My husband is fat and he does not care

[Anonymous]

Same situation with my wife. I put a good bit of effort into staying in shape, which is more than can be said for the other husbands in our circle. She certainly enjoys the fruits of my labor, but doesn't seem to have any real desire to even somewhat reciprocate. I love her but I am definitely less physically attracted to her because of it.

[Anonymous]

6 feet and 225 isn’t disgustingly obese, although it probably depends on build. But the actual weight is less important than how he was when you met and how he is now. My husband and I have both recently turned 45, and it seems like weight is so much harder to lose than it used to be. But it also sucks when you’re not feeling attracted to your spouse. It may be shallow, but that’s not something most people can just think away.

You mention working out, but that’s not the best way to lose weight. Are you both working at home? If so, get rid of all the junk food, control meals and monitor his snacking. If there is no ice cream in the house, he can’t eat it.

[Anonymous]

You mention working out, but that’s not the best way to lose weight. Are you both working at home? If so, get rid of all the junk food, control meals and monitor his snacking. If there is no ice cream in the house, he can’t eat it.

It might not be the only way to lose weight, and diet is just as important, but if you are sedintary all day long then it's going to show. You don't necessarily need to "work out" in the traditional sense; just try to be moving about as much as you can. And it serves as a backup for when you inevitably hit a setback in your eating habits.

[Anonymous]

OP are we married to the same man!?? Omg My husband is about 50 pounds overweight and he doesn’t care one bit. I am in the best shape of my life Training five days a week! And I feel exactly the way you feel about the sex thing. When he asked what would turn me on I’ve been so tempted to say, “a flat stomach “ He’s never been thin but he has put on about 25 pounds since we got married.

[Anonymous]

My husband is the same. He has gained so much weight since we got married that he nearly pushes me off the bed with each thrust. I’m not turned on at all by this. But He doesn’t care and the crazy thing is he’s one of those people who thinks he’s fine. And he actually makes fun of fat people. Very bizarre. I was thinking maybe the mirrors in our house or from a fun house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:6 feet and 225 isn’t disgustingly obese, although it probably depends on build. But the actual weight is less important than how he was when you met and how he is now. My husband and I have both recently turned 45, and it seems like weight is so much harder to lose than it used to be. But it also sucks when you’re not feeling attracted to your spouse. It may be shallow, but that’s not something most people can just think away.

You mention working out, but that’s not the best way to lose weight. Are you both working at home? If so, get rid of all the junk food, control meals and monitor his snacking. If there is no ice cream in the house, he can’t eat it.

Oh please! I never ever buy unhealthy food when I go grocery shopping. My husband makes weekly trips to Walmart for his supply of junk food, ice cream, and candy. It’s disgusting and he will eat it in bed and expect me to be horny watching this. I really cannot understand how a grown person doesn’t get it. That gaining weight and eating garbage in bed would be an aphrodisiac!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP are we married to the same man!?? Omg My husband is about 50 pounds overweight and he doesn’t care one bit. I am in the best shape of my life Training five days a week! And I feel exactly the way you feel about the sex thing. When he asked what would turn me on I’ve been so tempted to say, “a flat stomach “ He’s never been thin but he has put on about 25 pounds since we got married.

You need to go ahead and say it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:6 feet and 225 isn’t disgustingly obese, although it probably depends on build. But the actual weight is less important than how he was when you met and how he is now. My husband and I have both recently turned 45, and it seems like weight is so much harder to lose than it used to be. But it also sucks when you’re not feeling attracted to your spouse. It may be shallow, but that’s not something most people can just think away.

You mention working out, but that’s not the best way to lose weight. Are you both working at home? If so, get rid of all the junk food, control meals and monitor his snacking. If there is no ice cream in the house, he can’t eat it.

Oh please! I never ever buy unhealthy food when I go grocery shopping. My husband makes weekly trips to Walmart for his supply of junk food, ice cream, and candy. It’s disgusting and he will eat it in bed and expect me to be horny watching this. I really cannot understand how a grown person doesn’t get it. That gaining weight and eating garbage in bed would be an aphrodisiac!!

Especially from a man! OMG watching some man binge eat to cover up his emotions has to be the most unattractive thing EVER! It's so weird, dysfunctional, and just sad- a turn off! Ugh yuck

[Anonymous]

Mine is 5’10” and 260. Ugh. He has no desire to lose weight, is unemployed, and doesn’t help much around the house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Same situation with my wife. I put a good bit of effort into staying in shape, which is more than can be said for the other husbands in our circle. She certainly enjoys the fruits of my labor, but doesn't seem to have any real desire to even somewhat reciprocate. I love her but I am definitely less physically attracted to her because of it.

Simp.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Same situation with my wife. I put a good bit of effort into staying in shape, which is more than can be said for the other husbands in our circle. She certainly enjoys the fruits of my labor, but doesn't seem to have any real desire to even somewhat reciprocate. I love her but I am definitely less physically attracted to her because of it.

Simp.

LOL you must be the loser that comes on every night and tries to convince everyone that the pinnacle of masculinity is gobbling down Mountain Dew and potato chips and cake. Enjoy your diabetes, clown.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mine is 5’10” and 260. Ugh. He has no desire to lose weight, is unemployed, and doesn’t help much around the house.

I had to stop and think if I posted this! DH is 80 pounds heavier than when we married. He is depressed, unemployed and incredibly unmotivated. He sleeps 10 to 12 hours a day. Our house is a shambles as I can't keep up with my job and the kids and school.

He wants to lose weight, but can't stop the drinking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mine is 5’10” and 260. Ugh. He has no desire to lose weight, is unemployed, and doesn’t help much around the house.

I had to stop and think if I posted this! DH is 80 pounds heavier than when we married. He is depressed, unemployed and incredibly unmotivated. He sleeps 10 to 12 hours a day. Our house is a shambles as I can't keep up with my job and the kids and school.

He wants to lose weight, but can't stop the drinking.

PP again. This sounds like us except mine doesn’t drink. How old are your kids? Mine has stopped taking anti depressants because he feels like they don’t work and refuses to go back to the doctor. My kids are 7 and 9. I feel like I’m drowning.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband is the same. He has gained so much weight since we got married that he nearly pushes me off the bed with each thrust. I’m not turned on at all by this. But He doesn’t care and the crazy thing is he’s one of those people who thinks he’s fine. And he actually makes fun of fat people. Very bizarre. I was thinking maybe the mirrors in our house or from a fun house.

Same in my house. Sigh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mine is 5’10” and 260. Ugh. He has no desire to lose weight, is unemployed, and doesn’t help much around the house.

I had to stop and think if I posted this! DH is 80 pounds heavier than when we married. He is depressed, unemployed and incredibly unmotivated. He sleeps 10 to 12 hours a day. Our house is a shambles as I can't keep up with my job and the kids and school.

He wants to lose weight, but can't stop the drinking.

12 and 18. Older child disabled.