Spelling daughter's name wrong: Correct? Passive agressive?

[Anonymous]

I know severa moms named Kristin/Kristen and I can never remember / always double check - and I have one of these names too. I don’t mind when people misspell my name unless it’s a close friend / relative.

[Anonymous]

I think I'd only care if it changes the name. But if a normal person would read both and say them basically the same, I don't think I'd care.

And I'm a grammar Nazi. People just have other priorities in life. The spelling of my child's name on a text message probably isn't high on the list.

They may even know other people with the other spelling, and so they've internalized the spelling of that word that way.

[Anonymous]

I have to be careful because I have a best friend I text with named Kristen but my boss in Kristin and even when I type Kristin, my phone auto corrects to Kristen because it's the contact I use the most. Very annoying.

Just like how the iPhone will randomly capitalize the word Time because I have the contact Tim in my phone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lindsay is one of those names you just won't remember. Same with Kristen or Kirsten, Kristine, Christine or something entirely different. These names are the ones i wanted to avoid when naming my child. It's like the name Tom, you can't get that wrong, it's TOM.

Thom Tillis, among other Thoms, says “hold my beer.”

[Anonymous]

Mention it once, then let it go.


I did have a good friend, Rebecca, who always spelled my name wrong. There are 2 forms, one with an O, the other with A. I spell mine with an A. She always used O. So I started using Rebecco. After a few times, she caught on LOL

[Anonymous]

I'm a Laura. People call me Lauren so often that I don't care. At all. I correct them to prevent THEM from later becoming embarrassed, but that's it. It doesn't have to have any deeper meaning.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lindsey is boy spelling

Lindsay is girl

Francis is boy

Frances is girl

Marion is boy

Marian is girl

Not that hard.

These “rules” can change over time and not all parents follow them.

Not that hard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't tell the difference anyway. Somewhere she saw it spelled her way and why on earth is this an issue? Nobody pays attention. For example, my good friends is Cindy, now DD has a friend who is Sidney, and another similar spelling. It has all jumbled up. Also about Dyland, and Dillan, Haley and Hailey, people do not look at every letter, they read it by memory mostly. She knows somebody with her spelling.

You make a good point re: Haley & Hailey, etc but just wanted to point out that Dillon is an Irish last name and is usually spelled Dylan when used as a first name. Dillan is a misspelling of either the last name or the traditional first name & “Dyland” is just a made up version of that traditional name with a d tacked onto the end of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Lindsey is boy spelling

Lindsay is girl

Francis is boy

Frances is girl

Marion is boy

Marian is girl

Not that hard.

These “rules” can change over time and not all parents follow them.

Not that hard.

DP. I agree with the PP that those are the rules and they're pretty well known and easy to follow. If people want to deviate from those accepted norms then they need to accept the consequences.

As a child, if your name is "misspelled" according to the accepted norms then you can always change it. I know someone who did that. And in any case, blame your parents, not the innocents.

[Anonymous]

I have at least 10 Aidan/Aiden boys in my world and I can never remember which uses which spelling.

I wish it had a nickname.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have at least 10 Aidan/Aiden boys in my world and I can never remember which uses which spelling.

I wish it had a nickname.

They could be Denny- nice nickname for a boy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My daughter (5) has had a best friend since early on in the daycare days. We see the family socially every few weeks for play dates, birthday parties, etc.

The mom always, ALWAYS spells my daughter's name incorrectly. It's not an unusual name--think correct spelling is Lindsey and this mom always spells it Lindsay.

Obviously, not a big deal. But we text a lot to make arrangements, and why would it go like this?

Me: Lindsey is eager to see Julia! How about next Sunday at our place at 10?

Her: Julia would love to see Lindsay next weekend!

Birthday cards, invitations, texts, emails, EVERYTHING is misspelled, even though she sees her name in writing a LOT. Their cubbies were next to each other in daycare.

Should I say something? Or (being paranoid here), is this intentional/passive agressive? I cannot imagine why, but why would you respond to a text where you saw the correct spelling two seconds ago with the incorrect spelling?

I have a name that is often spelled with a double R. My brother has a name often spelled with a single R. My name has one R. His has two R's. Our maternal grandmother always spelled mine with two R's and my brother's name with one R. I know it was pointed out/she "discovered" the correct spelling a time or two but the habit was ingrained.

NOT a big deal.

Sometimes it's the kind of thing where you just can never remember: a or e? i or y? single L or two L's? sen or son at the end? There are a few of those I can never remember even though I may look them up to make sure I get it right (one is a cousin I send holiday cards and occasional short letters to fairly regularly, still have to look it up).

In other words, you could bring it to her attention. It might change how she spells it, or it might not. Means nothing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Lindsay is one of those names you just won't remember. Same with Kristen or Kirsten, Kristine, Christine or something entirely different. These names are the ones i wanted to avoid when naming my child. It's like the name Tom, you can't get that wrong, it's TOM.

Thom Tillis, among other Thoms, says “hold my beer.”

I know a Thom. And a Johnathon. Went to college with a guy who had a last name that can be a first name, and both first and last names could be spelled different ways. He'd alternate spellings to avoid bill collectors for things like magazine subscriptions.

[Anonymous]

My name is Lyndsay and I've learned to ignore it when people spell it differently. Sure, it's annoying when people respond to an email where they can clearly see my name and still get it wrong, but it's not worth getting upset over. I highly doubt anyone is doing it to be a jerk.

[Anonymous]

I’m a terrible speller, esp with names. If it bothers people a lot, I’ll tend to stop writing to them. Seems like they really don’t want to hear from me if the misspellings cause them grief. I’d rather write to those who accept me & my imperfections. And yes, I do try to get it right.