When did your high schoolers become sexually active?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s funny that so many of you think you know.

This! I don’t get it... you only know what they tell you

My kids are oversharers. We’re pretty frank about sex because I had an unplanned pregnancy in college and tried to hide it from my mom. My friends were all in on it because they knew my mom overreacted. I planned to hide at school and give the baby up for adoption.

wow, what ended up happening?

I think I would just assume a teen with a “real” bf or gf was having sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s funny that so many of you think you know.

This! I don’t get it... you only know what they tell you

My kids are oversharers. We’re pretty frank about sex because I had an unplanned pregnancy in college and tried to hide it from my mom. My friends were all in on it because they knew my mom overreacted. I planned to hide at school and give the baby up for adoption.

wow, what ended up happening?

I think I would just assume a teen with a “real” bf or gf was having sex.

Lol why would you assume that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Unless you're there in the bedroom with them, no parent is going to know

+1

BS.

I told my parents. I have lots of girlfriends who told their parents(and some who did not).

My mother was very uncomfortable and asked my much younger aunt to give me advice. It did not stop me from telling her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s funny that so many of you think you know.

This! I don’t get it... you only know what they tell you

My kids are oversharers. We’re pretty frank about sex because I had an unplanned pregnancy in college and tried to hide it from my mom. My friends were all in on it because they knew my mom overreacted. I planned to hide at school and give the baby up for adoption.

wow, what ended up happening?

I think I would just assume a teen with a “real” bf or gf was having sex.

Lol why would you assume that.

Um because I remember being in HS... ( NP here)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please answer age and gender.

If your answer is not yet, don’t bother responding. That’s not the info I’m looking for.

Can I ask why? Whatever info you are trying to discern about a certain activity is not complete if you don't include those who are not (yet) doing that activity. Its like asking when your kindergartener could read chapter books. If everyone chimes in with a different month of the school year it makes it look like that all of them are doing this, when its a completely incomplete picture if 40% of the kids are not reading chapter books at all yet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s funny that so many of you think you know.

This! I don’t get it... you only know what they tell you

My kids are oversharers. We’re pretty frank about sex because I had an unplanned pregnancy in college and tried to hide it from my mom. My friends were all in on it because they knew my mom overreacted. I planned to hide at school and give the baby up for adoption.

There was a girl at my university in the late 90s, early 2000s who did this. As a grown women, looking back, it makes me sad that it was gossip fodder- that's a heavy burden to carry for a 19 year old (the hiding part)

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think it’s funny that so many of you think you know.

I think it's sad that you've created an environment with your child where they can't talk to you about sex honestly.

Some kids are just private! My mom did ALL the right things about talking early and often and no judgement and all that, she was sex positive even though it was NOTHING like her upbringing and she herself was pretty conservative about sex, but wanted us to be able to come to her. She could guess ABOUT when I had sex but there is no way she knows 100%. It wasn't in a relationship setting. I just DID NOT want to talk to her about sex, some kids find it weird to talk to their parents about sex. What is important is they know that they CAN. That was very reassuring.

[Anonymous]

I had a good, close relationship with my mother and I never told her when I started having sex. She was my mother, not my close friend. I didn't think it was appropriate to talk to my mother about my sex life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DD was 16 (with her girlfriend)
DS was 14- Not what I would have chosen. He is currently 16 and sexually active with his 18 yo gf of 2 years.

That’s bad news for your DS having sex with much mature 18yo and the girl could be in trouble for statutory rape if your DS ever felt used or gets dumped.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s funny that so many of you think you know.

This! I don’t get it... you only know what they tell you

My kids are oversharers. We’re pretty frank about sex because I had an unplanned pregnancy in college and tried to hide it from my mom. My friends were all in on it because they knew my mom overreacted. I planned to hide at school and give the baby up for adoption.

wow, what ended up happening?

I think I would just assume a teen with a “real” bf or gf was having sex.

Lol why would you assume that.

Um because I remember being in HS... ( NP here)

How long ago was that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DD was 16 (with her girlfriend)
DS was 14- Not what I would have chosen. He is currently 16 and sexually active with his 18 yo gf of 2 years.

That’s bad news for your DS having sex with much mature 18yo and the girl could be in trouble for statutory rape if your DS ever felt used or gets dumped.

A lot of states have age of consent laws with limits, or distances in ages built in for exactly this scenario, so we aren't jailing a high school senior 13 months older than their classmate.

[Anonymous]

MY DS - 17 with his then girlfriend

my now 16 year old DS, unlikely to be sexually active. (and quarentined at home since March so no opportunities).

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s funny that so many of you think you know.

This! I don’t get it... you only know what they tell you

My kids are oversharers. We’re pretty frank about sex because I had an unplanned pregnancy in college and tried to hide it from my mom. My friends were all in on it because they knew my mom overreacted. I planned to hide at school and give the baby up for adoption.

wow, what ended up happening?

I think I would just assume a teen with a “real” bf or gf was having sex.

Lol why would you assume that.

Um because I remember being in HS... ( NP here)

How long ago was that?

It has been a while but have humans sexual desires, puberty and hormones changed drastically?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DD was 16 (with her girlfriend)
DS was 14- Not what I would have chosen. He is currently 16 and sexually active with his 18 yo gf of 2 years.

That’s bad news for your DS having sex with much mature 18yo and the girl could be in trouble for statutory rape if your DS ever felt used or gets dumped.

This is simply untrue. First, 16 is the age of consent in most states. Even if it isn't, most states have laws for minors that recognize consensual sex between teens with a limited age difference even if one is not yet at age of consent.

[Anonymous]

And this is why my kids attend single sex schools . i only have to worry about weekends.


I suppose there's also teachers but at least their girlfriends aren't there to hanky panky in the bathroom during recess.