Husband won’t get vasectomy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My wife promised regular oral finishes, I got the vasectomy and she has kept her word. I love her more now than when we were 25.

What else is she doling out to you. And to think that you are bragging about this. I know that I am right when I demand more from dating. Sheesh.

[Anonymous]

I almost died in childbirth and my DH kindly had a vasectomy while I was recovering the week after in the hospital. No complaints about doing it or the the pain.

[Anonymous]

Then don't get one. He can use condoms or no sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife promised regular oral finishes, I got the vasectomy and she has kept her word. I love her more now than when we were 25.

What else is she doling out to you. And to think that you are bragging about this. I know that I am right when I demand more from dating. Sheesh.

Maybe because you are selfish? Clearly, that ^PP wasn't selfish if he was willing to get a vasectomy.

[Anonymous]

Your husband is the one who gets to decide whether or not he gets a vasectomy. If you decide that you are not interested in participating in a marriage that does not include risk free sex, I suggest you look for another partner who is offering to give you what you are looking for.

I got a vasectomy 2 years ago and consider it to be the worst decision of my life. It's really the only decision I have ever regretted. If my wife had cajoled me into getting the surgery, that would certainly be the end of any real intimacy in our marriage.

Vasectomy leaves about 1 guy out of 50 with permanent nerve damage that urologists do not know how to fix. Imagine feeling like you have an ear infection in your groin every day for the rest of your life. Guys are totally rational to want to search for other options.

Check out www.reddit.com/r/postvasectomypain for hundreds of examples stories.

Ladies, if you really care about your man, you not press him to get a vasectomy. Asking is fine, but pressuring your partner to get surgery they do not want is abuse.

[Anonymous]

Then he uses condoms. You are responsible for your body, and you dont want semen inside your body. Therefore no sex unless he is wearing a condom. He buys them and carries them. As long as he does that, you really cant fault him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:(Shrug) his body, his call.

Go get your tubes tied.

Her body, her choice. She doesn’t want an IUD or her tubes tied.

(Shrug) No sex for him.

No sex for her, either. See the problem? All you ninnies carrying on like this is some great punishment for him aren’t seeing the forest for the trees.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your husband is the one who gets to decide whether or not he gets a vasectomy. If you decide that you are not interested in participating in a marriage that does not include risk free sex, I suggest you look for another partner who is offering to give you what you are looking for.

I got a vasectomy 2 years ago and consider it to be the worst decision of my life. It's really the only decision I have ever regretted. If my wife had cajoled me into getting the surgery, that would certainly be the end of any real intimacy in our marriage.

Vasectomy leaves about 1 guy out of 50 with permanent nerve damage that urologists do not know how to fix. Imagine feeling like you have an ear infection in your groin every day for the rest of your life. Guys are totally rational to want to search for other options.

Check out www.reddit.com/r/postvasectomypain for hundreds of examples stories.

Ladies, if you really care about your man, you not press him to get a vasectomy. Asking is fine, but pressuring your partner to get surgery they do not want is abuse.

Are you serious with this? Try living with incontinence the rest of your life because the pregnancy screwed up your bladder function and pelvic floor. Try raising a kid for 18 years. Both parties have to come to a reasonable agreement on this and given that SHE will be the one to carry a pregnancy and to do most of the work of childrearing, cause let's face it, that's how it goes, the man needs to suck it up and deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:(Shrug) his body, his call.

Go get your tubes tied.

I agree with this but OP should only get her tubes tied if that is what she wants.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your husband is the one who gets to decide whether or not he gets a vasectomy. If you decide that you are not interested in participating in a marriage that does not include risk free sex, I suggest you look for another partner who is offering to give you what you are looking for.

I got a vasectomy 2 years ago and consider it to be the worst decision of my life. It's really the only decision I have ever regretted. If my wife had cajoled me into getting the surgery, that would certainly be the end of any real intimacy in our marriage.

Vasectomy leaves about 1 guy out of 50 with permanent nerve damage that urologists do not know how to fix. Imagine feeling like you have an ear infection in your groin every day for the rest of your life. Guys are totally rational to want to search for other options.

Check out www.reddit.com/r/postvasectomypain for hundreds of examples stories.

Ladies, if you really care about your man, you not press him to get a vasectomy. Asking is fine, but pressuring your partner to get surgery they do not want is abuse.

I sustained pretty horrific nerve damage from birthing and an episiotomy. It took about 2 years to begin to feel anything and sensation is still muted but improving. Don’t give up, it can still improve. Nerve tissue grows slowly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your husband is the one who gets to decide whether or not he gets a vasectomy. If you decide that you are not interested in participating in a marriage that does not include risk free sex, I suggest you look for another partner who is offering to give you what you are looking for.

I got a vasectomy 2 years ago and consider it to be the worst decision of my life. It's really the only decision I have ever regretted. If my wife had cajoled me into getting the surgery, that would certainly be the end of any real intimacy in our marriage.

Vasectomy leaves about 1 guy out of 50 with permanent nerve damage that urologists do not know how to fix. Imagine feeling like you have an ear infection in your groin every day for the rest of your life. Guys are totally rational to want to search for other options.

Check out www.reddit.com/r/postvasectomypain for hundreds of examples stories.

Ladies, if you really care about your man, you not press him to get a vasectomy. Asking is fine, but pressuring your partner to get surgery they do not want is abuse.

I sustained pretty horrific nerve damage from birthing and an episiotomy. It took about 2 years to begin to feel anything and sensation is still muted but improving. Don’t give up, it can still improve. Nerve tissue grows slowly.

Ps. Pelvic floor therapy isn’t just for women. You may seek out a pt for help with this.

[Anonymous]

I'd probably get another IUD because it's going to affect you more than him if you do get pregnant. Ultimately, it's all about not getting pregnant, right? I loved my IUD and wanted another one but the doctor wouldn't prescribe another one because I was 46 and she said I'm probably no longer fertile.

Him being kind of selfish would probably give me pause, though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You take responsibility for your body.

Stop having sex with him until menopause.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:(Shrug) his body, his call.

Go get your tubes tied.

Her body, her choice. She doesn’t want an IUD or her tubes tied.

(Shrug) No sex for him.

No sex for her, either. See the problem? All you ninnies carrying on like this is some great punishment for him aren’t seeing the forest for the trees.

No sex IS. a much greater punishment for men. Do t you read how many men complain about a sexless marriage and how many women don't need to have sex ever again???

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That sucks. What is his reasoning?

Maybe he've looked up stuff?...

Vasectomy May Put Men at Risk for Type of Dementia
CHICAGO --- Northwestern University researchers have discovered men with an unusual form of dementia have a higher rate of vasectomy than men the same age who are cognitively normal. The dementia is Primary Progressive Aphasia (PPA), a neurological disease in which people have trouble recalling and understanding words.

https://www.northwestern.edu/newscenter/stories/2007/02/vasectomy.html

PPA is a very, very rare condition. If that’s what you’re falling back on, I can’t take you seriously.