Never thought I would be that guy - but here I am

[Anonymous]

How old are you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Where did the resentment towards wife stem from?

Day-in, day-out, year-in, year-out daily grind of home, family, kids, money, household, work etc. I don’t feel - and have never felt - that my wife completely accepts me.

So your wife is better than you, you made up a story in your head that she doesn’t accept you and you resent her for the fake story you made up in your head due to your broken self esteem.

[Anonymous]

Well, you know, there are consequences to everything. The consequence of feeling this “alive” with your new attraction is that you will precipitate a divorce and your children will be hurt and resentful of you for the rest of your life. If you don’t want to be one of those guys then don’t be one of those guys. Or be that guy, but take responsibility for the pain you inflict.

[Anonymous]

Yes, you are that guy who screws around on his wife. Congratulations on being a cliche.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, you know, there are consequences to everything. The consequence of feeling this “alive” with your new attraction is that you will precipitate a divorce and your children will be hurt and resentful of you for the rest of your life. If you don’t want to be one of those guys then don’t be one of those guys. Or be that guy, but take responsibility for the pain you inflict.

As much as we hate to believe it, people eventually move on an heal after divorce and kids can get over it.

[Anonymous]

My ex-husband could be the op. I never thought cliches were true, but the older I get the more I see that our marriage/divorce story was anything but unique.

[Anonymous]

I have been the crush in a similar situation. Trust me I’m not perfect and I wouldn’t date someone who left his family devastated because of a crush.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, you know, there are consequences to everything. The consequence of feeling this “alive” with your new attraction is that you will precipitate a divorce and your children will be hurt and resentful of you for the rest of your life. If you don’t want to be one of those guys then don’t be one of those guys. Or be that guy, but take responsibility for the pain you inflict.

As much as we hate to believe it, people eventually move on an heal after divorce and kids can get over it.

Kids grow up and move on. They really have to like the parent to see them more than the obligatory holidays.

Yes they will get over it and move on without you if that is what you want.

[Anonymous]

Find Jesus and pray on it. He’ll help you every strep.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Find Jesus and pray on it. He’ll help you every strep.

It's the cultured response.

[Anonymous]

Read up on the Happiness U-curve. You think that this other woman will make you happy. Just imagine your children finding out and never talking to you again. Is the sex good enough to blow up your relationship with your kids?

https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2014/12/the-real-roots-of-midlife-crisis/382235/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Where did the resentment towards wife stem from?

After he met the new one the resentment toward the old one starts. [/quote

This times 1000

[Anonymous]

"But she's so pretty"
No

I know it's an ad for the Boston Bruins hockey team but it's something like this.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DDpKx4w_NIc

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m lost. Mid-forties, married nearly twenty years, two great kids. Some entrenched resentment in the marriage but I do love my wife. I recently met an amazing woman and feel like I’m falling in love with her. I know proceeding would lead to sadness on all parts, but I haven’t felt this alive in a long time. I don’t know what to do.

The secret to a lasting marriage is learning how to compartmentalize your resentment and come to terms with all that you'll never do, have, or be. The sooner you realize this, the sooner your marriage will last, which is, after all, the point of marriage: to last.

There is no happy. There is only trying to feel better enough to last. Now, get back to work.

Such low expectations for life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Find Jesus and pray on it. He’ll help you every strep.

It's the cultured response.

I think your answer will go viral.