Found nude pics on DHs phone

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You ask him. It's like ripping off a bandaid.

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No. As tempting as it may be to confront, she will tip him off and make him be more cautious and prevent her from finding out everything. If she wants to know the whole truth, she probably won't get it by asking. Look at credit card statements, bank statements, itemized phone bills, browser history, email. Before asking.

She already asked him. Scroll up

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You ask him. It's like ripping off a bandaid.

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No. As tempting as it may be to confront, she will tip him off and make him be more cautious and prevent her from finding out everything. If she wants to know the whole truth, she probably won't get it by asking. Look at credit card statements, bank statements, itemized phone bills, browser history, email. Before asking.

She already asked him. Scroll up

What's done is done. I don't think anyone who recommended she ask him (including me) thought she would do so without first taking screenshots or forwarding the texts to her own phone. But she does know now that he is lying to her, and can decide where she goes from there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH here. ladies.

men will send other men (their freinds) pics of women. sometimes men will save pics on their phone of these women. because Damn. some women are very appealing to look at.

It doesn't mean that we don't find our wives attractive or desirable. Its just a a different woman to look at.

It's like going to a restaurant. Just because we like to look at the desert menu doesn't mean we will ever order food from it.

This is why I don’t send nudes to people I date. No telling where they’ll end up!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You ask him. It's like ripping off a bandaid.

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No. As tempting as it may be to confront, she will tip him off and make him be more cautious and prevent her from finding out everything. If she wants to know the whole truth, she probably won't get it by asking. Look at credit card statements, bank statements, itemized phone bills, browser history, email. Before asking.

She already asked him. Scroll up

Sigh. I understand. Very tempting to confront. She needs to look at the phone bill, contacts, apps, Apple ID if iphone (iMessages and FaceTime use data/WiFi so won't show up on bill). I dont think he would have a pic of some random middle aged woman unless he knew her, but it's possible, I suppose....

[Anonymous]

Document and photo his phone with the pics.

Then ask him or look for more odd behavior.

Then confront later. Be ready for lies and excuses and for hi bahviors to go more underground.

[Anonymous]

Tell your DH that you saved copies of the pics even if you didn't. Leverage

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Document and photo his phone with the pics.

Then ask him or look for more odd behavior.

Then confront later. Be ready for lies and excuses and for hi bahviors to go more underground.

OP already confronted. "I left the house at 5 am and have been at work since 6 am. My DH woke up and is denying there are any such pictures."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You ask him. It's like ripping off a bandaid.

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No. As tempting as it may be to confront, she will tip him off and make him be more cautious and prevent her from finding out everything. If she wants to know the whole truth, she probably won't get it by asking. Look at credit card statements, bank statements, itemized phone bills, browser history, email. Before asking.

She already asked him. Scroll up

What's done is done. I don't think anyone who recommended she ask him (including me) thought she would do so without first taking screenshots or forwarding the texts to her own phone. But she does know now that he is lying to her, and can decide where she goes from there.

He could come up with some excuse about it being a random attachment to a joke text that got saved. Cheaters tend to be good at lying and gaslighting.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You ask him. It's like ripping off a bandaid.

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No. As tempting as it may be to confront, she will tip him off and make him be more cautious and prevent her from finding out everything. If she wants to know the whole truth, she probably won't get it by asking. Look at credit card statements, bank statements, itemized phone bills, browser history, email. Before asking.

She already asked him. Scroll up

What's done is done. I don't think anyone who recommended she ask him (including me) thought she would do so without first taking screenshots or forwarding the texts to her own phone. But she does know now that he is lying to her, and can decide where she goes from there.

He could come up with some excuse about it being a random attachment to a joke text that got saved. Cheaters tend to be good at lying and gaslighting.

+1

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What do I do?

Don't know what you should do but I know what you can expect...



In the future stay out of your partner's phone unless you like being alone.

If there are red flags the phone, location, and your whereabouts will be revealed.

If you're doing wrong in the marriage you're the one who will be alone!

[Anonymous]

Now you know he's lying OP.

At this point I would monitor everything. Unfortunately instead of waiting you've tipped him off. He may abruptly stop whatever he's been up too. Start with the phone records and phone location.

[Anonymous]

Now he’s on to you. I would do a 180 and fake apologize to him for snooping on his phone and say something like, “I know you’d never do something like that.” And then track EVERYTHING. He’s going to expect that you are pissed so be the opposite, it will allow you some time gather info.

[Anonymous]

I feel so stupid. I can’t believe I didn’t save what I saw.

He’s completly denying it saying it is silly that I think he’s cheating and there’s nothing on his phone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel so stupid. I can’t believe I didn’t save what I saw.

He’s completly denying it saying it is silly that I think he’s cheating and there’s nothing on his phone.

He's willing to gaslight you because you saw something on his phone. What does that tell you? You should do whatever you can to gather other evidence. Do his texts show up on an iPad or other device? Can you track his location? As others have said, expenses and schedules are the first place to look.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel so stupid. I can’t believe I didn’t save what I saw.

He’s completly denying it saying it is silly that I think he’s cheating and there’s nothing on his phone.

If he weren’t up to something shady he wouldn’t lie. He would explain the innocent reason.