Never thought I would be that guy - but here I am

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Buy yourself a Porsche and get over your mid life crisis. It will be a lot less expensive then a divorce.

Basically this- find a different way to feel more “alive”- whether that’s a fancy car, new hobby etc etc

I’m sure you felt the same way about your wife when you first met- those feelings fade and/or come and go. Not worth it. Work on your marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have you met this “amazing woman” in person? Like you’ve shared the same oxygen? Or is this some online/phone romance? I seem to be hearing about the latter more and more.

#cliche

Yes, we’ve spent time together (and had sex).

[Anonymous]

Douche.

I hope you lose contact with your kids. You don't deserve them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have you met this “amazing woman” in person? Like you’ve shared the same oxygen? Or is this some online/phone romance? I seem to be hearing about the latter more and more.

#cliche

Yes, we’ve spent time together (and had sex).

How did the affair get started?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have you met this “amazing woman” in person? Like you’ve shared the same oxygen? Or is this some online/phone romance? I seem to be hearing about the latter more and more.

#cliche

Yes, we’ve spent time together (and had sex).

How did the affair get started?

We met randomly - instant attraction. It’s still in the beginning phase and I know my choices are to (a) cut and run or (b) continue down this path, which I know would be a no-win.

[Anonymous]

Divorce your wife and let her find a man who really loves her and your kids. The kids deserve a better father than you as well.

[Anonymous]

Hey OP, how bad is it with your wife? Like you know you're gonna split when the kids are grown or what?

[Anonymous]

Op, you are scum

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have you met this “amazing woman” in person? Like you’ve shared the same oxygen? Or is this some online/phone romance? I seem to be hearing about the latter more and more.

#cliche

Yes, we’ve spent time together (and had sex).

OP, in your first post you claim to love your wife. My idea of love involves a lot of respect, enough to get out of the marriage PRIOR to having sex with another person and risking STD's (condom or not) and transmitting them to your wife, who had no choice in the matter because you robbed her of that choice. Stop claiming to be "lost" and grow a set and give your wife the truth of what you've done and let her move on to someone who wouldn't do to her what you've done.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Yes, we’ve spent time together (and had sex).

How did the affair get started?

We met randomly - instant attraction. It’s still in the beginning phase and I know my choices are to (a) cut and run or (b) continue down this path, which I know would be a no-win.

So you’ve already cheated on your wife of 20 years and mother of your two great kids and are just trying to decide if you will be honest about it and leave for the other woman? There is no “but here I am”, you made an active choice to be that guy when you had sex with someone else ...and if that was your go to instead of working on your marriage or asking advice before it became sexual I would say you were always that guy but just didn’t want to think of yourself like that.

[Anonymous]

This is when you start telling her you’ve become unhappy. You know the drill. A touch of gaslighting. Six months later you’ll be free and you can shortly thereafter trot out the new one. Just be fair in the financial settlement.

You’ll have opportunity to have another good 20 years with this new one.

[Anonymous]

Just going to leave this right here . . .

https://www.thecut.com/2019/07/bruce-hay-paternity-trap-maria-pia-shuman-mischa-haider.html

[Anonymous]

Where did the resentment towards wife stem from?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Where did the resentment towards wife stem from?

After he met the new one the resentment toward the old one starts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Where did the resentment towards wife stem from?

Day-in, day-out, year-in, year-out daily grind of home, family, kids, money, household, work etc. I don’t feel - and have never felt - that my wife completely accepts me.