Husband won’t get vasectomy

[Anonymous]

I think we have this thread every 3 months

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:You take responsibility for your body.

ITA. so men shouldn't tell women whether they should be able to get an abortion or not.

Will the men happily take care of the oops child if she gets pregnant? It takes two. Women can't get pregnant on their own.

No, but you do what you do to keep it from happening. Easy to say OP should do such and such, like no sex until he gets a vasectomy, but that’s quite unrealistic in the real world. Do you think that would be good for her marriage? Maybe it’s great except for this one issue, and it would really blow things to hell.

So can an unplanned/unwanted additional child. It’s quite realistic to have to think about the consequences of your actions. If the OP is set against any more children, she can and should do what is needed to prevent that from happening. Even if it means no sex.

+1, she wants it done, she should do it.

Yep, get out the scissors and start snipping OP!

[Anonymous]

Condoms every time combined with rhythm method (no sex for several days in the middle of your cycle).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:(Shrug) his body, his call.

Go get your tubes tied.

Her body, her choice. She doesn’t want an IUD or her tubes tied.

(Shrug) No sex for him.

Or her.

But, yeah. They both have bodies about which they can make choices.

[Anonymous]

I don’t see the issue. We use condoms.

[Anonymous]

When our 2nd kid was a year old, DH got a vasectomy.

Our sexlife is rocking now because pills used to kill my libido and he and I both hated condoms.

[Anonymous]

Actually I'd do the 180, say great, we'll be having another baby then?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:(Shrug) his body, his call.

Go get your tubes tied.

+1 Get it through your head: he doesn't want to do it. Thankfully, there are many contraception options available.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think we have this thread every 3 months

That's correct. And the people saying "no sex, then" haven't had any regular sex for years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think we have this thread every 3 months

That's correct. And the people saying "no sex, then" haven't had any regular sex for years.

So all those babies were created thorough immaculate conception?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:(Shrug) his body, his call.

Go get your tubes tied.

+1 Get it through your head: he doesn't want to do it. Thankfully, there are many contraception options available.

Condoms or no sex from now on.

Those are the only options if neither party wants more permanent birth control.

[Anonymous]

My DH didn’t want one either. Said I should get my tubes tied, and pulled up research saying it’s more reliable. Then I reminded him, NO. Now it’s your turn. I’ve carried 3 babies to term, had my body morphed and stretched, have been poked and prodded by doctors, had my lady parts torn up, had my breasts manhandled by lactation consultants and nipples bleeding from breastfeeding. NO. It’s YOUR TURN buddy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When our 2nd kid was a year old, DH got a vasectomy.

Our sexlife is rocking now because pills used to kill my libido and he and I both hated condoms.

Me, too. DH was fully willing to get a vasectomy, but I ended up with a csection, and got my tubes tied during that. But he was fully on board with him getting it done. I love that our sex life can be spontaneous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You take responsibility for your body.

ITA. so men shouldn't tell women whether they should be able to get an abortion or not.

Will the men happily take care of the oops child if she gets pregnant? It takes two. Women can't get pregnant on their own.

No, but you do what you do to keep it from happening. Easy to say OP should do such and such, like no sex until he gets a vasectomy, but that’s quite unrealistic in the real world. Do you think that would be good for her marriage? Maybe it’s great except for this one issue, and it would really blow things to hell.

So can an unplanned/unwanted additional child. It’s quite realistic to have to think about the consequences of your actions. If the OP is set against any more children, she can and should do what is needed to prevent that from happening. Even if it means no sex.

+1, she wants it done, she should do it.

What make you think her DH wants another child? From what I can tell, most men seem to barely want one or two, let alone three. Hope he's ready to take care of more children, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You take responsibility for your body.

ITA. so men shouldn't tell women whether they should be able to get an abortion or not.

Will the men happily take care of the oops child if she gets pregnant? It takes two. Women can't get pregnant on their own.

No, but you do what you do to keep it from happening. Easy to say OP should do such and such, like no sex until he gets a vasectomy, but that’s quite unrealistic in the real world. Do you think that would be good for her marriage? Maybe it’s great except for this one issue, and it would really blow things to hell.

I doubt a man who is this selfish and dismissive about birth control doesn’t behave similarly in other aspects of life. Sometimes you need to stand up for yourself.

ITA.. a man who is responsible would be willing to look at it. Dh did because I told him that I spent x number of years dealing with the birth control, and now it's his turn. I said he could use a condom. He didn't like that idea, either, because he says it's not as good. So, he looked at getting a vasectomy.