She is happy that we are having a child but is upset with timing. We have been married for a little over a year. She is a healthcare worker ( works from home) and worried about getting pregnant with the pandemic. We had decided to wait until next fall to start trying, but we got pregnant. She is happy overall but I can tell she is worried. It sucks because I feel like I can’t be that happy about it. How do I help ease her worry? How can I be happy but respectful of her feelings at the same time?

First of all you did not get pregnant. Im assuming you are a male? You can be happy and supportive. If she is still worried after you reassiring her maybe she can talk to someone about her feelings?

Congrats

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife and I are expecting our first child. She’s 31 and I’m 35. She is happy that we are having a child but is upset with timing. We have been married for a little over a year. She is a healthcare worker ( works from home) and worried about getting pregnant with the pandemic. We had decided to wait until next fall to start trying, but we got pregnant. She is happy overall but I can tell she is worried. It sucks because I feel like I can’t be that happy about it. How do I help ease her worry? How can I be happy but respectful of her feelings at the same time?

First of all you did not get pregnant. Im assuming you are a male? You can be happy and supportive. If she is still worried after you reassiring her maybe she can talk to someone about her feelings?

Congrats

It's an unplanned pregnancy. I didn't know lesbian sex can cause someone to get pregnant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife and I are expecting our first child. She’s 31 and I’m 35. She is happy that we are having a child but is upset with timing. We have been married for a little over a year. She is a healthcare worker ( works from home) and worried about getting pregnant with the pandemic. We had decided to wait until next fall to start trying, but we got pregnant. She is happy overall but I can tell she is worried. It sucks because I feel like I can’t be that happy about it. How do I help ease her worry? How can I be happy but respectful of her feelings at the same time?

First of all you did not get pregnant. Im assuming you are a male? You can be happy and supportive. If she is still worried after you reassiring her maybe she can talk to someone about her feelings?

Congrats

You know what he means. Plus, he said they’re expecting. That’s normal to say “ we’re expecting..” They are both expecting, not just her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife and I are expecting our first child. She’s 31 and I’m 35. She is happy that we are having a child but is upset with timing. We have been married for a little over a year. She is a healthcare worker ( works from home) and worried about getting pregnant with the pandemic. We had decided to wait until next fall to start trying, but we got pregnant. She is happy overall but I can tell she is worried. It sucks because I feel like I can’t be that happy about it. How do I help ease her worry? How can I be happy but respectful of her feelings at the same time?

First of all you did not get pregnant. Im assuming you are a male? You can be happy and supportive. If she is still worried after you reassiring her maybe she can talk to someone about her feelings?

Congrats

It's an unplanned pregnancy. I didn't know lesbian sex can cause someone to get pregnant.

Are u the op? You literally said WE are pregnant. My question was rhetorical. And soon two women will be able to have a baby

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You do have other options if she is still early in the pregnancy.

OP here. She is 16 weeks pregnant and no. We would never consider any other option besides keeping our child. He was unexpected but a wonderful gift.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife and I are expecting our first child. She’s 31 and I’m 35. She is happy that we are having a child but is upset with timing. We have been married for a little over a year. She is a healthcare worker ( works from home) and worried about getting pregnant with the pandemic. We had decided to wait until next fall to start trying, but we got pregnant. She is happy overall but I can tell she is worried. It sucks because I feel like I can’t be that happy about it. How do I help ease her worry? How can I be happy but respectful of her feelings at the same time?

First of all you did not get pregnant. Im assuming you are a male? You can be happy and supportive. If she is still worried after you reassiring her maybe she can talk to someone about her feelings?

Congrats

It's an unplanned pregnancy. I didn't know lesbian sex can cause someone to get pregnant.

Are u the op? You literally said WE are pregnant. My question was rhetorical. And soon two women will be able to have a baby

Two women will never be able to have a baby without the help of a man.

[Anonymous]

OP, you sound like a nice person. There’s never a perfect time to have a baby. You do your best to plan, but they come when they come.

Maybe you could plan an evening focused on you two - cook something that appeals to her at this stage in pregnancy and get tickets to some virtual concert or event. Help her feel cared for in a way that’s not pregnancy-centric. Just give her some time to process, you know?