When did your high schoolers become sexually active?

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Anonymous wrote:And this is why my kids attend single sex schools . i only have to worry about weekends.


I suppose there's also teachers but at least their girlfriends aren't there to hanky panky in the bathroom during recess.

I know a lot of people who attended single sex schools. There’s still a lot of opportunities to have sex at school!

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Anonymous wrote:DD was 16 (with her girlfriend)
DS was 14- Not what I would have chosen. He is currently 16 and sexually active with his 18 yo gf of 2 years.

That’s bad news for your DS having sex with much mature 18yo and the girl could be in trouble for statutory rape if your DS ever felt used or gets dumped.

This is simply untrue. First, 16 is the age of consent in most states. Even if it isn't, most states have laws for minors that recognize consensual sex between teens with a limited age difference even if one is not yet at age of consent.

PP said her son was 14 when he started having sex. He is now s16 and she is now 18. Which means here DSs GF was probably 16.

But keep flaming...

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Anonymous wrote:I think it’s funny that so many of you think you know.

This! I don’t get it... you only know what they tell you

My kids are oversharers. We’re pretty frank about sex because I had an unplanned pregnancy in college and tried to hide it from my mom. My friends were all in on it because they knew my mom overreacted. I planned to hide at school and give the baby up for adoption.

wow, what ended up happening?

I think I would just assume a teen with a “real” bf or gf was having sex.

Lol why would you assume that.

Um because I remember being in HS... ( NP here)

How long ago was that?

It has been a while but have humans sexual desires, puberty and hormones changed drastically?

Socially yes, and your choices as an individual mean nothing.

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DD- 15, but so close to her BD that we're calling it 16

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DD was 15 and is still dating the boy 2 years later

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Anonymous wrote:High school Junior girl, 16. With steady boyfriend

Same. Except 17.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it’s funny that so many of you think you know.

How old are you and how old are your kids?

I’m 35 and I didn’t tell my parents anything.

My brother is 19 and my sister is 18. Both of them tell their parents everything. Everything. Drugs. Sex. Drinking. Everything. My parents call me in horror all the time and I have to tell them, don’t worry, I did coke/had sex/passed out on a frat house lawn and all was well.

I don’t get it but these younger kids overshare like crazy.

I think it’s a social media effect.

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DS is an D1 athlete and he is a lead singer/guitarist in the band; unfortunately his Tiger mom held him back from sexual activities during his high school years. Now he is away at college, he is having sex with at least 100+ young women so far because of his athlete and musician status. I know this because he is texting his best friend and cousin explicit pictures and my nephew told me about it. Just hope that he protects himself but it is what it is.

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Anonymous wrote:And this is why my kids attend single sex schools . i only have to worry about weekends.


I suppose there's also teachers but at least their girlfriends aren't there to hanky panky in the bathroom during recess.

I know a lot of people who attended single sex schools. There’s still a lot of opportunities to have sex at school!

With whom?

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Anonymous wrote:And this is why my kids attend single sex schools . i only have to worry about weekends.


I suppose there's also teachers but at least their girlfriends aren't there to hanky panky in the bathroom during recess.

I know a lot of people who attended single sex schools. There’s still a lot of opportunities to have sex at school!

With whom?

Girls from NCS having sex with boys from St. Alban

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Anonymous wrote:And this is why my kids attend single sex schools . i only have to worry about weekends.


I suppose there's also teachers but at least their girlfriends aren't there to hanky panky in the bathroom during recess.

I know a lot of people who attended single sex schools. There’s still a lot of opportunities to have sex at school!

With whom?

Many girls this age are bisexual now....

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Anonymous wrote:I think it’s funny that so many of you think you know.

I think it's sad that you've created an environment with your child where they can't talk to you about sex honestly.

NP here. My husband and I created an open environment with our kids about sex and all that goes with sex (pregnancy, disease, emotional readiness). They knew that we thought sex in high school can be tricky and definitely not idea, but that we understood circumstances. We even discussed birth control, if they became sexually active or were seriously considering it. We talk and listen to our kids about a variety of topics that are not always comfortable, but we want the door open so we can guide them the best we can.

That being said, our 16 year old daughter had sex with her bf. Despite our discussions and education regarding birth control, etc, our daughter did not come to us. We had expected her to come to us when and if sex occurred (or ideally just before) so that we could get her birth control (hopefully, in addition to condoms). Well, we found out about her being sexually active from her best friend. Seems our daughter and her bf had sex and in the weeks after, they became nervous about pregnancy. Ugh. Our daughter shared none of this, with us, but did tell her best girlfriend, who in turn, got concerned and told us.

The good news is that pregnancy did not occur. The bad news, is that our daughter did not tell us that she was active, despite being very reasonable parents. When we asked her why she did not tell us, so that we could get her an IUD or BCP, her answer was:

"He (the boyfriend) told me not to tell anyone, especially you guys, because he was afraid that his parents would find out and punish him"

Basically, our 16 year old, had the lack of maturity to know that her own welfare , and that of a possible baby, did not take priority over the chance of her boyfriend getting punished. Her bf was obviously too immature to see how insane his thinking was.... T

So, it is not always the case that kids will tell their parents, despite having an open, reasonable environment. I also never told my own parents, who were fairly open. The reason why I never told my parents was because I knew that they did not think sex in HS was idea.

It's more complicated that having an open environment where parents are approachable and reasonable.

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DD #1 was 18 (college freshman). DS is 27 and still a virgin (asexual). DD #2 is 25 and still a virgin (social anxiety).

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Anonymous wrote:And this is why my kids attend single sex schools . i only have to worry about weekends.


I suppose there's also teachers but at least their girlfriends aren't there to hanky panky in the bathroom during recess.

I know a lot of people who attended single sex schools. There’s still a lot of opportunities to have sex at school!

+1000 + LMAO. Anyone thinking single sex school environments means chastity is in for rude awakening.

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Anonymous wrote:Younger girl, until they got married,
older girl 17
Oldest girl mid way in college we think but the relationship stopped even before we could have investigated

"Investigated"?!