At a loss with classroom behavior issues

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Anonymous wrote:Another teacher here. I can tell you when parents start calling meeting with admin and making it clear a kid in class is having huge impact, that’s when they address it. Make clear the teacher is doing what they can but your son is still impacted negatively. I have seen this myself; we as teachers can’t do anything about their placement even if we say it’s impacting the other kids but when you get 3-4 parents getting loud about it, it moves the needle.

OP here. This is possibly what got this child moved into a new classroom—parents in his original classroom going to admin. Did not consider that before. So what do they do: just move kids with extreme behavior disruptions from classroom to classroom as infinitum? Why doesn’t a child who needs this much help regulating impulses and emotions have an aide? This must be such drain on teachers and also no real help to the child.

Why doesn't a child who needs this much help have an aide? 1) If a child is new to a school with no paperwork from an old school, new to the country or most often, new to school in general in kindergarten, a school cannot hold a domain meeting requesting an evaluation for 45 school days. 2) A crap ton of documentation and RTI has to happen before most evaluations will happen. 3) A 1:1 aide in a gen ed room, in my school at least, is considered the MOST restrictive environment, even more so than say being placed in an ED/BD room, that is possible. So schools don't like to use that option. 4) Aides are expensive. Districts don't like to pay for them 5) It is VERY difficult to find an aide to work with some of the kids who need them. When that aide has to follow a detailed BIP or crisis plan, it takes tremendous patience. It can also mean that aide putting themself in harm's way each day. How many people are just dying to get paid $11 an hour and get spit on or kicked? And then add in if you have a district that just doesn't want to deal with all this for one reason or the other? It means the kid in question doesn't get the help they need, the other kids and the staff suffers and it is a lose-lose situation.

OP here. I didn't know any of this--thank you. I didn't realize how hard it is for a child to be assigned an aide and how hard it is to find one. What is the answer here? A teacher already stretched thin with the demands of a full classroom, plus at least one or two kids whose needs and behavior dominate their attention--that feels terribly unfair to the teacher, the kids who need the extra assistance, and the rest of the class. My kid says the outburts are loud, sudden, and last a long time--he's on edge waiting for it, even when it isn't happening. I wonder how many other kids in the class feel the same? Not to mention all the hours of instruction interrupted.

Its life in public school. Not all kids are as perfect as yours. Most kids who need attention and supports don't get it and many of us pay a fortune privately in services or have to hire advocates or attorneys and basically sue. You can always transfer to a private.

It's not fair of you to be dismissive of this especially when you don't know OP's financial situation - most of us can't just go find a private school and enroll our child.

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Anonymous wrote:Another teacher here. I can tell you when parents start calling meeting with admin and making it clear a kid in class is having huge impact, that’s when they address it. Make clear the teacher is doing what they can but your son is still impacted negatively. I have seen this myself; we as teachers can’t do anything about their placement even if we say it’s impacting the other kids but when you get 3-4 parents getting loud about it, it moves the needle.

OP here. This is possibly what got this child moved into a new classroom—parents in his original classroom going to admin. Did not consider that before. So what do they do: just move kids with extreme behavior disruptions from classroom to classroom as infinitum? Why doesn’t a child who needs this much help regulating impulses and emotions have an aide? This must be such drain on teachers and also no real help to the child.

Why doesn't a child who needs this much help have an aide? 1) If a child is new to a school with no paperwork from an old school, new to the country or most often, new to school in general in kindergarten, a school cannot hold a domain meeting requesting an evaluation for 45 school days. 2) A crap ton of documentation and RTI has to happen before most evaluations will happen. 3) A 1:1 aide in a gen ed room, in my school at least, is considered the MOST restrictive environment, even more so than say being placed in an ED/BD room, that is possible. So schools don't like to use that option. 4) Aides are expensive. Districts don't like to pay for them 5) It is VERY difficult to find an aide to work with some of the kids who need them. When that aide has to follow a detailed BIP or crisis plan, it takes tremendous patience. It can also mean that aide putting themself in harm's way each day. How many people are just dying to get paid $11 an hour and get spit on or kicked? And then add in if you have a district that just doesn't want to deal with all this for one reason or the other? It means the kid in question doesn't get the help they need, the other kids and the staff suffers and it is a lose-lose situation.

OP here. I didn't know any of this--thank you. I didn't realize how hard it is for a child to be assigned an aide and how hard it is to find one. What is the answer here? A teacher already stretched thin with the demands of a full classroom, plus at least one or two kids whose needs and behavior dominate their attention--that feels terribly unfair to the teacher, the kids who need the extra assistance, and the rest of the class. My kid says the outburts are loud, sudden, and last a long time--he's on edge waiting for it, even when it isn't happening. I wonder how many other kids in the class feel the same? Not to mention all the hours of instruction interrupted.

Its life in public school. Not all kids are as perfect as yours. Most kids who need attention and supports don't get it and many of us pay a fortune privately in services or have to hire advocates or attorneys and basically sue. You can always transfer to a private.

OP is a taxpayer and should not have to put her kid in private. Kids should not routinely have their hands smashed in classroom doors. Kids should not routinely have their classroom evacuated because of a child who is unable to function in a classroom setting. The other 99% of the children should get a safe learning enrironment as well as the teacher.

OP here. Thank you for this.

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Anonymous wrote:Another teacher here. I can tell you when parents start calling meeting with admin and making it clear a kid in class is having huge impact, that’s when they address it. Make clear the teacher is doing what they can but your son is still impacted negatively. I have seen this myself; we as teachers can’t do anything about their placement even if we say it’s impacting the other kids but when you get 3-4 parents getting loud about it, it moves the needle.

OP here. This is possibly what got this child moved into a new classroom—parents in his original classroom going to admin. Did not consider that before. So what do they do: just move kids with extreme behavior disruptions from classroom to classroom as infinitum? Why doesn’t a child who needs this much help regulating impulses and emotions have an aide? This must be such drain on teachers and also no real help to the child.

Why doesn't a child who needs this much help have an aide? 1) If a child is new to a school with no paperwork from an old school, new to the country or most often, new to school in general in kindergarten, a school cannot hold a domain meeting requesting an evaluation for 45 school days. 2) A crap ton of documentation and RTI has to happen before most evaluations will happen. 3) A 1:1 aide in a gen ed room, in my school at least, is considered the MOST restrictive environment, even more so than say being placed in an ED/BD room, that is possible. So schools don't like to use that option. 4) Aides are expensive. Districts don't like to pay for them 5) It is VERY difficult to find an aide to work with some of the kids who need them. When that aide has to follow a detailed BIP or crisis plan, it takes tremendous patience. It can also mean that aide putting themself in harm's way each day. How many people are just dying to get paid $11 an hour and get spit on or kicked? And then add in if you have a district that just doesn't want to deal with all this for one reason or the other? It means the kid in question doesn't get the help they need, the other kids and the staff suffers and it is a lose-lose situation.

OP here. I didn't know any of this--thank you. I didn't realize how hard it is for a child to be assigned an aide and how hard it is to find one. What is the answer here? A teacher already stretched thin with the demands of a full classroom, plus at least one or two kids whose needs and behavior dominate their attention--that feels terribly unfair to the teacher, the kids who need the extra assistance, and the rest of the class. My kid says the outburts are loud, sudden, and last a long time--he's on edge waiting for it, even when it isn't happening. I wonder how many other kids in the class feel the same? Not to mention all the hours of instruction interrupted.

Its life in public school. Not all kids are as perfect as yours. Most kids who need attention and supports don't get it and many of us pay a fortune privately in services or have to hire advocates or attorneys and basically sue. You can always transfer to a private.

So could you

I have put mine in private when it was absolutely necessary. But, at some point we couldn't maintain that cost and private therapies. Thankfully mine doesn't have behavioral problems so most privates would take them but otherwise you are looking at $50-60K and if I could afford that mine would be in a private as the school system and public school is terrible. We have had one decent teacher and I wouldn't even say she's good. This year we went 1/2 the year without a teacher.

Most of the people here complaining could comfortably afford it especially when they are buying million dollar houses but instead they'd rather attack someone else child who needs help.

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Anonymous wrote:Another teacher here. I can tell you when parents start calling meeting with admin and making it clear a kid in class is having huge impact, that’s when they address it. Make clear the teacher is doing what they can but your son is still impacted negatively. I have seen this myself; we as teachers can’t do anything about their placement even if we say it’s impacting the other kids but when you get 3-4 parents getting loud about it, it moves the needle.

OP here. This is possibly what got this child moved into a new classroom—parents in his original classroom going to admin. Did not consider that before. So what do they do: just move kids with extreme behavior disruptions from classroom to classroom as infinitum? Why doesn’t a child who needs this much help regulating impulses and emotions have an aide? This must be such drain on teachers and also no real help to the child.

Why doesn't a child who needs this much help have an aide? 1) If a child is new to a school with no paperwork from an old school, new to the country or most often, new to school in general in kindergarten, a school cannot hold a domain meeting requesting an evaluation for 45 school days. 2) A crap ton of documentation and RTI has to happen before most evaluations will happen. 3) A 1:1 aide in a gen ed room, in my school at least, is considered the MOST restrictive environment, even more so than say being placed in an ED/BD room, that is possible. So schools don't like to use that option. 4) Aides are expensive. Districts don't like to pay for them 5) It is VERY difficult to find an aide to work with some of the kids who need them. When that aide has to follow a detailed BIP or crisis plan, it takes tremendous patience. It can also mean that aide putting themself in harm's way each day. How many people are just dying to get paid $11 an hour and get spit on or kicked? And then add in if you have a district that just doesn't want to deal with all this for one reason or the other? It means the kid in question doesn't get the help they need, the other kids and the staff suffers and it is a lose-lose situation.

OP here. I didn't know any of this--thank you. I didn't realize how hard it is for a child to be assigned an aide and how hard it is to find one. What is the answer here? A teacher already stretched thin with the demands of a full classroom, plus at least one or two kids whose needs and behavior dominate their attention--that feels terribly unfair to the teacher, the kids who need the extra assistance, and the rest of the class. My kid says the outburts are loud, sudden, and last a long time--he's on edge waiting for it, even when it isn't happening. I wonder how many other kids in the class feel the same? Not to mention all the hours of instruction interrupted.

Its life in public school. Not all kids are as perfect as yours. Most kids who need attention and supports don't get it and many of us pay a fortune privately in services or have to hire advocates or attorneys and basically sue. You can always transfer to a private.

It's not fair of you to be dismissive of this especially when you don't know OP's financial situation - most of us can't just go find a private school and enroll our child.

Yes, you can.

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Anonymous wrote:Another teacher here. I can tell you when parents start calling meeting with admin and making it clear a kid in class is having huge impact, that’s when they address it. Make clear the teacher is doing what they can but your son is still impacted negatively. I have seen this myself; we as teachers can’t do anything about their placement even if we say it’s impacting the other kids but when you get 3-4 parents getting loud about it, it moves the needle.

OP here. This is possibly what got this child moved into a new classroom—parents in his original classroom going to admin. Did not consider that before. So what do they do: just move kids with extreme behavior disruptions from classroom to classroom as infinitum? Why doesn’t a child who needs this much help regulating impulses and emotions have an aide? This must be such drain on teachers and also no real help to the child.

I'm the PP from a different school, but parents complaining actually did get the child an aide, which I'm told has made things much better.

Do you realize how hard it is to get a good IEP and special classrooms/help for kids?

I have no idea, all I know is that there was a very disruptive child and the class had a "safe word" and at least twice a week, half of the kids from that class were evacuated into my child's classroom. And that hasn't happened in a while, at least according to my child.

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Anonymous wrote:Another teacher here. I can tell you when parents start calling meeting with admin and making it clear a kid in class is having huge impact, that’s when they address it. Make clear the teacher is doing what they can but your son is still impacted negatively. I have seen this myself; we as teachers can’t do anything about their placement even if we say it’s impacting the other kids but when you get 3-4 parents getting loud about it, it moves the needle.

OP here. This is possibly what got this child moved into a new classroom—parents in his original classroom going to admin. Did not consider that before. So what do they do: just move kids with extreme behavior disruptions from classroom to classroom as infinitum? Why doesn’t a child who needs this much help regulating impulses and emotions have an aide? This must be such drain on teachers and also no real help to the child.

Why doesn't a child who needs this much help have an aide? 1) If a child is new to a school with no paperwork from an old school, new to the country or most often, new to school in general in kindergarten, a school cannot hold a domain meeting requesting an evaluation for 45 school days. 2) A crap ton of documentation and RTI has to happen before most evaluations will happen. 3) A 1:1 aide in a gen ed room, in my school at least, is considered the MOST restrictive environment, even more so than say being placed in an ED/BD room, that is possible. So schools don't like to use that option. 4) Aides are expensive. Districts don't like to pay for them 5) It is VERY difficult to find an aide to work with some of the kids who need them. When that aide has to follow a detailed BIP or crisis plan, it takes tremendous patience. It can also mean that aide putting themself in harm's way each day. How many people are just dying to get paid $11 an hour and get spit on or kicked? And then add in if you have a district that just doesn't want to deal with all this for one reason or the other? It means the kid in question doesn't get the help they need, the other kids and the staff suffers and it is a lose-lose situation.

OP here. I didn't know any of this--thank you. I didn't realize how hard it is for a child to be assigned an aide and how hard it is to find one. What is the answer here? A teacher already stretched thin with the demands of a full classroom, plus at least one or two kids whose needs and behavior dominate their attention--that feels terribly unfair to the teacher, the kids who need the extra assistance, and the rest of the class. My kid says the outburts are loud, sudden, and last a long time--he's on edge waiting for it, even when it isn't happening. I wonder how many other kids in the class feel the same? Not to mention all the hours of instruction interrupted.

Its life in public school. Not all kids are as perfect as yours. Most kids who need attention and supports don't get it and many of us pay a fortune privately in services or have to hire advocates or attorneys and basically sue. You can always transfer to a private.

It's not fair of you to be dismissive of this especially when you don't know OP's financial situation - most of us can't just go find a private school and enroll our child.

Yes, you can.

You must be really out of touch to not understand that most people don't have $20,000 extra lying around to pay private school tuition for a year.

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You don’t need a anywhere $20K. I sent mine to Catholic school for less than half that. Well worth it in so many ways.

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Anonymous wrote:Another teacher here. I can tell you when parents start calling meeting with admin and making it clear a kid in class is having huge impact, that’s when they address it. Make clear the teacher is doing what they can but your son is still impacted negatively. I have seen this myself; we as teachers can’t do anything about their placement even if we say it’s impacting the other kids but when you get 3-4 parents getting loud about it, it moves the needle.

OP here. This is possibly what got this child moved into a new classroom—parents in his original classroom going to admin. Did not consider that before. So what do they do: just move kids with extreme behavior disruptions from classroom to classroom as infinitum? Why doesn’t a child who needs this much help regulating impulses and emotions have an aide? This must be such drain on teachers and also no real help to the child.

Why doesn't a child who needs this much help have an aide? 1) If a child is new to a school with no paperwork from an old school, new to the country or most often, new to school in general in kindergarten, a school cannot hold a domain meeting requesting an evaluation for 45 school days. 2) A crap ton of documentation and RTI has to happen before most evaluations will happen. 3) A 1:1 aide in a gen ed room, in my school at least, is considered the MOST restrictive environment, even more so than say being placed in an ED/BD room, that is possible. So schools don't like to use that option. 4) Aides are expensive. Districts don't like to pay for them 5) It is VERY difficult to find an aide to work with some of the kids who need them. When that aide has to follow a detailed BIP or crisis plan, it takes tremendous patience. It can also mean that aide putting themself in harm's way each day. How many people are just dying to get paid $11 an hour and get spit on or kicked? And then add in if you have a district that just doesn't want to deal with all this for one reason or the other? It means the kid in question doesn't get the help they need, the other kids and the staff suffers and it is a lose-lose situation.

OP here. I didn't know any of this--thank you. I didn't realize how hard it is for a child to be assigned an aide and how hard it is to find one. What is the answer here? A teacher already stretched thin with the demands of a full classroom, plus at least one or two kids whose needs and behavior dominate their attention--that feels terribly unfair to the teacher, the kids who need the extra assistance, and the rest of the class. My kid says the outburts are loud, sudden, and last a long time--he's on edge waiting for it, even when it isn't happening. I wonder how many other kids in the class feel the same? Not to mention all the hours of instruction interrupted.

Its life in public school. Not all kids are as perfect as yours. Most kids who need attention and supports don't get it and many of us pay a fortune privately in services or have to hire advocates or attorneys and basically sue. You can always transfer to a private.

So could you

I have put mine in private when it was absolutely necessary. But, at some point we couldn't maintain that cost and private therapies. Thankfully mine doesn't have behavioral problems so most privates would take them but otherwise you are looking at $50-60K and if I could afford that mine would be in a private as the school system and public school is terrible. We have had one decent teacher and I wouldn't even say she's good. This year we went 1/2 the year without a teacher.

Most of the people here complaining could comfortably afford it especially when they are buying million dollar houses but instead they'd rather attack someone else child who needs help.

You have got to be trolling with that nonsense

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Anonymous wrote:Another teacher here. I can tell you when parents start calling meeting with admin and making it clear a kid in class is having huge impact, that’s when they address it. Make clear the teacher is doing what they can but your son is still impacted negatively. I have seen this myself; we as teachers can’t do anything about their placement even if we say it’s impacting the other kids but when you get 3-4 parents getting loud about it, it moves the needle.

OP here. This is possibly what got this child moved into a new classroom—parents in his original classroom going to admin. Did not consider that before. So what do they do: just move kids with extreme behavior disruptions from classroom to classroom as infinitum? Why doesn’t a child who needs this much help regulating impulses and emotions have an aide? This must be such drain on teachers and also no real help to the child.

Why doesn't a child who needs this much help have an aide? 1) If a child is new to a school with no paperwork from an old school, new to the country or most often, new to school in general in kindergarten, a school cannot hold a domain meeting requesting an evaluation for 45 school days. 2) A crap ton of documentation and RTI has to happen before most evaluations will happen. 3) A 1:1 aide in a gen ed room, in my school at least, is considered the MOST restrictive environment, even more so than say being placed in an ED/BD room, that is possible. So schools don't like to use that option. 4) Aides are expensive. Districts don't like to pay for them 5) It is VERY difficult to find an aide to work with some of the kids who need them. When that aide has to follow a detailed BIP or crisis plan, it takes tremendous patience. It can also mean that aide putting themself in harm's way each day. How many people are just dying to get paid $11 an hour and get spit on or kicked? And then add in if you have a district that just doesn't want to deal with all this for one reason or the other? It means the kid in question doesn't get the help they need, the other kids and the staff suffers and it is a lose-lose situation.

OP here. I didn't know any of this--thank you. I didn't realize how hard it is for a child to be assigned an aide and how hard it is to find one. What is the answer here? A teacher already stretched thin with the demands of a full classroom, plus at least one or two kids whose needs and behavior dominate their attention--that feels terribly unfair to the teacher, the kids who need the extra assistance, and the rest of the class. My kid says the outburts are loud, sudden, and last a long time--he's on edge waiting for it, even when it isn't happening. I wonder how many other kids in the class feel the same? Not to mention all the hours of instruction interrupted.

Its life in public school. Not all kids are as perfect as yours. Most kids who need attention and supports don't get it and many of us pay a fortune privately in services or have to hire advocates or attorneys and basically sue. You can always transfer to a private.

It's not fair of you to be dismissive of this especially when you don't know OP's financial situation - most of us can't just go find a private school and enroll our child.

Yes, you can.

You must be really out of touch to not understand that most people don't have $20,000 extra lying around to pay private school tuition for a year.

Many families earn $40,000 gross before taxes. They have to rely on public schools that their taxes pay for.

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Where are these classrooms being evacuated and what grade? I'm so curious and had no idea! In fairness, it makes me appreciate the non-violent classroom disruptors that I've had to deal with.

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Anonymous wrote:Another teacher here. I can tell you when parents start calling meeting with admin and making it clear a kid in class is having huge impact, that’s when they address it. Make clear the teacher is doing what they can but your son is still impacted negatively. I have seen this myself; we as teachers can’t do anything about their placement even if we say it’s impacting the other kids but when you get 3-4 parents getting loud about it, it moves the needle.

OP here. This is possibly what got this child moved into a new classroom—parents in his original classroom going to admin. Did not consider that before. So what do they do: just move kids with extreme behavior disruptions from classroom to classroom as infinitum? Why doesn’t a child who needs this much help regulating impulses and emotions have an aide? This must be such drain on teachers and also no real help to the child.

Why doesn't a child who needs this much help have an aide? 1) If a child is new to a school with no paperwork from an old school, new to the country or most often, new to school in general in kindergarten, a school cannot hold a domain meeting requesting an evaluation for 45 school days. 2) A crap ton of documentation and RTI has to happen before most evaluations will happen. 3) A 1:1 aide in a gen ed room, in my school at least, is considered the MOST restrictive environment, even more so than say being placed in an ED/BD room, that is possible. So schools don't like to use that option. 4) Aides are expensive. Districts don't like to pay for them 5) It is VERY difficult to find an aide to work with some of the kids who need them. When that aide has to follow a detailed BIP or crisis plan, it takes tremendous patience. It can also mean that aide putting themself in harm's way each day. How many people are just dying to get paid $11 an hour and get spit on or kicked? And then add in if you have a district that just doesn't want to deal with all this for one reason or the other? It means the kid in question doesn't get the help they need, the other kids and the staff suffers and it is a lose-lose situation.

OP here. I didn't know any of this--thank you. I didn't realize how hard it is for a child to be assigned an aide and how hard it is to find one. What is the answer here? A teacher already stretched thin with the demands of a full classroom, plus at least one or two kids whose needs and behavior dominate their attention--that feels terribly unfair to the teacher, the kids who need the extra assistance, and the rest of the class. My kid says the outburts are loud, sudden, and last a long time--he's on edge waiting for it, even when it isn't happening. I wonder how many other kids in the class feel the same? Not to mention all the hours of instruction interrupted.

Its life in public school. Not all kids are as perfect as yours. Most kids who need attention and supports don't get it and many of us pay a fortune privately in services or have to hire advocates or attorneys and basically sue. You can always transfer to a private.

It's not fair of you to be dismissive of this especially when you don't know OP's financial situation - most of us can't just go find a private school and enroll our child.

Yes, you can.

You must be really out of touch to not understand that most people don't have $20,000 extra lying around to pay private school tuition for a year.

Many families earn $40,000 gross before taxes. They have to rely on public schools that their taxes pay for.

PP, That figure is per year, not per month.

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Anonymous wrote:Where are these classrooms being evacuated and what grade? I'm so curious and had no idea! In fairness, it makes me appreciate the non-violent classroom disruptors that I've had to deal with.

I have personally evacuated classes as young as pre-k. It's horrible and sad

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Anonymous wrote:Where are these classrooms being evacuated and what grade? I'm so curious and had no idea! In fairness, it makes me appreciate the non-violent classroom disruptors that I've had to deal with.

NP. I've seen it happen in ES from grades 3-6. Also, I work as an aide in a self-contained Special Ed classroom managing the kind of behaviors that have been mentioned in this thread. You could not pay me enough to do it in a Gen Ed setting and I think it's unrealistic to think anyone could/should be able to do this. In a self-contained room, we have the right physical layout and staff: student ratio to at least reduce the chances that students or staff will be injured during these episodes.

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Anonymous wrote:Another teacher here. I can tell you when parents start calling meeting with admin and making it clear a kid in class is having huge impact, that’s when they address it. Make clear the teacher is doing what they can but your son is still impacted negatively. I have seen this myself; we as teachers can’t do anything about their placement even if we say it’s impacting the other kids but when you get 3-4 parents getting loud about it, it moves the needle.

OP here. This is possibly what got this child moved into a new classroom—parents in his original classroom going to admin. Did not consider that before. So what do they do: just move kids with extreme behavior disruptions from classroom to classroom as infinitum? Why doesn’t a child who needs this much help regulating impulses and emotions have an aide? This must be such drain on teachers and also no real help to the child.

Why doesn't a child who needs this much help have an aide? 1) If a child is new to a school with no paperwork from an old school, new to the country or most often, new to school in general in kindergarten, a school cannot hold a domain meeting requesting an evaluation for 45 school days. 2) A crap ton of documentation and RTI has to happen before most evaluations will happen. 3) A 1:1 aide in a gen ed room, in my school at least, is considered the MOST restrictive environment, even more so than say being placed in an ED/BD room, that is possible. So schools don't like to use that option. 4) Aides are expensive. Districts don't like to pay for them 5) It is VERY difficult to find an aide to work with some of the kids who need them. When that aide has to follow a detailed BIP or crisis plan, it takes tremendous patience. It can also mean that aide putting themself in harm's way each day. How many people are just dying to get paid $11 an hour and get spit on or kicked? And then add in if you have a district that just doesn't want to deal with all this for one reason or the other? It means the kid in question doesn't get the help they need, the other kids and the staff suffers and it is a lose-lose situation.

OP here. I didn't know any of this--thank you. I didn't realize how hard it is for a child to be assigned an aide and how hard it is to find one. What is the answer here? A teacher already stretched thin with the demands of a full classroom, plus at least one or two kids whose needs and behavior dominate their attention--that feels terribly unfair to the teacher, the kids who need the extra assistance, and the rest of the class. My kid says the outburts are loud, sudden, and last a long time--he's on edge waiting for it, even when it isn't happening. I wonder how many other kids in the class feel the same? Not to mention all the hours of instruction interrupted.

Its life in public school. Not all kids are as perfect as yours. Most kids who need attention and supports don't get it and many of us pay a fortune privately in services or have to hire advocates or attorneys and basically sue. You can always transfer to a private.

It's not fair of you to be dismissive of this especially when you don't know OP's financial situation - most of us can't just go find a private school and enroll our child.

Yes, you can.

You must be really out of touch to not understand that most people don't have $20,000 extra lying around to pay private school tuition for a year.

Then move to more affordable housing and cut back your expenses. A Catholic school k-8 is usually around $10K.

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Anonymous wrote:Another teacher here. I can tell you when parents start calling meeting with admin and making it clear a kid in class is having huge impact, that’s when they address it. Make clear the teacher is doing what they can but your son is still impacted negatively. I have seen this myself; we as teachers can’t do anything about their placement even if we say it’s impacting the other kids but when you get 3-4 parents getting loud about it, it moves the needle.

OP here. This is possibly what got this child moved into a new classroom—parents in his original classroom going to admin. Did not consider that before. So what do they do: just move kids with extreme behavior disruptions from classroom to classroom as infinitum? Why doesn’t a child who needs this much help regulating impulses and emotions have an aide? This must be such drain on teachers and also no real help to the child.

Why doesn't a child who needs this much help have an aide? 1) If a child is new to a school with no paperwork from an old school, new to the country or most often, new to school in general in kindergarten, a school cannot hold a domain meeting requesting an evaluation for 45 school days. 2) A crap ton of documentation and RTI has to happen before most evaluations will happen. 3) A 1:1 aide in a gen ed room, in my school at least, is considered the MOST restrictive environment, even more so than say being placed in an ED/BD room, that is possible. So schools don't like to use that option. 4) Aides are expensive. Districts don't like to pay for them 5) It is VERY difficult to find an aide to work with some of the kids who need them. When that aide has to follow a detailed BIP or crisis plan, it takes tremendous patience. It can also mean that aide putting themself in harm's way each day. How many people are just dying to get paid $11 an hour and get spit on or kicked? And then add in if you have a district that just doesn't want to deal with all this for one reason or the other? It means the kid in question doesn't get the help they need, the other kids and the staff suffers and it is a lose-lose situation.

OP here. I didn't know any of this--thank you. I didn't realize how hard it is for a child to be assigned an aide and how hard it is to find one. What is the answer here? A teacher already stretched thin with the demands of a full classroom, plus at least one or two kids whose needs and behavior dominate their attention--that feels terribly unfair to the teacher, the kids who need the extra assistance, and the rest of the class. My kid says the outburts are loud, sudden, and last a long time--he's on edge waiting for it, even when it isn't happening. I wonder how many other kids in the class feel the same? Not to mention all the hours of instruction interrupted.

Its life in public school. Not all kids are as perfect as yours. Most kids who need attention and supports don't get it and many of us pay a fortune privately in services or have to hire advocates or attorneys and basically sue. You can always transfer to a private.

It's not fair of you to be dismissive of this especially when you don't know OP's financial situation - most of us can't just go find a private school and enroll our child.

Yes, you can.

You must be really out of touch to not understand that most people don't have $20,000 extra lying around to pay private school tuition for a year.

Many families earn $40,000 gross before taxes. They have to rely on public schools that their taxes pay for.

If they are earning that then they'd qualify for financial aid.