Spelling daughter's name wrong: Correct? Passive agressive?

[Anonymous]

I am not someone who is attentive to details. I would't notice this myself. Especially as autocorrect writes it half the time.

[Anonymous]

People do this all the time for me. People I have known for 25 years label me Sara instead of Sarah in writing. It means nothing, just that they know me more in person than in writing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mother would totally do this to protest that she doesn't like the way we spell it. In fact she mispronounces her own nieces' name because she doesn't like the way it sounds.

My ex mil mispronounced my name on purpose for my entire marriage. Some people really are very petty and will throw jabs anywhere they can.

I had a coworker who intentionally called me by my married name post divorce, even though I had changed it. I used to ignore it because I knew the type of person she was and was clear it was being done on purpose. One day I decided to say something and she looked completely satisfied with having gotten under my skin. The ‘error’ immediately stopped.

[Anonymous]

DD has a name that can be spelled with 2 of the same letter or 1. People often get it wrong, and one person does it in texts immediately after I have spelled it correctly. It just makes me laugh. I don't think it is done on purpose.

While I try to always get names right, I'm sure I don't all the time. I don't try to offend people and I try not to assume others are trying to offend me. My SIL, on the other hand, is rude if you spell a name wrong and I find that behavior worse than the person who made the mistake.

[Anonymous]

I’m 35 and my own father has been doing this my whole life. I think it’s funny and it’s never once bothered me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In defense of the passive aggressive theory, there’s a guy at my job who had been showing interest in me and I rebuffed him. Prior to the rebuffing he spelled my name properly, however, post rebuffing he has begun misspelling it. My name has one ‘n’ in it and he now adds two, lol. I won’t correct him because I know it’s intentional.

If this guy's name was, say, Rob, I'd be adding a "b" every time he did this to me. Eventually, "Thanks for the information, Robbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbb; great having you on the team!"

[Anonymous]

I honestly would not notice the difference OP. Suspect she may know someone with the name spelled another way. I've had to work really hard to retrain myself when I've had something similar happen and it's taken years.

[Anonymous]

My child always gets his name spelled wrong. There are often multiple ways to spell it or auto checker is fixing it. Be glad she's calling her the right name. My child always gets called the wrong name and then gets yelled at by teachers for not answering.

[Anonymous]

I have two friends who are Brian and one who is Bryan. I swear to God I cannot remember which one is which. I'm getting it wrong constantly.

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Anonymous wrote:obviously she is not a person who pays attention to detail.
my name is Michelle with two Ls. that's how my mom spelled it. some people just insist on using only one L. even in emails responding to me where I have signed my name. maybe they know someone who has just one L. who cares?
some people just don't care to take the time/are too wrapped up in their own life to notice those details and I make a mental note of who they are. may come in handy someday.
I would tell her if it really bothers you but otherwise, just carry on. her mistake.

Same! People don’t notice, OP. My name has one L and one I at the end...and people often spell it with two Ls and/or an IE at the end.

They don’t pay attention. I wouldn’t worry about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:no one cares or notices the exact spelling of your child's name. it only matters to you. what difference does it make

OP here. You're all right, I see that, I really do. I don't notice as much if she texts FIRST to see if "Lindsay" wants to come over. But if I JUST texted "Lindsey" and it is right there in front of her...I just don't understand.

She MAY be entering it as you want on her phone but auto-correct changes it. Until she "adds" your version of the name to her list, auto-correct will continue to "correct" it.

I have a name like your daughter's. I blame my parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In defense of the passive aggressive theory, there’s a guy at my job who had been showing interest in me and I rebuffed him. Prior to the rebuffing he spelled my name properly, however, post rebuffing he has begun misspelling it. My name has one ‘n’ in it and he now adds two, lol. I won’t correct him because I know it’s intentional.

If this guy's name was, say, Rob, I'd be adding a "b" every time he did this to me. Eventually, "Thanks for the information, Robbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbb; great having you on the team!"

Hahahaha!

[Anonymous]

I have a friend who is either Marleen or Marlene. I get it right about half the time.

[Anonymous]

Move on OP

[Anonymous]

It's Madeleine/Madeline I bet.